MrsMe
Well-Known Member
I rarely start threads but this one is out of my league. One of my dear friends has been crying to me for months because of her love triangle.
She's torn between two men (meanwhile some people can't get ONE
). She's 29 going on 30, educated, independent, smart and beautiful.
Man A: proposed 6 month ago after 5 years. She says he's sweet, respectful, romantic, family man, hard worker, a gifted "colorer" and always Putting her first. What's the catch? He's a liar, cheated on her (which she found out later), is not responsible financially but is working on it and got better. No kids. What bothers her the most is the fact that he has been "trying" to get a degree but has yet to complete it. Money prevented him from completing his degree so he got a 2nd job (which means he barely has time off) to get rid of some bills and get back on his feet...it's been 2 years since he left school. He has little to no ambition and complains about the fact that she doesnt give him enough praise for working two jobs despite his lack of education. Oh, and he's 37. She says she loves the way he loves her and loves him but is not in love anymore. He says he's ok with her not being in love as long as she loves him.
Man B: been friends with him for 6 years. He professed his love to her years ago but accepted the fact that she was In a serious relationship and never made a move out of place. She says she fell in love and couldn't shake the feelings. She told him two months ago how she felt and they kissed
but they've been trying to maintain the friendship despite their deeper connection. He's also sweet, respectful, has strong family values, is a hard worker and has no kids. He has a degree, is free of financial obligations because he got a full scholarship, is ambitious, about to buy a house and is determined to get a career before the age of 30. What's the catch with this one? Even though she knows more about him than his closest friends and family, she's never been in a relationship with him and her biggest problem is that he's 3 years younger than her...the boy lacks experience.
Both men are attractive, are well-mannered, have a sense of style (although very different), and want to see her happy no matter the outcome. She told her fiancé about her feelings for the other man and what happened and he was hurt but still wanted to work things out. (I wouldn't have said anything if I were here
) the girl is MISERABLE, though. Every time I see them together she smiles but has that sadness in her eyes. 
Old girl doesn't want to make a move!!
So...what would you do?
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She's torn between two men (meanwhile some people can't get ONE
). She's 29 going on 30, educated, independent, smart and beautiful. Man A: proposed 6 month ago after 5 years. She says he's sweet, respectful, romantic, family man, hard worker, a gifted "colorer"
and always Putting her first. What's the catch? He's a liar, cheated on her (which she found out later), is not responsible financially but is working on it and got better. No kids. What bothers her the most is the fact that he has been "trying" to get a degree but has yet to complete it. Money prevented him from completing his degree so he got a 2nd job (which means he barely has time off) to get rid of some bills and get back on his feet...it's been 2 years since he left school. He has little to no ambition and complains about the fact that she doesnt give him enough praise for working two jobs despite his lack of education. Oh, and he's 37. She says she loves the way he loves her and loves him but is not in love anymore. He says he's ok with her not being in love as long as she loves him.Man B: been friends with him for 6 years. He professed his love to her years ago but accepted the fact that she was In a serious relationship and never made a move out of place. She says she fell in love and couldn't shake the feelings. She told him two months ago how she felt and they kissed
but they've been trying to maintain the friendship despite their deeper connection. He's also sweet, respectful, has strong family values, is a hard worker and has no kids. He has a degree, is free of financial obligations because he got a full scholarship, is ambitious, about to buy a house and is determined to get a career before the age of 30. What's the catch with this one? Even though she knows more about him than his closest friends and family, she's never been in a relationship with him and her biggest problem is that he's 3 years younger than her...the boy lacks experience.Both men are attractive, are well-mannered, have a sense of style (although very different), and want to see her happy no matter the outcome. She told her fiancé about her feelings for the other man and what happened and he was hurt but still wanted to work things out. (I wouldn't have said anything if I were here
) the girl is MISERABLE, though. Every time I see them together she smiles but has that sadness in her eyes. Old girl doesn't want to make a move!! So...what would you do?
Sent from my iPad using LHCF...if only it would stop correcting what I write.
She needs to make up her mind and let those men be happy with or without her. 
I'm trying to get her to join the board and see for herself but she thinks I'm nuts. You always know how to break it down and keep it real! 
erplexed
