Which type of man would you rather have?

Love or Provide and Protect

  • Love

    Votes: 19 15.8%

  • Provide and Protect

    Votes: 101 84.2%
  • Total voters
    120
  • Poll closed .
Spiffy

Spiffy

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One who is eager to show you how much he can love you, or one who is eager to show you how much he can provide and protect you?

ETA: I do mean love in terms of romantic appeal.
 
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I'll take provide and protect. Providing and protecting is the true way a man shows his love for a woman, IMO. Anyone can lay it down in the bedroom or bring you flowers and take you to dinner, but, a man willing to provide for you and protect you is something that can't be faked and tends to be more consistent over time than all the romance stuff.
 
Love is fleeting and ebbs and flows like the river's edge. A man who provides and protects is more of an asset during those unloving moments. And those moments will arise.
 
Yall already know my feelings. Sorry, homie, I can't 'love' :look: you while I'm hungry.

Anywho, I read a book once that hypothesized a truly incredible theory, don't know if I buy it, but here goes: human females, as oppsed to other mammalian females, spill substantially more blood during menses leading to anemia or whatever else results from what-all is depleted. Otherwise, we'd need men for very little, aside from the obvious sperm and amusement. The author's theory is that this system of symbiotic co-existance evolved within our species solely because human offspring take so long to become fully independent. So, pretty much, our species would have long ago devolved into a 'ratchet pics on fb' type of world if this meat for procreation exchange hadn't been bred into us.
 
Provide and protect. I think these are more of the instinctive qualities in men while love is more of a learned concept that can come and go.
 
I'm surprised, because I thought that most people would lean towards the 'showing the love'. Until I read this;

knt1229 said:
I'll take provide and protect. Providing and protecting is the true way a man shows his love for a woman, IMO. Anyone can lay it down in the bedroom or bring you flowers and take you to dinner, but, a man willing to provide for you and protect you is something that can't be faked and tends to be more consistent over time than all the romance stuff.
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I love the bolded.
 
IMO

A man that loves (and I mean true love not this modern day mess :look: :lol:) will be willing to provide and protect the ones they love at all cost.

I know a few men right now who are providing and protecting for their family but is out screwing around on their wives.


On the other hand if I have to choose between the two then I need to keep it moving until I find someone who is capable of both...lol.
 
I know several men that have provided and protected their families extremely well, while still maintaining extra marital relations :ohwell: :lol: however I would still choose provide and protect out of the two.
 
ebonysweetie said:
Sorry no one can ever convince me that's true love.
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I definitely think you can be in love with someone and cheat on them. What you dont have for that person however is respect. A lack of respect is always at the root of cheating, whether it be a lack of respect for your partner, your relationship or even for yourself.
 
toinette said:
I definitely think you can be in love with someone and cheat on them. What you dont have for that person however is respect. A lack of respect is always at the root of cheating, whether it be a lack of respect for your partner, your relationship or even for yourself.
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Cheating undermines the foundation of love. I believe a cheater can have love for that person, but they are not in love with them.
 
Provide and protect. This inspires his love.

During dating, women have to create things for a man to do for her so he can demonstrate to her that he CAN provide, and WILL protect so after marriage he is used to doing so.

The 'I'm an Independent Woman' bit deprives a man of feeling necessary and significant to his woman. Then when she needs him to provide and protect it can be a struggle because he is used to her handling everything.
 
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Despite the poll results leaning heavily toward provide & protect, threads on the relationship board show otherwise. There seem to be more and more women that are willing to deal with a man who cannot provide or protect.
 
if "provide and protect" comes from a foundation of misogynistic beliefs, i'll pass on either until i can find someone who can do both and views me as his partner and equal, not less than.
 
Provide. And protect. Men love through doing and respect so this would equal love to me.

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