BeautifulFlower
Well-Known Member
I have been conflicted for a while whether it was right for me to make a list of qualities I wanted in a person for the following reasons:
So I came across this article yesterday entitled:Find the partner you want: Make a list and check it twice http://boston.personals.yahoo.com/us/static/relationships_partner
It instructs to make 5 lists:
- 6 Must Haves or The Deal Breakers
- 10 Very Importants
- 6 Must Nots
- Wouldn't It Be Nice If
- Envisioning 5 Scenarios
I followed the instructions and compiled a thorough document. The results amazed me.
I used my list and began to look back on my boyfriends that I thought I would marry. Came to find out, based on my MUST HAVES alone, they all score 3 out of 6. They wouldn't even make the cut. WOW, what was I thinking. I am grateful for the experience though.
It is also liberating because I don't have to second guess myself about them. I know because they dont even have the top 6 most important (and uncompromising) qualities I require, I can move on with no regrets. I also have confidence that THE RIGHT ONE is around the corner. And now, I can clearly identify him.
I encourage you all to complete these list if you have not. It was a lot better than the long extensive random list I used to make.
http://boston.personals.yahoo.com/us/static/relationships_partner
- Limits God
- Closes my mind to other possibilities
So I came across this article yesterday entitled:Find the partner you want: Make a list and check it twice http://boston.personals.yahoo.com/us/static/relationships_partner
It instructs to make 5 lists:
- 6 Must Haves or The Deal Breakers
- 10 Very Importants
- 6 Must Nots
- Wouldn't It Be Nice If
- Envisioning 5 Scenarios
I followed the instructions and compiled a thorough document. The results amazed me.
I used my list and began to look back on my boyfriends that I thought I would marry. Came to find out, based on my MUST HAVES alone, they all score 3 out of 6. They wouldn't even make the cut. WOW, what was I thinking. I am grateful for the experience though.
It is also liberating because I don't have to second guess myself about them. I know because they dont even have the top 6 most important (and uncompromising) qualities I require, I can move on with no regrets. I also have confidence that THE RIGHT ONE is around the corner. And now, I can clearly identify him.
I encourage you all to complete these list if you have not. It was a lot better than the long extensive random list I used to make.
http://boston.personals.yahoo.com/us/static/relationships_partner