TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
OK... It's been a year since my breakup, and I think it may be time to "get out there" again.
Recently, I met a seemingly nice guy who approached me respectfully and asked for my number. I gave it to him but noticed a few things immediately that made me raise my eyebrows a little.
First, he tried to immediately engage me in a lengthy TEXT conversation (a HUGE pet peeve of mine) and despite me inviting him to call me twice, he never took the bait. I just stopped responding to his texts.
He then asked me for a pic within moments of receiving my number. I just thought that was a bit forward (yes, I'm old fashioned, and I HATE selfies!!!!) and my brother (major player) would get pics of the chicks he was texting to help him keep them straight. I tried to make light of it and sent him a pic of an Orangutan with a wink and a caption "Here you go..."
He then INVITED ME TO HIS HOUSE over text! I told him I didn't get off work to midnight and he was like, "Why don't you come over when you get off". I didn't even respond to that.
So... he did call the next day, but it was a very short conversation. He never asked any probing questions about me... except my age and if I had children. He had to get off the phone before I could get answers to those questions myself.
By this time, I pretty much assumed this guy was a bit of a jerk, but I've been known to judge too quickly and decided to see how things played out. By mid week, he had called again and asked me to dinner (still no conversations of substance). I thought it would be safer to meet for a drink, so we agreed on a place to meet.
It was my hope that we could have a more meaningful conversation during drinks, but between him leaving the table to answer his phone at least three times and CONSTANTLY talking about himself (his cars, his house, his money... BLAH, BLAH, BLAH... Oh yeah... he mentioned Jesus about 50 times BEFORE he invited me to his house again!!!!), I knew this would be our first and last date.
I'm polite, so I thanked him for the drink before we left and gave him the "church hug" - You KNOW the hug I'm talking about and pretty much wrote him off. He called later that night (after midnight) and I didn't answer and texted me "I MISS YOU" the next day.
So, I ATTEMPTED to nip it in the bud. I texted him "Thank you so much for the drink the other night. I enjoyed getting to know more about you, but at this time I don't see this progressing romantically and would prefer not to go out again." Since then, the guy will NOT stop texting / calling me!
I have one of the cheap phone plans that won't allow me to block him, and he knows where I work. How can I get this guy to leave me alone? This is a little scary!
Recently, I met a seemingly nice guy who approached me respectfully and asked for my number. I gave it to him but noticed a few things immediately that made me raise my eyebrows a little.
First, he tried to immediately engage me in a lengthy TEXT conversation (a HUGE pet peeve of mine) and despite me inviting him to call me twice, he never took the bait. I just stopped responding to his texts.
He then asked me for a pic within moments of receiving my number. I just thought that was a bit forward (yes, I'm old fashioned, and I HATE selfies!!!!) and my brother (major player) would get pics of the chicks he was texting to help him keep them straight. I tried to make light of it and sent him a pic of an Orangutan with a wink and a caption "Here you go..."
He then INVITED ME TO HIS HOUSE over text! I told him I didn't get off work to midnight and he was like, "Why don't you come over when you get off". I didn't even respond to that.
So... he did call the next day, but it was a very short conversation. He never asked any probing questions about me... except my age and if I had children. He had to get off the phone before I could get answers to those questions myself.
By this time, I pretty much assumed this guy was a bit of a jerk, but I've been known to judge too quickly and decided to see how things played out. By mid week, he had called again and asked me to dinner (still no conversations of substance). I thought it would be safer to meet for a drink, so we agreed on a place to meet.
It was my hope that we could have a more meaningful conversation during drinks, but between him leaving the table to answer his phone at least three times and CONSTANTLY talking about himself (his cars, his house, his money... BLAH, BLAH, BLAH... Oh yeah... he mentioned Jesus about 50 times BEFORE he invited me to his house again!!!!), I knew this would be our first and last date.
I'm polite, so I thanked him for the drink before we left and gave him the "church hug" - You KNOW the hug I'm talking about and pretty much wrote him off. He called later that night (after midnight) and I didn't answer and texted me "I MISS YOU" the next day.
So, I ATTEMPTED to nip it in the bud. I texted him "Thank you so much for the drink the other night. I enjoyed getting to know more about you, but at this time I don't see this progressing romantically and would prefer not to go out again." Since then, the guy will NOT stop texting / calling me!
I have one of the cheap phone plans that won't allow me to block him, and he knows where I work. How can I get this guy to leave me alone? This is a little scary!
. He should simmer down in a few days or a week or so. If he shows up at your job or home I'd threaten to call the police, and then follow through with action. He has no right to harass you. Also don't fall for his shananigans. He may try to come on strong with attention, flowers, and good conversation, but it will be short lived and you will have to break up with him again.
