Who is NOT in love with their hair texture?

[Napp]

Does anyone feel this way? Do you know why? Please share experiences and reflections.

I feel like the natural nostalgia is gone and my hair is just "there". I dont hate it but i dont love it either. Ive felt like this for some time i keep thinking "maybe when it gets longer " but i still do not care for my hairs texture. At times i feel odd because it seems like people are like OMGGGGG I LUV MY NATCHAL COILS KINKS N CURLS HURRR and if you dont feel the same way you secretly hate yourself.

 

[Lucie]

I have days where I can't stand my hair. Is that the current length you have now? I am exactly a year post BC today. I love my hair but it's at the stage right now where I have an afro mullet. I can put it in a ponytail but with the help of 50-11 pins. I'm just waiting for it to get longer. I like my texture but it is fluffy and thick. I don't like pin-straight hair so my texture works for me.

As for hating yourself, that's a bit extreme. Why would someone think that? Even those with the most perfect hair days have stuff they don't like about their hair.

 

[Mz.MoMo5235]

when i went natural i was disappointed. i was certain i was a 3c/4a mix and thick, i mean, that's how i thought my hair looked before i started relaxing

turns out i'm actually like a 3b and i have low density. i just thought my hair was thicker with tighter curls because before i started to relax my mom didnt know how to care for my hair so it was very dry and frizzy which made me think once i grew my natural hair out i would have this big beautiful mass of hair.

once i started to take care of my hair and get the moisture/protein balanced, well my hair tamed down and now i have what i have. but i work with what god gave me and whip my hair back and forth

 

[brucebettye]

At first I did not like my natural texture and I texlaxed my hair and I was in love. Until like every perm for me, my hair started to break off. I have been transitioning to natural for over a year and I have just decided that I am going to love my hair because I don't won't straight hair anymore. I know how to deal with my hair and I am glad that I don't have to wear fake hair anymore. It takes time to change your mind over to natural hair. It is not an overnight thing and don't beat yourself up. If it is not for you don't be mad about that either. The main reason why I am going natural is because I can actually take better care of my hair this way then with a perm. Also styling is so much easier than trying to keep my hair straight.

 

[nappystorm]

I am now. My texture is too darn in between though. I'm too nappy for the curlies and too curly for the nappies

 

[Imani]

I love the feeling of being natural more so than my texture. I like it bc its MINE and I like the way it feels better than the limp relaxed hair. I wouldn't wish for another texture bc this is MY texture.

However, I will say that I don't always like how extremely dry/fragile it is, or the fact that the strands are fine so certain styles don't always look the way I'd like. And I'm pretty sure if I ever tried to do "wash and go" I'd look like I had a jherri curl. But I don't think too much about it, it is what it is.

 

[locabouthair]

I dont like that my hair is so coarse and wiry. I dont care if it's 4b. I just dont like how coarse it is. I used to wish I had finer hair.

 

[Oasis]

i neither hate nor love my texture. i don't like that it's so ****ing dry and brittle but the actual curl pattern i'm kinda "meh" about.

 

[EllePixie]

The only time I don't love my tight curls is when I DETANGLE! I can't stand detangling because I am admittedly LAZY and I hate that I have to section my hair and can't just run a comb through it. But when the detangling is done, Izzy and I are friends again.

 

[tHENATuRALhAiRpRoJEcT]

I dont like that my hair is so coarse and wiry. I dont care if it's 4b. I just dont like how coarse it is. I used to wish I had finer hair.

say wut niiiiigh???

i guess i gotta keep throwing this gif out there 2nite.....

b/c thick-er hair is my DREAM!...so pleeeeeeze let's CHOP -N -SWAP

 

[nappystorm]

say wut niiiiigh???

i guess i gotta keep throwing this gif out there 2nite.....

b/c thick-er hair is my DREAM!...so pleeeeeeze let's CHOP -N -SWAP

 

[Aine]

I wouldn't say that I ever disliked my texture; truthfully, I've never given much thought to it. For years, however, I couldn't figure out what my hair liked. It would grow just fine, but it was dry, brittle, and prone to tangles and split ends. So I would grow my hair for six months to a year and whenever I got tired of "dealing with it", I would cut it back to a one-guard and start the process again. I did this for six years. (It also didn't help that I LOVE my hair super short.)

Now that I figured out what my hair responds to and have a regimen that's easy enough for me to follow through with, I don't have any issues with my hair.

 

[Aviah]

I'm a little annoyed at times with the top of my hair being straighter than the rest. I used to say it was 3c, but its not even that, its just limp frizzy waves that can be annoying when they don't act right. Its hardest for me to get curl definition there and part of the reason my braidouts ain't really feasible.

Other than that I'm fine with it.

 

[reeko43]

I am currently transitioning so I don't know my true texture. However, I do know from my previous natural years, my own eyes and what my stylists would complain about is that I have two to three distint textures. They are becoming more apparent as my hair grows out. My hair is the most coarse at the crown, very dry and tangly, so hard to comb. It is also very thick. The hair on my sides and back, kind of a horseshoe pattern, is straighter and finer. I just wish my hair was one texture, preferably the thick texture at the crown. I wore a braid out yesterday and it looked crazy. A big poof at the middle of my head the sides and the sides and back hanging straight. It almost looked like I put longer straighter tracks in the back under the afro part of my hair and several at work asked if I had done just that. Looks like I won't have that cute puff or fro so many are sprting here

 

[ms-gg]

I dont like that my hair is so coarse and wiry. I dont care if it's 4b. I just dont like how coarse it is. I used to wish I had finer hair.

