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Why don't we share? (a little long)
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sunnieb
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When I first discovered the hair boards, I was so excited and wanted to share with every woman I knew!
However, I got tired of the
erplexed look when I told them I was a member of a hair board. Plus, most people don't want to put in the effort to have healthy hair.
They just want to buy a product, pop a pill, or go to a stylist weekly. I know some women who don't even wash their own hair.
However, I got tired of the
erplexed look when I told them I was a member of a hair board. Plus, most people don't want to put in the effort to have healthy hair. They just want to buy a product, pop a pill, or go to a stylist weekly. I know some women who don't even wash their own hair.
mischka
shrinkage.
I've shared the things I've learned about haircare with my sisters and mother since I don't have too many female friends. And even after sharing, even after seeing my hair flourish, even after my hair has grown longer than all of theirs put together, they still don't seem to want to change their hair practices 
... despite me telling them how little I now do to my hair (to "get it to grow") they still think there's some other magic formula or product that can do it for them... they still think they don't REALLY have to change anything from their hair processes now, they still think there's some way around having to do something new...
So I don't really bother anymore. It must be something that people have to decide on their own. I RAVED to my best friend about how good I felt wearing my big natural fro and she argued me up and down about how she just liked a weave better and she couldn't go natural because her hair was this or that...
heifer went natural a couple months later and she couldn't be happier now... so go figure.
... despite me telling them how little I now do to my hair (to "get it to grow") they still think there's some other magic formula or product that can do it for them... they still think they don't REALLY have to change anything from their hair processes now, they still think there's some way around having to do something new... So I don't really bother anymore. It must be something that people have to decide on their own. I RAVED to my best friend about how good I felt wearing my big natural fro and she argued me up and down about how she just liked a weave better and she couldn't go natural because her hair was this or that...
heifer went natural a couple months later and she couldn't be happier now... so go figure.
Vashti
New Member
I've never had a problem with women telling me where they go to get their hair done. However, I do experience the 
look when they ask me how I got my hair to grow out and I try to tell them about healthy hair practices. If any one ever asks me about my hair care/growth I still tell them. Most don't really care but there's always the chance that the information will rattle and knock about in someone's brain for awhile and they may eventually begin to apply the info. You never know.
look when they ask me how I got my hair to grow out and I try to tell them about healthy hair practices. If any one ever asks me about my hair care/growth I still tell them. Most don't really care but there's always the chance that the information will rattle and knock about in someone's brain for awhile and they may eventually begin to apply the info. You never know.
crr0121
New Member
I'm quick to share info with anyone that wants to know when it comes to haircare. I don't see why not. If they ask, I will tell them where I get my hair trimmed and tell them about LHCF and healthy hair care practices. I don't go to a stylist but even if I did, I would tell them where I got my hair done. If my stylist is my "homie" I would be helping her get more customers. I'm not afraid someone's gonna come steal my hairdresser. She's not gonna stop doing MY hair because she has someone new. I may be completely wrong but the way I see it, the only reason you wouldn't share your stylist is if you're afraid the other person is gonna come out with hair that looks better than yours whether its a cute style or their hair gets healthier b/c of them, you just don't want others to have healthy or cute hair like yours (since that's all a stylist does), and I just don't get why.
MY hair is healthy, strong and beautiful and having 10 million other black women with healthy, strong, beautiful hair doesn't take away from mine. Sounds like ppl try to make LHCF an exclusive club and women feel threatened b/c if others have long, healthy hair, their hair won't be special anymore. Sounds like the typical catty woman syndrome, like you don't want their hair to end up better than yours. I get it with things at work, "job security" makes sense, but "hair security?", not the same thing. What one does with their hair does not affect mine. I give the advice and resources when asked, if you take them, good for you you'll have pretty hair like me, if not, your hair will stay chewed up, but either way, my life, my hair, and my happiness are not affected. Just don't get the selfishness of sharing info, not like it's money. Takes 5 seconds to write the name of a hair stylist or the website of this board. Why is it so hard for women to share with each other?
MY hair is healthy, strong and beautiful and having 10 million other black women with healthy, strong, beautiful hair doesn't take away from mine. Sounds like ppl try to make LHCF an exclusive club and women feel threatened b/c if others have long, healthy hair, their hair won't be special anymore. Sounds like the typical catty woman syndrome, like you don't want their hair to end up better than yours. I get it with things at work, "job security" makes sense, but "hair security?", not the same thing. What one does with their hair does not affect mine. I give the advice and resources when asked, if you take them, good for you you'll have pretty hair like me, if not, your hair will stay chewed up, but either way, my life, my hair, and my happiness are not affected. Just don't get the selfishness of sharing info, not like it's money. Takes 5 seconds to write the name of a hair stylist or the website of this board. Why is it so hard for women to share with each other?
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SherylsTresses
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I share all things positive; always have, always will...!!! A lot of times I am perceived as "weak" because of it. 
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Mische
Well-Known Member
I love sharing if someone asks a question or opens up a hair dialogue so I know they are interested in the subject. I try to gauge how serious they are about hair before I get too crazy with details since some people really are just looking for a miracle product. Sometimes people are hesitant to approach a stranger and ask a question. One person admitted to me that she was afraid to compliment me at first for fear of me thinking she was weird. Now she realizes I am hair obsessed and will talk your ear off if you let me. 
BostonMaria
Well-Known Member
The only reason why I pick and choose who I give my stylists number to is because in the past I've been yelled at by my stylist for sending her picky, annoying, or cheap clients LOL Some people are professional at work... when they're out in the street they act like they ain't got no damn sense hahaha
OP that's just my reason. I'm not sure why other people around you won't help you out. I try to help as many people as I can. For every 20 women I help, maybe 1 listens. Maybe.
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OP that's just my reason. I'm not sure why other people around you won't help you out. I try to help as many people as I can. For every 20 women I help, maybe 1 listens. Maybe.
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Rae81
Well-Known Member
I have friend like that she won't tell who does her hair or where she shops because she thanks that people want to look like her. I don't see the big deal and I tell people what I do to my hair and where I buy my clothes.
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RelaxednNapulous
New Member
I had a great stylist in NYC who nursed my double processed hair back to a full, healthy shoulder length. She taught me so much and I miss being able to go to her. I'd happily share her info, because she is the first stylist I met who knew how to take care of AA/mixed hair in a healthy way. It doesn't just look good for the first day, but is healthy!
However, she said she will have black women come in and look at her like "What could you possibly know about MY hair?" because she's half Asian, people don't realize she's half black or that she has 4a (?) hair. Then they come back and tell her how much healthier their hair is after they used the products she recommended.
She introduced me to Salerm, Alter Ego and more techniques I can name. I'd recommend her in a minute. If I ever get married, I'm flying her out like I'm JLo!
However, she said she will have black women come in and look at her like "What could you possibly know about MY hair?" because she's half Asian, people don't realize she's half black or that she has 4a (?) hair. Then they come back and tell her how much healthier their hair is after they used the products she recommended.
She introduced me to Salerm, Alter Ego and more techniques I can name. I'd recommend her in a minute. If I ever get married, I'm flying her out like I'm JLo!
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