Would you be upset if your good friend was trying to befriend you ex

Would it bother you?

  • Yes

    Votes: 77 92.8%

  • No

    Votes: 6 7.2%
  • Total voters
    83
Yes. This actually happened to me. She secretly started dating him. She was like a sister to me. She's definitely not who I thought she was. We are no longer friends.
 
I sure would be. It kind of depends on the ex though. Most of my exes I could not care less about, but the ones I had a serious relationship/ close bond to are still my friends and I would feel totally betrayed. My college roomie started hanging out with a recent and very dear ex of mine over summer break while I wasn't in town and I felt so betrayed by both. She knew exactly what she was doing audit was funny because the whole time he and I were together she talked badly about him and tried to convince me why he was horrible for me. Guess she just wanted him for herself. Our friendship ended shortly after. He's since apologized and cut contact with her and we talk from time to time.

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Yes!!!!! I cut all my exes off after the end of a relationship so that includes no contact with any of my friends or family.
 
If the relationship had been serious, yes. Plus, men love to talk about how "crazy" their exes are. If she is trying to get in good with ex, she will believe anything and I don't want their stank attitudes back-washing into my current social circle.
 
I can't think of a situation where I'd be okay with this unless it was a long time ago and I ended the relationship. Still I'd rather her tell me than find out on the back end.
 
I would be upset if they weren't friends before. If we were all friends before the breakup and she wanted to maintain a relationship, I wouldn't mind.
 
This happen to me. My ex bestfriend became friends with my ex to try and get back at me in a friendship spat.:nono: She didn't sleep with him but she gave him to a woman who despised me and I despised her. I didn't care,she could taste me all she wanted too. :look:
 
If after all the nonsense my good friends know of my ex, one of them would actually want him?..shoot more power to her

I would cut her loose not b/c she wanted my ex, but b/c I would assume she was some sort of masochist and I don't hang around crazy people.
 
If we were still friends, yes. If we were not friends anymore, no. It would make me wonder if they always had a thing for each other but sometimes life is just like that.

Although, SOUL FOOD was just a movie it did bother me that Vivica married Vanessa's ex-man. I know they dated briefly but............
 
FemmeFatale said:
Would any of you let her know that you're aware or just keep it to yourself and change the dynamic of the friendship?
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FemmeFatale, I say what I feel, so I would tell her. Not rude (of course) but I would let her know my feelings on it. If it changed the dynamic of our relationship, we were never friends to begin with. You never lose friends, you only find out who your true ones are. :)
 
^^^Unfortunately, because women are competive and often times think they are better than the next woman. They rationalize men's poor treatment of women - He wouldn't treat me that way, etc.

What would bother me more is a so-called friend keeping a decision to befriend my ex a secret. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
 
All of my "good" friends know that's a no-no. Regardless of when or why we broke up. That person wouldn't be a friend of mines trying to be friends with a guy I use to be in relationship with.
 
Nope, that wouldn't upset me at all, especially in the age of FB. But I don't have any friends that would befriend my exes, they don't like them enough.
 
If she was sneaky about it, I wouldn't trust her. When I consider someone a friend, I trust them 100%. I'm completely open and don't hide things from them. And I deserve that same respect. They can kick rocks together off into the sunset
 
I could see BFF and my closest cousin doing this. I don't plan on having any man near them. :look: Mostly cause they're the selfish type, always need a man's attention, competitive.
 
FemmeFatale said:
I'm speculating but I've heard her gush about other people's men or exes wanting her, smh.
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Girl, run!! My cousin takes pride in the same thing. I'm sure she's slept with all her friend's men. Don't be around someone like that if you can help it.
 
Yes I believe thats just a territory and line you don't cross into. And I mean why would they want to be friends if I'm no longer with him--wouldn't make any type of sense to me. Of ALL the men in the world if my friend was to pick my ex to befriend or find a need to be friends with then she has lost her mind and I would leave both of them alone. She really wouldn't be any friend of mine by doing something like that.
 
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