When men give you their phone numbers...

MissJ

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do you call or discard it? Assuming the guy seems nice, but you don't know anything about him yet.
 
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You mean like we exchanged numbers? I usually don't just take a guy's number especially without him having mine because I'm not making the first contact. So if I just took his number..I'm prob. not that interested and will discard it.
 
I used to be the queen of taking numbers and not calling.

Now, if I know I'm not interested, I just say so.
 
i never take numbers... i guess if i really liked the guy i would probably call.... but he should be doing the asking!

i'd probably discard it eventually.
 
I make it a habit not to ask guys for their numbers these days. And if a guy gives me his number instead of asking me for mine, I assume he's not that interested. I'll either try to give him my number instead (if I'm interested), or I'll just take his card and discard it later.

But I NEVER EVER make the first initial call to a guy anymore unless it's business-related only.
 
Steve harvey's book says not to give a stranger your number and instead take his when he asks because that way he's waiting for you to call and not the other way around. Don't give him your email. Nothin!

I call but always wait a few days lol
 
A guy gave me his phone number/email address this weekend. I have no plans on contacting him so I probably should not have taken it in the first place. In the future, if I am not interested, I will decline to take his info.
 
Steve Harvey can go somewhere...

(Yes, there are some good tips in his book, but there's nothing about him that makes him a sound source of advice about dating and relationships.)
 
I used to be the queen of taking numbers and not calling.

Now, if I know I'm not interested, I just say so.

That was me. I'd be uninterested and didn't want to give them my number, so I'd just take theirs as a way of getting rid of them. I may or may not call. Confession: Sometimes I'd call once just to fulfill my word when I told them that I would call. But I would never call again nor return any of their calls. :look: So silly, I know. :lachen:
 
Steve Harvey can go somewhere...

(Yes, there are some good tips in his book, but there's nothing about him that makes him a sound source of advice about dating and relationships.)

Steve Harvey, very funny comedian; relationship expert, me think not.
 
If you take his number, and he isn't insisting on having your number to call you, then he's lazy, and you'll be doing all the work from the get go, he doesn't have to pursue you, and that's where you separate the riff-raff from those who might, MIGHT be serious about dating you. BTW if yo have to do the calling, chasing, etc...it means he's not that into you.
 
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It depends on the encounter, our convo, the impression he left on me, and the circumstances in which he gave me his number over taking mine.

I have been 'moved' to initiate contact in the past and I didn't regret it BUT I'm at a point where I'd prefer a man I want and who wants me to take initiative..because I do feel contacting first sets a certain tone over the relationship that I personally grow tired of very quickly. So it's not an ideal scenario if I was looking for something serious. Not so serious, but intrigued? I'd have no problem calling.
 
It depends on the encounter, our convo, the impression he left on me, and the circumstances in which he gave me his number over taking mine.

I have been 'moved' to initiate contact in the past and I didn't regret it BUT I'm at a point where I'd prefer a man I want and who wants me to take initiative..because I do feel contacting first sets a certain tone over the relationship that I personally grow tired of very quickly. So it's not an ideal scenario if I was looking for something serious. Not so serious, but intrigued? I'd have no problem calling.

ITA 100%, you can call but don't expect anything serious or long lasting that's the exception, when a woman pursues she shouldn't expect anything more then games esp. if the guy insists you call. He's just setting the I'm a player/pimp scenario up-that's all JMO
 
Most of the time I have discarded phone numbers given to me by men. From my own personal experience, when men give you their number without asking for yours they either want to be pursued or are not looking for anything serious.
 
I only called a guy first once.....and he never returned the call! I bruise easily, so I'd rather be the one not returning phone calls if anything :look:...
 
I give them mine, and discard theirs in front of them. You wan' me? You call me. If I've not attractive enough for you to be willing to put forth the effort to pick up the phone and press 7 numbers - :lachen: yeah. We ain't got no reason to be talking.

I was told I was a tease a couple of times, and hard to get plenty of times.

I always told them that I don't tease strangers because numnuts is crazay, and being hard to get is better than being easy. :look: :lachen:
 
I only called a guy first once.....and he never returned the call! I bruise easily, so I'd rather be the one not returning phone calls if anything :look:...

I was in highschool and I called a guy first once and it was the wrong number. That fool played me. He approached me, gave me his number, and that mess was the wrong number. I was like...What was the point of approaching me? So never again, will I call a man first.

I only take a man's number if I am not interested in him, in an effort to get him to leave me alone. Otherwise, I give him my number, and let him make the first move.
 
I give them mine, and discard theirs in front of them. You wan' me? You call me. If I've not attractive enough for you to be willing to put forth the effort to pick up the phone and press 7 numbers - :lachen: yeah. We ain't got no reason to be talking.

I was told I was a tease a couple of times, and hard to get plenty of times.

I always told them that I don't tease strangers because numnuts is crazay, and being hard to get is better than being easy. :look: :lachen:

They called you hard to get, I mean if you give them your number and they know you don't have their number, it's not rocket science.
WOW if that's not the laziest bastid on the face of the earth :rolleyes:
 
I use to take guys numbers when I was younger. Lately I would give them my number if I was interested. Let them call me and make the first contact.
 
When i was dating, i would always take the guys number. If i had to ditch him then i basically didn't leave a trail. i also liked to take control of the situation and conduct an interview to see if i wanted it to go any further.
 
If you take his number, and he isn't insisting on having your number to call you, then he's lazy, and you'll be doing all the work from the get go, he doesn't have to pursue you, and that's where you separate the riff-raff from those who might, MIGHT be serious about dating you. BTW if yo have to do the calling, chasing, etc...it means he's not that into you.

I don't think I've ever had a guy give me his number without asking for mine first. I don't like to give out my number, so sometimes I'll take their number. But I seldom call.

I didn't think women readily gave their numbers out. I think some guys may anticipate that and give out their number to be polite and let the girl know he's not a stalker and she can decide whether to start anything.
 
guys who take numbers may or may not call so just because they don't get it doesn't mean they're lazy

they could be lazy either way

Steve Harvey's book was really good LOL hmmph
 
I take numbers and not call because I am too polite to tell guys I am flat out not interested unless I am PMSing. I can talk to guys and be very friendly but unless I'm interested I don't give guys my number. If I'm not interested I take their numbers instead. I know it sounds a bit warped but that way I control the contact.
 
if i take his number and he doesnt have mine that means no phone calls-a-coming i am totally not intererested its just to end convo
 
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