One guy explained it to me like this... he said that if a girl is at her worst and still looks decent, then he knows that when she gets dolled up she'll look even better. But if they see you all dolled up and then see you at your worst later, and it's not decent, then that's when you have a problem! 
I run out the door to run errands today.....I had my husbands too big T-shirt on...I had four braided plaits in my hair air drying......And I spent the whole afternoon telling guys...I'm married....Why is that??? I thought I was cute yesterday didn't nobody harass me
I just don't get it
. I don't even want to be bothered when I look like that because chances are I'm in a rush. I think some guys like for women to look more plain and casual. As women we think they want us to get all glammed up but on the real they just like us in jeans and a t-shirt, hair thrown in a ponytail, no make-up.
just literally pulled off my scarf and stuck my i pod on and guys were just staring at me, winking n smiling i had to stand infront of a shop window to c if there was something on my face 
erplexed i ended up laughing cause it was really ridiculous
But when I'm looking "hawt", I very rarely get anybody hitting on me. 
I think guys can also sense when you're genuinely happy and comfortable with yourself. That has a lot to do with it too. 
erplexed.
Oh wow, it now makes sense! I used to wonder why I would always get hit on randomly by guys on the street when I wasn't even looking my best.
Now I know what it is! I think guys just think that we're more approachable when we're not dressed to the hilt. I mean, think about it.... would YOU feel comfortable approaching a nice-looking guy who was dressed to the nines in a 3-piece suit? EVen if that is the type of guy who you would usually like to snag, I'm thinking that most women would feel more comfortable approaching the decent-looking guy who's wearing the jeans and t-shirt.
I guess people assume that you'd be friendlier and maybe not as snobbish or something. Plus, I have to admit, usually when I'm going out running my errands just "bumming around", I am usually in an up-beat happy mood. Hence, I don't really care what I look like!
Hey Crystalicequeen123!
This is our topic!
I understand the approachable part, but what I want to know is why do all the 16 and 17 year olds wanna talk to me?! I'm 35++!!! And then they think I'm siddity when I tell them I have clothes older than them (. . . I really don't)!
I think that's what it is. I had a similar incident yesterday. I was riding my bike and it was pretty dark. I wore a sweatshirt with the hood and baggy pants with some busted arse sneakers so that no one would say anything to me. What do you know...this construction guy STILL tries to holla...I was like "how did you know i was a girl?!!"
Here's another reason I think this is true. I have a close friend of mine who dresses down everywhere she goes (with the exception of church). I mean, she will wear a baseball cap AND sweats to a club with no regrets. She always gets hit on. One night, this discussion came up among a group of us and we asked the guys why this is the case. These jerks said that it's because girls who dress like that look "homely" and they [the girls] may do more in the bedroom then a girl who is dressed to impress because she gets less play. The girls in the group were like WTF?!!
