Who is NOT in love with their hair texture?

[Irresistible]

I have days where I can't stand my hair. Is that the current length you have now? I am exactly a year post BC today. I love my hair but it's at the stage right now where I have an afro mullet. I can put it in a ponytail but with the help of 50-11 pins. I'm just waiting for it to get longer. I like my texture but it is fluffy and thick. I don't like pin-straight hair so my texture works for me.

As for hating yourself, that's a bit extreme. Why would someone think that? Even those with the most perfect hair days have stuff they don't like about their hair.

you didn't know it's self hate to not love your hair texture regardless girl?

same as the view went on relaxing, now applies to what one might do/not do with their natural hair or how they feel about it=self hate

I don't know, but- it got put in the natural hair god's rule book somewhere

 

[MyAngelEyez~C~U]

I can't say I dislike my texture...I just wish it was all the same texture throughout my head. It would be so much easier to style and care for if everything was congruent all up in there...

This is how I feel, too. I just wish it was all 4a or all 3c, and not a crazy weirdo mix.

ETA, I do love being natural though

 

[LongLeggedLife]

I only love my hair after I've finished styling it, but most times I wish I had something that required less styling for me to be happy with it--ie. wash and go---wash, diffuse & go...something along those lines. I feel like I have too many different curl patterns, no curl pattern in some places, some hangs, some doesn'tLOL---I have come to terms with not being able to wash and go until I reach far greater lengths.

 

[cia_garces]

Even though I'm relaxed, I get what you all are saying. I was actually thinking of starting a thread similar to this...something to the effect of having a love/hate relationship with your hair.

On Monday, I hated my hair. On Tuesday I was in LOVE. I was just aw'ight with it on Wednesday and so on. I think we all go through this. Some days we're in love with our hair. Other days we just look at it in disgust. *shrug* I think it just comes with the territory of being human. If it ain't our hair, it's our eyebrows, or our skin, or an outfit. If ain't nothin', it's somethin'.

 

[Napp]

I'll never be satisfied with my hair. The most I can hope for is more good days than bad. It's not just texture. If it was just texture then slapping on a perm should have solved everything. It's everything combined for one head of difficult hair: thinness, lack of density, stiffness, dryness, and fragility too. Not to mention having the worst scalp on earth. Skin & scalp problems run in my family. It's too much darned work just to keep hair on my head, not to mention making it look good. It's a constant uphill battle. Baldie/TWA was definitely the easiest thing but that of course comes with its own set of issues. Oh well. I just aim to have more good days with it than bad days.

i feel you girl

 

[curlyninjagirl]

Oh lord, where do I start?? I love being natural! And it's a good thing I enjoy doing my hair cuz wash day takes A DAY for real! (When you got somewhere to go though, it's not cool. )

Now that I finally (after all these years!) know how to work with my hair, I can say that the only thing I can't stand about my texture these days is SHRINKAGE!!

After all this hard work and patience, my hair's never going to appear long?? Booooooooo!!

 

[kittikat24]

My hair is just...ehh.

I'm not "In Luvvv" with it, I'm just embracing it and learning more about its likes n dislikes..
I enjoy being natural, though! It's way more interesting than my relaxed days.

 

[iri9109]

i like my hair, but alot of the time i wish i had tighter curls in the front/top, less shrinkage and more thickness.

 

[knt1229]

I'm still getting to know my hair. And as it grows it acts/looks different. I'm still impressed with myself for having the patience and know how to finish an 18 month transition with no breakage and end up with a nice looking head of hair. Now I just need to stop being lazy and learn other styles besides a puff and I'd be happy as can be.

When it comes to hair I'm lazy always have been even when relaxed. I think that's the biggest reason I don't have as many hair horror stories and problems as other people. Hair is just hair to me. My hair always looks decent but I'm not one to constantly try different styles or try every new thing that comes along.

 

[pisceschica]

I hate dealing with my hair. Fine, medium density, and relaxed. Its so high maintenance for me. Its even worse when its natural.

 

[QueenFee]

wish it was all one texture...the front is kinky in the middle and straight at the sides..Crown is tight spiral curls..the back is zigg zagg jurri curl looking things...Ahhh the natural life=)

 

[yods]

p.s. I never get the self hate thing, I think most women have something about themselves that they moan about. I would kill for long legs and a wash board stomach too btw, doesn't point to low self esteem, it's just being human.

There shouldn't be pressure to be in lurve with your natural hair always on some honeymoon with it all the time.

 

[anon123]

i neither hate nor love my texture. i don't like that it's so ****ing dry and brittle but the actual curl pattern i'm kinda "meh" about.

Yeah, this is me on most days, minus the dry part. I was natural long before this recent big wave/movement, so I wasn't brought in under the "let's twirl in the sun for love of our napps" euphoria and rhetoric that is so common. My hair just . . . was. I never gave much thought to my "texture" or whatever. I got swept up in it momentarily after finding NP . And funny enough, the super love lent itself to periods of extreme annoyance sometimes. But I've settled back down. The texture is okay, I guess. It is what it is. I find it pretty most of the time, but it can be a bear to work with since it's not super short and not locked.

