Innocent_Kiss
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Well, not clash, but bump heads. I was recently pregnant by my boyfriend, and regretfully decided to terminate my pregnancy. He an his family was excited about a new addition to their family and suggested we move together, join finances, and all types of other 'married folk business.' My parents on the otherhand, although they were excited about a new baby in our family, warned me to stay focus and keep my career goals a priority. Not a psuedo marriage. My bf is a sweetheart, both our families love us, we add to eachothers' lives and all of that other sweet stuff, but I'm not ready to move in with him, have a baby, or anything else that is supposed to be reserved for marriage. We talk about marriage A LOT. As a matter of fact, he took me to a Ultra Diamonds to get fitted for an engagement ring. Honestly, I can see myself with him and I love him..but although it's a beautiful thing, I think it's totally out of season. I want us to focus on building a strong foundation in our relationship BEFORE marriage. I want us to focus on improving our individual lives and accomplishing our goals so that we collectively become a stronger couple. I'm focused on academic success, committing myself to a sorrority, becoming a real estate investor, building my relationship with God - those types of things. Not how me and my boyfriend are going to pay our utility bills or how we are going to take care of a baby.
I believe sex, starting a family, moving in with eachother - all of those things should be cherished and manifested through a marriage. When I asked myself WHY, though, I'm not really able to answer. I guess because that's how I was raised. Lately, I've been trying to read scriptures about marriage so that I understand what God wants in a marriage. I guess this is more of a vent than a post seeking advice because it's obvious that I need to simply tell him everything I posted. But feel free to comment![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
I believe sex, starting a family, moving in with eachother - all of those things should be cherished and manifested through a marriage. When I asked myself WHY, though, I'm not really able to answer. I guess because that's how I was raised. Lately, I've been trying to read scriptures about marriage so that I understand what God wants in a marriage. I guess this is more of a vent than a post seeking advice because it's obvious that I need to simply tell him everything I posted. But feel free to comment