Hairsnob
Deep Thinker
What's This With Guys Who Want YOU to Pursue THEM???
Just curious... It seems that nowadays if I meet a guy and exchange numbers that almost every guy wants YOU to call THEM first. Call me old fashioned but I will NEVER call a guy first. It just seems like things have changed in the dating world and the men want the women to pursue them instead of the other way around.
I remember a couple of years ago I was about to exchange numbers with a guy and he said here, take my number. I said ok but you'd better take mine too because I'd rather you call or something like that. He actually said well, we probably wouldn't work out anyway because I like a woman that will call me...and then we ended the convo without exchanging numbers. Dodged a bullet with that loser anyway. He was a bit younger than my normal taste so I wrote it off to that.
I ran into a guy yesterday who I've been seeing around over the years and we exchanged numbers. He seems cool and is older than me so I figure okay, he absolutely HAS to appreciate an old fashioned gal. But after we exchanged numbers the first thing he said was okay, now I want you to call ME so that I know you're thinking about me (in a joking way). I told him straight up that I'm not good at calling people so you'd better call me. We laughed about it and went on our way.
I will never sweat a guy so if he calls he calls. If not, then so be it. But I'm just wondering if it's just the new thing or what it really means. Every man I've been in a relationship with has pursued ME and I can't see myself making that first move.
Do you ladies have a problem calling a guy first? And how has it worked out for you?
Just curious... It seems that nowadays if I meet a guy and exchange numbers that almost every guy wants YOU to call THEM first. Call me old fashioned but I will NEVER call a guy first. It just seems like things have changed in the dating world and the men want the women to pursue them instead of the other way around.
I remember a couple of years ago I was about to exchange numbers with a guy and he said here, take my number. I said ok but you'd better take mine too because I'd rather you call or something like that. He actually said well, we probably wouldn't work out anyway because I like a woman that will call me...and then we ended the convo without exchanging numbers. Dodged a bullet with that loser anyway. He was a bit younger than my normal taste so I wrote it off to that.
I ran into a guy yesterday who I've been seeing around over the years and we exchanged numbers. He seems cool and is older than me so I figure okay, he absolutely HAS to appreciate an old fashioned gal. But after we exchanged numbers the first thing he said was okay, now I want you to call ME so that I know you're thinking about me (in a joking way). I told him straight up that I'm not good at calling people so you'd better call me. We laughed about it and went on our way.
I will never sweat a guy so if he calls he calls. If not, then so be it. But I'm just wondering if it's just the new thing or what it really means. Every man I've been in a relationship with has pursued ME and I can't see myself making that first move.
Do you ladies have a problem calling a guy first? And how has it worked out for you?
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