I always thought people with finer hair strands have it easier than me but I learned that is not the truth, we all have our own personal struggles. Like, I use to complain about how wiry my strands feel (still do sometimes), but then I just remind myself that those wiry strands are built Ford Tough . They ain't going down without a fight.

 

[4bslbound]

^^^ I wish that were the case for me. When I go to a new stylist I always hear how my hair is the thickest they have ever seen.
But it's also the driest and (I'm glad I realize it now) very porous.

Snap crackle pop goes my hair strands (relaxed, texlaxed, and natural).

My theory is that thinner strands would recquire less moisture. idk, there are many things that I love about it though (like the fact that breakage is less noticeable)

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

This week I am very frustrated with my hair texture

I have my hair in lots of twists and I had planned on wearing the style for at least 2 weeks before redoing my hair.

After 3 days my hair became so frizzy and looked as if I had my twists in for over a month. I notice that certain hair textures can keep twists in for almost 2 months and the twists look amazing. But I realize that I can't do this, and it's kind of frustrating.

 

[deltagyrl]

I'm still learning my hair. I *think* I love my texture but I HATE the dryness and the shrinkage...

 

[ParagonTresses]

This week I am very frustrated with my hair texture

I have my hair in lots of twists and I had planned on wearing the style for at least 2 weeks before redoing my hair.

After 3 days my hair became so frizzy and looked as if I had my twists in for over a month. I notice that certain hair textures can keep twists in for almost 2 months and the twists look amazing. But I realize that I can't do this, and it's kind of frustrating.

Same here! It took me about half a dozen times of trying different products and techniques, not to mention countless hours of twisting to realize my hair just doesn't like those types of PS. Which sucks because I've seen some beautiful twist updo's I'd love to rock...oh well...

 

[ParagonTresses]

I can't say I dislike my texture...I just wish it was all the same texture throughout my head. It would be so much easier to style and care for if everything was congruent all up in there...

 

[JayAnn0513]

The front is too straight and the back is too curly. I'd be good if I was 4a all over or 3b all over but this weird mic I have is uber annoying.


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[glamazon386]

I'm okay with mine. I just wish it didn't shrink so much.

 

[Goombay_Summer]

I mistakenly thought that once I went au natural that I would have beyond thick luscious tresses, I was sadly mistaken and extremely disappointed to discover that I had a lot of fine hair strands that are easily tangled and are extremely fragile.

 

[Imani]

I mistakenly thought that once I went au natural that I would have beyond thick luscious, I was sadly mistaken and extremely disappointed to discover that I had a lot of fine hair strands that are easily tangled and are extremely fragile.

This is how my hair is. But I already knew what the deal was before I transitioned. When I first came to the boards I would look at like Dsylla, Silver2, etc and think, wow if I just take better care of my hair it will look just like theirs! Then reality hit. Um, no

 

[JJamiah]

I do like my hair texture very much. Honestly I envy ladies with thicker hair. I just want a little more and I'd be so happy. I feel like I have 4 strands of hair. The texture though is one I like just so darn thin.

 

[FebeeSigns]

I'm not in love with my texture because of the current twa length. When my hair was apl and natural I fell in love with it! Because I could see my texture clearly and do a lot more styles as apl than twa. Right now my hair is just "there" waiting to be grown.

 

[yods]

I just don't like the fact that whatever way my hair needs a lot of maintenance. I love how it looks but it's the darned work that really get me. I would like to be able to just you know wash it and be done but no wash day has to be set aside with all the hoopla and ringmarole of stretching it out moisturising, blah blah.

It doesn't really help that I can't /won't protective style. So here we are with the frylaxing to get it to behave, sigh...... We shall see who breaks first me or the fro....

 

[vkb247]

I can't stand the different curl patterns, strand thickness's, and growth rates. I have all over my head. I feel like I am taking care of four different people's heads. Some of them are doing well...

 

[Junebug D]

I'll never be satisfied with my hair. The most I can hope for is more good days than bad. It's not just texture. If it was just texture then slapping on a perm should have solved everything. It's everything combined for one head of difficult hair: thinness, lack of density, stiffness, dryness, and fragility too. Not to mention having the worst scalp on earth. Skin & scalp problems run in my family. It's too much darned work just to keep hair on my head, not to mention making it look good. It's a constant uphill battle. Baldie/TWA was definitely the easiest thing but that of course comes with its own set of issues. Oh well. I just aim to have more good days with it than bad days.

 

[Irresistible]

yeah I've always hated the meltdowns around here over one accepting their texture others being put within the constraints and definitions of what goes on in somebody else's head as to how they should exactly do it (love their texture) and if they do/don't do this , that and the other they arent

I have always felt for some it might be a process and they deserve that process, not only that but it's not written in some rule book that anybody had to love their hair texture at all. I do get that in order to stay natural that acceptance has to happen on some level-I just always hated the tone of others defining what 'acceptance' is and what isnt-its all only proven to be a superior/inferior thing and very divisive jmo