"You sounds like a three-time divorcee!"

Glib Gurl

Glib Gurl

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So, I was talking to my sister in law about my current dating issues and she made the following observations about me and my view of men:

- "You sound like you think all men go to the School of Jerkdom and play the same game."

- "If you think all men are jerks, then why are you even bothering to look for one? You're wasting your time and money."

- "You sounds like a three-time divorcee!"

This all hit me like a ton of bricks. Wow.

Not sure what I'm asking for here . . . just wanted to share.
 
CurlyMoo said:
Do you think this is true? Think about it.......
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It's ALL true.

I have an incredibly low opinion of men.

My experience has taught me that 99% of men only pay attention to a woman if they want to have sex with her. That's it. The remaining 1% are socially inept or otherwise too damaged to have much to offer.

Therefore, you have to go through the motions of all of this game playing in order to "win."

:nono:
 
Hi Glib. Well I guess your SIL was on the money. Hell its not like your feelings about men have no merit. You don't have to play the game though. You can chart your own course and still win. You got the prize and they have to play to win it. You can sit on the side lines and allow the best man to win.
 
firecracker said:
Hi Glib. Well I guess your SIL was on the money. Hell its not like your feelings about men have no merit. You don't have to play the game though. You can chart your own course and still win. You got the prize and they have to play to win it. You can sit on the side lines and allow the best man to win.
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Thank you so much firecracker - this comment really spoke to me.
 
Please don't let your beliefs about men block a good man from entering and staying in your life.The thing about your beliefs is that it is not true for every man..only some men. It is the same for men that don't think very highly of women based on bad past experiences. I was in a very tumultuous relationship with a man that held these beliefs about women..and was very paranoid about being used, hurt, rejected that he sabotaged the relationship and caused me to reject him. He genuinely thought that I was too good to be true. Of course, years later, when he looked objectively at our relationship..he saw me for who I was...and regretted it with his whole life. I had already moved on by then.

Please don't ruin a good thing before it has a chance to happen.
 
..I read your thread..I'm sensing a bit of a lack of confidence in your dating. What he did didn't sound so bad...maybe I would have a yellow flag in the back of my mind, but I would still be open to seeing him again..but I would fall back and let him pursue it.

I also agree about the no texting thing. It is way too casual if you want to develop a committed relationship. I know we are in a different age, but a man should call a woman he is dating. Texting is too easy..and should be reserved for after being exclusive.
 
Glib Gurl said:
It's ALL true.

I have an incredibly low opinion of men.

My experience has taught me that 99% of men only pay attention to a woman if they want to have sex with her. That's it. The remaining 1% are socially inept or otherwise too damaged to have much to offer.

Therefore, you have to go through the motions of all of this game playing in order to "win."

:nono:
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call me crazy, but isnt the response to this OF COURSE???? why would a man be interested in a woman he didnt want to have sex with? did you mean ONLY have sex with her and nothing else?
 
meesch said:
call me crazy, but isnt the response to this OF COURSE???? why would a man be interested in a woman he didnt want to have sex with? did you mean ONLY have sex with her and nothing else?
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I was wondering this too. I was never interested in men I didn't want to have sex with. Why would I try to date someone if I had no physical interest in them?
 
I usually don't try to give advice on the interweb, but I'm gonna have to agree with some of the other posts and say don't bother with men right now. If you are expecting nothing from men you will get nothing from them. If you want a good man you have to believe that there are men out there who have the qualities you want. Otherwise you are wasting your time and setting yourself up for heartache.
 
AB200 said:
I usually don't try to give advice on the interweb, but I'm gonna have to agree with some of the other posts and say don't bother with men right now. If you are expecting nothing from men you will get nothing from them. If you want a good man you have to believe that there are men out there who have the qualities you want. Otherwise you are wasting your time and setting yourself up for heartache.
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I hear what you are saying. My friends have told me the same thing. I don't think that I have time to sit out the dating scene right now . . . my age (34) is one of the things that is causing me so much anxiety. I can't do anything about lost time. I can't do anything about the "marketplace." But the thing I can change is my attitude.

Thanks for your feedback.
 
I've heard from a man that a woman told him that she wasn't attracted to him physically but that she was attracted sexually. Still scratching my head on that one-
 
Glib, I've been here for a few years and I from reading some of your posts, you don't really come off as someone who wants to be married or in a long term relationship. If that's not a priority, that's cool too. I don't think that's something you can force because you end up with someone of low quality. I don't think waiting around is the answer. A change of outlook and approaching dating with a more positive outlook would do wonders.

Is being in a relationship important to you?
 
manter26 said:
Glib, I've been here for a few years and I from reading some of your posts, you don't really come off as someone who wants to be married or in a long term relationship. If that's not a priority, that's cool too. I don't think that's something you can force because you end up with someone of low quality. I don't think waiting around is the answer. A change of outlook and approaching dating with a more positive outlook would do wonders.

Is being in a relationship important to you?
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I think consciously she wants one, but perhaps she has some subconscious blocks as well. She once returned a guy's phone call with an email. Who does that?
 
Glib Gurl said:
It's ALL true.

I have an incredibly low opinion of men.

My experience has taught me that 99% of men only pay attention to a woman if they want to have sex with her. That's it. The remaining 1% are socially inept or otherwise too damaged to have much to offer.

Therefore, you have to go through the motions of all of this game playing in order to "win."

:nono:
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Doesn't sounds like a 3x divorcee because you may never make to the alter with these types of options. Glib I feel the same way, which is why I put the brakes on internet dating. Seems to be loserville for the socially inept.

But even offline men and women have this disconnect because we don't know how to be real with each other. I've been stood up and dissed too and I've done my share of that myself. I simply don't like most of these men, they just seem too pussyfied, inept, spineless, mechanical and lacking substance.

I know this can't be all men, so I am backing away from dating to work my own insecurities and find other ways of meeting the type of men that I like. Because the common denominator in all this is me. I need to choose better venues to meet the type of men I like.

There is a guy I tried to get a date with but all he wants to do is masturbate on cam while I watch. All the while claiming he wants to seriously date a woman. But he cancels our dates. I stopped watching, he stopped contacting me. I told my sister that the last guy who blew me off after saying he wanted to see me again for our 3rd date made me feel like there was something wrong with me. She said, "Girl!! There ain't nothing wrong with you!!" Glib there is nothing wrong with you! We are going to have to wade through this until we strike gold.

Good luck to you and the rest of us.
 
^^^^Damn at the chicken choking ova da innanet dude. CurlyMoo how da hellz did you even get to see all ah that?

I am not understand how any woman would end up in that position without encouraging or accepting sex talk prematurely.
 
firecracker said:
^^^^Damn at the chicken choking ova da innanet dude. @CurlyMoo how da hellz did you even get to see all ah that?

I am not understand how any woman would end up in that position without encouraging or accepting sex talk prematurely.
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Actually I never encouraged it but we did have premature sex talk. Which I tried to avoid. I didn't like that he kept doing it. I complained about it and realized it wasn't going beyond that. We don't communicate as much because I realized it's all he wants to do and that's not the type of guy I want.

If we were in a relationship, everyone now and then would be fun but before a date. NAH! Anyway, it's a lesson learned.:yep:
 
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