Nayna
Unbothered
So I'm trying to wash my hands on this situation because I think it's quite ridiculous but here it goes:
My bff calls me Sunday night crying. A young woman called her from her boo's phone (I'm referring to him as her boo bus it's not official yet. He wants to wait till they hit 6 months before doing so but they are in love after 3 months). Girl claims she's been screwing him off and on for 1.5 years (unprotected as is my bff). Girl also claims that he's been driving her car and playing daddy to her kid. So he said she basically got his phone because he was arrested for a suspended license and the police called her to get her car and his stuff-girl claims he called her and asked her to come get the stuff along with the keys to his apartment.
They go back and forth. I was listening on three way. Girl wasn't rude she just wanted to know how long they been screwing because she felt her health was at risk. My friend didn't answer she basically said the phone is in your possession, figure it out. So once he is released he of course played it off because he told my bff from the beginning that he does claim a kid that isn't his and that the mother of the child would like to be with him. So he basically said this was her way of sabotaging their situation because once she went though the phone she obviously saw who he was dealing with heavily.
So she tells me not to judge her for forgiving him and that it all makes sense and that the girl was trying to break up their non relationship. And she's really going hard trying to convince me except I wasn't really hearing it. I was pretty much just like it's your life. Use protection and stop playing girlfriend to someone that isn't claiming you. She and I are very close so she told him that I wasn't feeling him anymore. I told her that I have my own man that is my concern and that I'm pretty much indifferent. So now things are weird.
She's trying to make me feel bad for not accepting what he said, she said I was going too hard because I basically said I don't trust it but it's your life. And every time she tried to keep it going I just said things like "ok" or "good luck". She said she would give my bf the benefit of the doubt if the roles were reversed. Right. I don't feel like my opinion on it really matters. It's annoying me because I don't want to keep talking about it. Like just use your brain and cut the ish. Ugh. is it possible to be a good friend but stay mute on your friends love lives?
I think I gave the best advice possible since she isn't leaving clearly. Use protection and stop playing girlfriend. Why must she keep pushing this issue?
My bff calls me Sunday night crying. A young woman called her from her boo's phone (I'm referring to him as her boo bus it's not official yet. He wants to wait till they hit 6 months before doing so but they are in love after 3 months). Girl claims she's been screwing him off and on for 1.5 years (unprotected as is my bff). Girl also claims that he's been driving her car and playing daddy to her kid. So he said she basically got his phone because he was arrested for a suspended license and the police called her to get her car and his stuff-girl claims he called her and asked her to come get the stuff along with the keys to his apartment.
They go back and forth. I was listening on three way. Girl wasn't rude she just wanted to know how long they been screwing because she felt her health was at risk. My friend didn't answer she basically said the phone is in your possession, figure it out. So once he is released he of course played it off because he told my bff from the beginning that he does claim a kid that isn't his and that the mother of the child would like to be with him. So he basically said this was her way of sabotaging their situation because once she went though the phone she obviously saw who he was dealing with heavily.
So she tells me not to judge her for forgiving him and that it all makes sense and that the girl was trying to break up their non relationship. And she's really going hard trying to convince me except I wasn't really hearing it. I was pretty much just like it's your life. Use protection and stop playing girlfriend to someone that isn't claiming you. She and I are very close so she told him that I wasn't feeling him anymore. I told her that I have my own man that is my concern and that I'm pretty much indifferent. So now things are weird.
She's trying to make me feel bad for not accepting what he said, she said I was going too hard because I basically said I don't trust it but it's your life. And every time she tried to keep it going I just said things like "ok" or "good luck". She said she would give my bf the benefit of the doubt if the roles were reversed. Right. I don't feel like my opinion on it really matters. It's annoying me because I don't want to keep talking about it. Like just use your brain and cut the ish. Ugh. is it possible to be a good friend but stay mute on your friends love lives?
I think I gave the best advice possible since she isn't leaving clearly. Use protection and stop playing girlfriend. Why must she keep pushing this issue?
, are men this scarce that you have to poke a dude playing stepdaddy to another man's baby that is also screwing someone else all while saying he likes you but won't claim you? I can't deal.
I usually stay out of friends love lives unless physical or mental harm is in play because women are testy about the dudes they love as you can see. Imo she's too far gone if she was going without protection with someone's she's known or gone out with for 3 months. 
