Yeah I would divorce him. He can go be the man with someone else.Even though he is taking full advantage of it, he resents her being the breadwinner. He is willing to torpedo her career to get some power back. He’d have them living on 65k or even less (if this job doesn’t work out), just to lull his ego. She is right to divorce him before he can destroy her financial future.
It doesn’t look like it’s cheaper to keep him either.Agreed. She is lucky he showed his cards but now she may end up paying him alimony.
Yea, I remember this one too. As I recall, it wasn't even really a dream job in the sense that it was work he really wanted to do or a company he really wanted to work for. It was a dream situation where he liked the benefits and work environment.I remember this post and still feel like that husband is the AH here.
Facts! What I've seen is it is usually the person that earns the most has the say. 65k is nothing compared to what she makes. It reads like a no brainer. Her job takes priority.He’s making her out to be unsupportive but she seemed fine with him quitting without having another job and supporting him for months.
I bet he quits jobs a lot.Marriage is a give and take and clearly he isnt willing to take one for the team.
Divorce seems extreme but I cannot think of another alternative. If... no when she gets fired, they cannot live on his salary alone and she cannot get another job in her field. In fact, I dont even think that he will last at this job for long. In fact, he may even sabotage her career by snooping in her client's file for information to progress his own career.
Then, can you imagine? Money is the number one cause of divorce so after it all (he takes the job, she's exposed and loses hers plus is blacklisted), they bicker when she loses her job and separate anyways. AND she's ruined and can't find another job: she's effectively black listed from her industry and has to pivot/adjust elsewhere taking goodness knows how long (possibly having to get another degree unnecessarily when that is not what she wants as she appears to love her job and industry).Marriage is a give and take and clearly he isnt willing to take one for the team.
Divorce seems extreme but I cannot think of another alternative. If... no when she gets fired, they cannot live on his salary alone and she cannot get another job in her field. In fact, I dont even think that he will last at this job for long. In fact, he may even sabotage her career by snooping in her client's file for information to progress his own career.
He decided a job he only has an offer for is more important than his wife. They want to skip over that part. He had all information before he made the application. To go forward, he internally had to say I don't care about how she feels or how this impacts the team.Someone pointed this out and I am posting it here with emphasis:
Some are saying you've decided your job is important than your husband. They're ignoring that he seems to have decided a job offer is more important than your entire career
This is exactly it! Might as well take in front.Money is the number one cause of divorce so after it all (he takes the job,
People in general need to have some realistic conversations about money and lifestyle. A friends now ex wife got upset during a book club discussion about relationships and she mentioned that her work needs should be taken into consideration and if she wanted to move for her job.. Ma'am you are a middle school teacher making 70K he makes 250K+ before bonus you need to find other methods of fulfillment unless you both are ok making a major lifestyle change for your professional fulfillmentThis is Exhibit A of why women should not marry down. Especially if it's by a significant amount. 200k+ vs 65k, pre-taxes, in a city? And he doesn't seem to have stability in his field at all. If you have to quit a job to make time to apply of another job, you're doing something wrong. I don't blame her for trying to get out.
A******I think I missed something. What's the AH?