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If i was 16 yrs old.....
Truly.
There is no reason that this could be somewhere to take someone for a date.
If i was 16 yrs old.....
Miss Brown you're killing meYou sound JUST like my best friend!
I'm supposed to be studying, so I'll give you the cliffs notes version.
I met a cute guy at work 2 months ago, he's been trying to talk to me ever since. Finally gave him the number a few days ago becaue he seemed nice and respectful.
We agreed to get together tomorrow when I finish school. Tonight on the phone I asked where exactly we were going to go since he suggested we do something in his area (I'm still new to the city). I wanted to make it clear that I was NOT going to his home.
Then he tells me, the mall.............. That was me on the phone, I was so utterly flabbergasted that I was at a complete loss for words. He was like, hello? hello? Anyway, I told him I might not be able to make it, and that I would let him know tomorrow.
He doesn't have a car, and I don't know anything about his financial situation except that he is still finishing up school (business) and he works security.
Either way, I think the mall is a very un-creative and juvenile idea for a first date...
Update:
So, after reading the responses here I decided to find out what exactly he planned to do at the mall before I flat out said, no (thank-you ).
I called just before class, and he said we could just walk around etc, I later found out that the mall has NO movie theatre as I had wrongly assumed. When I told him I wasn't feeling that idea he suggested that we go to his house and chill instead ......
After all that was vetoed he said that he would come up with a better idea and text me with it while I was in class. I hung up and promptly added his number to the list of "Do Not Answers" in my phone.
I just got a text asking for a raincheck because of the weather and saying he'll call me later on. Mmmhmmm.
Another one for the Loser Files ladies... Next, please!
Update:
So, after reading the responses here I decided to find out what exactly he planned to do at the mall before I flat out said, no (thank-you ).
I called just before class, and he said we could just walk around etc, I later found out that the mall has NO movie theatre as I had wrongly assumed. When I told him I wasn't feeling that idea he suggested that we go to his house and chill instead ......
After all that was vetoed he said that he would come up with a better idea and text me with it while I was in class. I hung up and promptly added his number to the list of "Do Not Answers" in my phone.
I just got a text asking for a raincheck because of the weather and saying he'll call me later on. Mmmhmmm.
Another one for the Loser Files ladies... Next, please!
ha! He probably wanted you to come to his house to play video games.
Ok?Or expected OP to bring the movie or look at his startling collection of ghetto movies.....complete with a collector's edition of ScarFace while he feels her up.
Update:
So, after reading the responses here I decided to find out what exactly he planned to do at the mall before I flat out said, no (thank-you ).
I called just before class, and he said we could just walk around etc, I later found out that the mall has NO movie theatre as I had wrongly assumed. When I told him I wasn't feeling that idea he suggested that we go to his house and chill instead ......
After all that was vetoed he said that he would come up with a better idea and text me with it while I was in class. I hung up and promptly added his number to the list of "Do Not Answers" in my phone.
I just got a text asking for a raincheck because of the weather and saying he'll call me later on. Mmmhmmm.
Another one for the Loser Files ladies... Next, please!
Yeah if I was 12 and he was picking me up on his Huffy.
Ri-damn-diculous.
Hell no, he couldn't take me to no friggin mall.
I'm finding that these dudes out are straight up LAZY and don't wanna put forth any real effort into a woman they're interested in and this to me is just another sorry *** example of that. They want all the perks without doing any of the work.
I hear you... I can't say anything about the online thing because I don't do that, but I could see how a mall would be a safe meeting place.Yes this guy is lame-O.
But, my initial response, depending on the situation would be yes to a date at the mall. THe situation being if you are meeting someone for the first time, like a online date. Most malls have at least one decent restaurant or a decent restaurant nearby. And then if you are feeling him some more why not walk and talk....
Yeah if I was 12 and he was picking me up on his Huffy.
If i was 16 yrs old.....
THANK YOU!! So many men are lazy and don't want to even TRY to court you. They want to jump straight into sex and home cooked meals.
WHATEVA NEGRO.
Ri-damn-diculous.
Hell no, he couldn't take me to no friggin mall.
I'm finding that these dudes out are straight up LAZY and don't wanna put forth any real effort into a woman they're interested in and this to me is just another sorry *** example of that. They want all the perks without doing any of the work.
I hear you... in his defence though, he is in the process of buying a home.
Would I go on a first date at a coffee shop? Sure.
Would I go on a first date to a museum? Sure.
Would I go on a first date by strolling through the park in the spring or summer? Sure.
Would I go on a first date to the mall?
Eh. Not likely.
And it's not because it's a cheap date. I don't mind cheap dates, and actually find them more fun and laid back than more expensive dates at times.
It's because this kind of date doesn't really demonstrate much thought. The other dates do.
On the one hand, sure, you can have conversations about clothes and stuff you find in the mall, but, it's not really an intimate or thoughtful date.