"You Must Not Get Perms No Mo"

Ishtar

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So I was getting my 2nd wig done earlier today. This is what I'll be wearing to stretch from week 10 to 14. I was sitting in the chair while my cousin braided back my hair and she commented " You must not get perms no' mo'"

I wasn't sure how to respond. I knew my roots were looking thick but that's no issue with wigs. The stockingcap does all the hard work for you. I think I managed " Well, I'm trying to use texturizers...blah,blah,blah (Charlie Brown's teacher)".

But my cousin didn't give me a hard time about it. However, the rest of my family does. The first time I went natural my sick aunt looked at me and ran her hands across my head and said " I want your hair to lay down."

For the past week my mom has been going on and on about how I need a perm because I'm taking a trip to Texas soon. She says " You need to take care of yourself and the way you look.":nono:

Oh and boys :kisses:love the long, wet n' wavy looking locks. (Okay not all of them. When I first transitioned this brother with armpit length dreadlocks asked me what was under my scarf. I told him it was all natural and he nodded with a smile.)Anyway...

Thing is... my hair is combed. I brush and oil just about everynight. In the morning I put it in a bun( wet down those straggly hairs), add a bit of gel to smooth the edges, and the tight wave pattern in the front doesn't bother me. Why does it bother everyone else? How is it that such a tiny amount of growth makes them uncomfortable?:nuts:

I like curls, waves, coils, and texture. It is beautiful.

I was kind of angry with myself before for always wanting to throw in the towel and reach for a box of relaxer. Now I learning to work with the texture of my hair. To work with it, to accept it, and to love it. Slowly its becoming a good thing. Black hair is not wash n go hair ( okay there are exceptions). It's full, it's puffed up, it's high, and it demands attention. And most importantly it's mine. It says look at me. Well now everyone's looking.:yep:

Unlike my past posts I'm not really asking for advice. Just postin to get it out of me.:rolleyes:
 
Good for you! You gotta vent. I been there done that...Enjoy your beautiful hair...shake them haters off. Everyone is not convinced about the beauty of Natural hair...Many will never be. It is what it is...And thats fine too!
 
Feel Better?

I think you will find family have the worst opinion of natural hair and they are the most honest about.

I always ask my mother. Did God make a mistake when I was created? No? Ok well you act like he did when you talk about my natural hair.:nono:

She will roll her eyes and giggle but it makes her shut up about my hair:yep:

Unlike my past posts I'm not really asking for advice. Just postin to get it out of me.:rolleyes:
 
So I was getting my 2nd wig done earlier today. This is what I'll be wearing to stretch from week 10 to 14. I was sitting in the chair while my cousin braided back my hair and she commented " You must not get perms no' mo'"

I wasn't sure how to respond. I knew my roots were looking thick but that's no issue with wigs. The stockingcap does all the hard work for you. I think I managed " Well, I'm trying to use texturizers...blah,blah,blah (Charlie Brown's teacher)".

But my cousin didn't give me a hard time about it. However, the rest of my family does. The first time I went natural my sick aunt looked at me and ran her hands across my head and said " I want your hair to lay down."

For the past week my mom has been going on and on about how I need a perm because I'm taking a trip to Texas soon. She says " You need to take care of yourself and the way you look.":nono:

Oh and boys :kisses:love the long, wet n' wavy looking locks. (Okay not all of them. When I first transitioned this brother with armpit length dreadlocks asked me what was under my scarf. I told him it was all natural and he nodded with a smile.)Anyway...

Thing is... my hair is combed. I brush and oil just about everynight. In the morning I put it in a bun( wet down those straggly hairs), add a bit of gel to smooth the edges, and the tight wave pattern in the front doesn't bother me. Why does it bother everyone else? How is it that such a tiny amount of growth makes them uncomfortable?:nuts:

I like curls, waves, coils, and texture. It is beautiful.

I was kind of angry with myself before for always wanting to throw in the towel and reach for a box of relaxer. Now I learning to work with the texture of my hair. To work with it, to accept it, and to love it. Slowly its becoming a good thing. Black hair is not wash n go hair ( okay there are exceptions). It's full, it's puffed up, it's high, and it demands attention. And most importantly it's mine. It says look at me. Well now everyone's looking.:yep:

Unlike my past posts I'm not really asking for advice. Just postin to get it out of me.:rolleyes:

tell everybody to kiss your butt..

I honestly told my mother..I don't care what you think....don't tell me what to do with my hair....blah blah blah..I told her...you knew I was growing out my perm, what did you expect my hair to look like....and when I said that she had this look on her face....

now she compliments it....
 
I love the last part of OP's post too, if natural hair could be sold in a bottle that would be a great advertisement.
 
Thanks ladies. I feel much better now. I'm not trying to hear what other people think about my hair anymore.
 
The title of this thread is funny. lol Yes just do you. Its your hair and your life. It is funny how family members think you are letting yourself go just because you aren't straigtening your hair.
 
I hope PoohBear comes into this thread... I remember when she was transitioning back in 2005 or so, her family gave her such a hard time. But now she BCed and her natural hair has grown out she gets nothing but compliments. I'm so happy things finally turned around for her and the same will happen to you soon. So stick to your guns and you will be happy that you did :) Good luck!
 
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