 

[Morenita]

If you look for it, I think you can always find something to complain about... If I were a 3b, I'm sure I'd probably wish my hair had more curl.

I'm ok with my texture. We've made peace for the most part as I've learned how to manage it better. I just wish I didn't have to deal with ssk's.

 

[itsjusthair88]

Hmm...well I'm still in TWA mode (now that's what I hate and I will admit to hating, I'm a slow grower, my damn hair hasn't budged but an inch or so since I BC'd in September, I doubt I'll be SL by my one year Nappiversary) and I still can't figure out my texture, but whatever it it, it's pretty infuriating (I've been saying I'm a 4A, well see) and it's dry and that's what I hate, I bet I would love it if I could get my moisture down, but I'm still struggling with that.

 

[hair4romheaven]

Raises hand, but will stick it out for at least 2 years post bc, if I'm not loving it I may texlax.

 

[keepithealthy]

The things I dislike most about my texture is ssk and styling. I just haven't figured out how to really style my hair outside of two strand twists or wng's. Unfortunately I've found that two strand twists and wng's contribute to my ssk's. So I'm on a task to learn how to style my natural hair.

 

[mostamaziing]

id be more satisfied with my hair texture IF the curl pattern was more defined naturally.

im too lazy and not really skilled to do twists ups and outs and stuff =/

 

[Gleek]

I am transitioning. I hate that the front of my hair grows so damn slow and that so far everything is coming in a different texture. the middle of my hair shrinks so much that it looks like I have a mullet. If I BC’d, The front would be super short and I need a pony to get by *sadface*

 

[Ms_CoCo37]

The only time I don't love my tight curls is when I DETANGLE! I can't stand detangling because I am admittedly LAZY and I hate that I have to section my hair and can't just run a comb through it. But when the detangling is done, Izzy and I are friends again.

It's like you're reading my thoughts to the "T"!!!

 

[danniegirl]

I like this post and i respect the calm moments of truth from you ladies. I have a love hate thing going on with my hair i love the fact that its making so much progress however this stuff is a mess its dry and brittle and requires a lot of attention since this is relatively new to me i hope and pray when it grows out it will be a lot better i hope i will have this moisture thing in check by the time i reach my one year mark.

 

[Arian]

I'm just ready for some length right now....and some new styling options...I also have pieces in the front that don't do anything (curl, twirl, wave, or nothing) so I feel like I am forced to wear twistouts all the time to make things more uniform...

 

[softblackcotton]

I am not totally happy with my texture only because its very fragile and the shrinkage is 70-80%. However, what bothers me the most is that my hair seems to grow very slowly and constantly break despite my very gentle care, lots of moisture, and very low manipulation . It seems like I've been stuck between 8-10 inches for 2 years. Im starting to wonder if my terminal length is where my hair us now, just a few inches beyond my collarbone. I also struggle with ssks and mid-strand splits. I haven't really figure out many styles other than a wash and go with gel defined tinee tiny curls. I also have severe HIH syndrome. I'm a 4b with a bit of 4a.

 

[BostonMaria]

I love my natural hair, but after 3 1/2 years of being relaxer free I'm still trying to figure out my hair. Sometimes it can be frustrating. I hate shrinkage.

 

[TaraDyan]

I like my hair texture just fine ... it's the sparse density that I hate.

 

[ms.blue]

I like being natural but hate that I have different textures through out. I normally say I'm 4a/b but actually my nape is 3c fine and silker than the rest of my hair which gives me an afro mullet. Since of that reason, I don't do wash n goes or even to try to define my "curls". I rather have one texture through out my head than anything else.

 

[Shananyganz]

I am okay with my texture...it’s really all over the place; looser in the front and the back, tighter in the middle… I haven't a clue what number, letter, color, circumference, blah, blicktey, black I am. I tried in the beginning, but meh... over it.

My thing? I am just sick of my hair in general. It is thinner than what I assumed it would be when I first went natural. I want to wear my actual hair in twists and things of that nature, but whomp...my twists end up looking like 6 spaghetti noodles hanging from my scalp. Even more of a hot spot with me…truth be told (while I don't like to put stuff in the air) my hair is a little lax in the growth department. I don't know what I am doing wrong...but I have been natural for 19 months and my hair 8 to 9 inches. I don't compare my hair to others, but if we speaking average...I should be no less than 12 inches at this point (all things being equal). K..rant over.

I'm grateful for having the hair that I have...and I know (hope) these feelings are temporary. In the meantime. I am just going to put it away...cause I am just not feeling my hair right now. I got some bunk mission twist out going on…today…I just caught a glimpse in the monitor...ugh..just so over it. Once again…rant over…

Uhmm..did I address the topic of this thread??

~S~