Ediese
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My SO has told me on several occasions how happy he is to be debt free. Within our second month of dating, he freely told me how much he makes from his teaching job and side company. He said he would hate to date someone that 'fronted' like they were financially secure or only had a small amount of debt, and then get engaged/married to find out that they weren't making as much as they disclosed or that they were full of debt. He said that from the beginning I've been really secretive about my finances. lol I told him that I was taught to keep that kind of thing private.
Anyway, I finally told him last night and disclosed how much debt I have. (we've only been dating for 5 months) We got in a debate as to WHEN is the best time to disclose how much you make and your current total debt. Also, what about finding out how much money your partner has in his/her savings account? When is the right time for that?
Here are my questions:
When do you disclose your salary and debt to your SO?
Do you feel that there is a correct time to disclose this information?
Is that something that's discussed after you get married or newly engaged?
Did anyone hold out until they got married, and had a very disappointed DH as a result of this or vice versa?
What have your experience been with this? Did it make you step back when you found out he wasn't making that much or that he had too much debt?? Please share your experiences..
ETA: We've been in a committed relationship for five months now, and decided to become 'committed' after the second month.
Anyway, I finally told him last night and disclosed how much debt I have. (we've only been dating for 5 months) We got in a debate as to WHEN is the best time to disclose how much you make and your current total debt. Also, what about finding out how much money your partner has in his/her savings account? When is the right time for that?
Here are my questions:
When do you disclose your salary and debt to your SO?
Do you feel that there is a correct time to disclose this information?
Is that something that's discussed after you get married or newly engaged?
Did anyone hold out until they got married, and had a very disappointed DH as a result of this or vice versa?
What have your experience been with this? Did it make you step back when you found out he wasn't making that much or that he had too much debt?? Please share your experiences..
ETA: We've been in a committed relationship for five months now, and decided to become 'committed' after the second month.
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