Which type of man would you rather have?

Love or Provide and Protect

  • Love

    Votes: 19 15.8%

  • Provide and Protect

    Votes: 101 84.2%
  • Total voters
    120
  • Poll closed .
Provide and protect. Romantic love can come and go. A man who truly loves me will make sure I'm taken care of.

As for cheating, anyone can cheat. A man who really loves you can still be a weak man at the end of the day. I'd rather get cheated on by a provider, then he can keep on providing after the divorce. With the lover all I get is a broken heart and an empty purse. No bueno.
 
Mmmm....I think I must be the minority here... Either that or I'm reading this question differently.

FOR ME personally, I think I would rather have a man who would be eager to show me that he LOVES me as opposed to a man who is eager to show that he can provide & protect me.

Why you may ask?? Because, I figure that if this man LOVES me, then naturally he will want to protect and provide for me.

But sometimes SOME men know how to do all of the protecting and providing, but don't know how to actually SHOW a woman that he LOVES her....I'm talking emotionally. And yes, I'm speaking from second-hand experience.

I've known some women to be married to their husbands who give them everything they want, and would fight tooth and nail for them, but when they come home, they feel so ignored and unloved. :ohwell:

I'm sorry, but I want a man to have an EMOTIONAL Quotient. When I go out in public w/him, I want him to be affectionate, to SHOW me through his actions (not just words) that he loves me. :yep: I want to feel like a COUPLE when we're together, not just having a living "arrangement".

So yeah...I think I'd prefer the showing of LOVE (because that could encompass SO many things), rather than just simply the providing and protecting. I don't want a broke man :look: lol....but I'm a WOMAN, and I have emotional needs, so if a man can't show his feelings towards me, he's an automatic turn-off to me. :hand:
 
For 20 years I had the love without the provide/protect. What that get me? Great sex and broke. And in the end cheated on by a shiftless-*** man. I struggled to be in the man's role most of the time, making most the damn money and doing the planning. Now a divorce without assets to split.

Next time around, I need to try the otherside. I have no idea what it feels like to be provided for and protected. Must be nice.

knt1229 said:
I'll take provide and protect. Providing and protecting is the true way a man shows his love for a woman, IMO. Anyone can lay it down in the bedroom or bring you flowers and take you to dinner, but, a man willing to provide for you and protect you is something that can't be faked and tends to be more consistent over time than all the romance stuff.
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naturalmanenyc said:
There seem to be more and more women that are willing to deal with a man who cannot provide or protect.
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FoxxyLocs said:
Provide and protect. Romantic love can come and go. A man who truly loves me will make sure I'm taken care of.

As for cheating, anyone can cheat. A man who really loves you can still be a weak man at the end of the day. I'd rather get cheated on by a provider, then he can keep on providing after the divorce. With the lover all I get is a broken heart and an empty purse. No bueno.
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Crystalicequeen123 said:
I figure that if this man LOVES me, then naturally he will want to protect and provide for me.
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DarkJoy said:
For 20 years I had the love without the provide/protect. What that get me? Great sex and broke. And in the end cheated on by a shiftless-*** man. I struggled to be in the man's role most of the time, making most the damn money and doing the planning. Now a divorce without assets to split.

Next time around, I need to try the otherside. I have no idea what it feels like to be provided for and protected. Must be nice.
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Thanks for sharing that, this is my worst nightmare here!
 
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