Why can't he remember

[rainbowknots]

What does he remember?

Ok, well I just recently had a birthday, and my SO forgot (no suprise there). To be honest, I didn't really expect him to remember, but I was kind of hoping that he would (the man forgets his own mother's b-day). So I moped around and even though I knew the chances were pretty slim that he would've remembered in the first place. So how many of you ladies out there have SO/DH's that can remember special events (i.e. your anniversary, your b-day...etc). I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has an SO with the memory span of a fish!

 

[Rapunzel*]

hw long have you and ur SO been dating? i dont understand why men forget things like this.........well i would forget his b-day too

 

[rainbowknots]

we've been dating going on 3 years and he already knows I have a good memory so I can't pull that "oh I forgot" thing on him

 

[FlowerHair]

Some men forget about those things from time to time. My SO can be pretty bad about those things too, but I made it clear that it's important to me. I let him know a few weeks ahead..."remember that X day is my birthday...!"
That's the only way

And definately don't give him anything for his birthday if he doesn't make an effort for your birthday. In fact, never give more than you receive at any point.

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

Enh, I'd be pretty upset too. My ex-fiance (lord, he's the queen of all my examples today ) used to have trouble remembering my phone number and I used to lay into him for that.

My ex who I haven't dated in six years, and suffered severe head trauma while in Iraq, and haven't seen in roughly 3 years, still remembers my birthday (which caught me really by surprise).

Tell him to take some Ginko Biloba!

 

[itismehmmkay]

So guys really are forgetful. You may have to drop a hint or so the day before Like with Valentine's day coming up, you may want to send out a signal on Friday.

 

[natural2008]

He does not forget my birthday but forgets is dad's, mom's, everyones except for mines. Oh and he remembers his nieces birthday.

 

[rainbowknots]

Tell him to take some Ginko Biloba!

maybe I should

 

[Zaynab]

we've been dating going on 3 years and he already knows I have a good memory so I can't pull that "oh I forgot" thing on him

Yeah see he couldn't be my boyfriend. I'm not at all telling you to break up with him but I couldn't/wouldn't make a excuses for a man forgetting my birthday, especially if we've been dating 3 years. I find that un-acceptable to my standards.

I know men are forgetful, but come on a birthday? That's not excuseable to me. And if you're dating someone, you should care enough to make something that's important to them, important to you

 

[Taliah]

I don't see the big deal here, especially when you knew he would forget.
If you knew this why didn't you say, "hey boyfriend, you know my birthday is on blank, don't forget!" Then he would not have a tired excuse.
I just don't understand it? Why if you knew he would forget, you didn't say anything before your birthday?

 

[Taliah]

Tell him to take some Ginko Biloba!

Rolling!!!!!

 

[s_terry]

A man remembers what he wants too. He seem to be at least a tad self centered. Depending on what you want this may or maynot be acceptable.

 

[hopeful]

Afterwards is he apologetic and run out and buy you a gift/card, ask to take you out to dinner? Or does he just say oh well. After being together 26 years, married almost 22, dh has never forgotten my b-day or any of the other holidays (v-day, xmas, anniversary, etc.) I think this is one of the things that has kept us together, the consistency is one of the things that makes me feel loved and secure.

 

[Arcadian]

He always remembers my birthday and our anniversary (because they're 4 days apart) He doesn't remember any family member birthdays though.


Personally I don't make a big deal about the whole birthday thing...anniversary is more important imo. another birthday just means I'm getting old.


-A

 

[CarLiTa]

i had an "ex" who... chose to not wish me happy bday one year (he was "upset" with me), fell off the face of the earth for 10 days (which included my birthday) and called 8 days after the birthday the next year, told me he forgot the year after that, just didn't do it the year after that.

about 5 years of no "happy birthday" of course we broke up a long time ago (3 years ago)

Get this: his mother and I have the same birthday... so, uh, yeah

this past summer, on my birthday, he was the very FIRST person to wish me a happy birthday... despite the fact that I hadn't talked to him in months.

Men will remember things they think are crucial for them to remember. I'd have a talk with him as to why he "doesn't remember" my birthday. WTF. I don't get it.

Remind him too. He better find a way to make it up to you and engrave it in his head that your birthday needs not only to be remembered, but celebrated, even in the smallest way.

 

[rainbowknots]

I don't see the big deal here, especially when you knew he would forget.
If you knew this why didn't you say, "hey boyfriend, you know my birthday is on blank, don't forget!" Then he would not have a tired excuse.
I just don't understand it? Why if you knew he would forget, you didn't say anything before your birthday?

It was just silly wishful thinking I guess . He has apologized profusely about it, and since we are in different countries right now, there's not a whole lot of making it up to me he can do