kurlybella
Well-Known Member
so some of my ghettoist cousins had the nerve to ask me this and was like "you need to go on and have some kids."
now, they know i'm NOT married or in a committed solid long therm relationship (aka the jolie pitts type situation).
but i have lots of cousins that have kids and are not with the father/mother of their children. so to them there really are not many prerequisites to having children.
kind of goes like this: meet a guy, if his car/house is cute or if he seems to be nice, give it up. know nothing of his character or deep morals and even if you do and KNOW it's no good, give it up some more anyway. don't take bc or halfway take it, let him skeet skeet. tell everyone you are preggers and that it was an accident. dare any of the women of the family to act like they even know how bc works or halfway taking bc works. dare anyone to have any emotion other than ultimate pure joy and happiness for you. give birth. complain when he births other babies into the world with different women or goes to jail or flips out on you. act like you didn't know he wasn't any good. loudly proclaim you don't need a man anyway, that you are your kid's daddy too. turn on full blast woe is me mode. wait for child support check each month. repeat cycle in 2-3 years.
the excuses of "it was a mistake" "it was an accident" "i didn't plan for this to happen" "this is a blessing from god" is good enough for the many single moms/dads in my family as they all shake their heads in unison (because they also used the same excuses). and when they drop the last one, who is anyone to deny god. i digress. btw, we have about three "accidents" every other year. soon, the accidents will start having accidents. it's a really big problem on one side of my family but many turn a blind eye to it.
anyway, my cousin asked me this and i said i was not in a committed relationship and that i wanted to take my time to find a man that would be a good match for me.
there is a thread in the health section talking about how hispanics and blacks have an unhealthy perception of body weight and health.
and you know what, after seeing what happens on one side of my family (thank god it's not both sides) with all these babies and no stable families, and just yesterday i saw FIVE under 21 aged girls on the train pushing BABY strollers, i'd say that we also have an f'd up perception of family with 70% of our children being born to one parent homes.
if 70% of us are having "accidents" per year, something is just not right!!
but you know what, so many of us are in denial about this truth. it's a shame.
do you get asked often when you are going to have kids when you clearly are not married or are in a solid relationship?
now, they know i'm NOT married or in a committed solid long therm relationship (aka the jolie pitts type situation).
but i have lots of cousins that have kids and are not with the father/mother of their children. so to them there really are not many prerequisites to having children.
kind of goes like this: meet a guy, if his car/house is cute or if he seems to be nice, give it up. know nothing of his character or deep morals and even if you do and KNOW it's no good, give it up some more anyway. don't take bc or halfway take it, let him skeet skeet. tell everyone you are preggers and that it was an accident. dare any of the women of the family to act like they even know how bc works or halfway taking bc works. dare anyone to have any emotion other than ultimate pure joy and happiness for you. give birth. complain when he births other babies into the world with different women or goes to jail or flips out on you. act like you didn't know he wasn't any good. loudly proclaim you don't need a man anyway, that you are your kid's daddy too. turn on full blast woe is me mode. wait for child support check each month. repeat cycle in 2-3 years.
the excuses of "it was a mistake" "it was an accident" "i didn't plan for this to happen" "this is a blessing from god" is good enough for the many single moms/dads in my family as they all shake their heads in unison (because they also used the same excuses). and when they drop the last one, who is anyone to deny god. i digress. btw, we have about three "accidents" every other year. soon, the accidents will start having accidents. it's a really big problem on one side of my family but many turn a blind eye to it.
anyway, my cousin asked me this and i said i was not in a committed relationship and that i wanted to take my time to find a man that would be a good match for me.
there is a thread in the health section talking about how hispanics and blacks have an unhealthy perception of body weight and health.
and you know what, after seeing what happens on one side of my family (thank god it's not both sides) with all these babies and no stable families, and just yesterday i saw FIVE under 21 aged girls on the train pushing BABY strollers, i'd say that we also have an f'd up perception of family with 70% of our children being born to one parent homes.
if 70% of us are having "accidents" per year, something is just not right!!
but you know what, so many of us are in denial about this truth. it's a shame.
do you get asked often when you are going to have kids when you clearly are not married or are in a solid relationship?
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