Aniyasmommy
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I feel like im finally ready to began dating and finding a love. Ive been hurt so bad that I have'nt been with a guy in about 3 years. I get asked out all the time and I turn them down. I throw out numbers all of that . I just did'nt feel ready. I felt like all my emotional baggage and low self asteem would ruin things before it started so I just didnt want to waste my time.
Right now Im starting to gain my life back . One big reason why I did not want to get in a relationship is because my mother has been single for close to 12 years and she is miserable. Absolutely miserable and I sorta shared in her misery. I knew that if I gone out met a guy etc. I would feel her jealously and hate because Im young in my 20's and I have my life ahead of me and she is getting old and very miserable in general.
Im sick of it and I want love . I want a partner . Im just mad at all the numbers I threw out![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
Anyway the one guy I was even remotely interested in was my type. He is GORGEOUS,Tall, SEXY, Masculine, Perfect Body Type, Perfect Teeth ...He is just everything I looked for in a man physically .
When I first moved in he was very nice to me and he asked if he could come and talk to me sometime and I batted my eyes and said yeah anytime and he smiled at me and said alrite ..
Something happened to turn him off of me. I dont know what it was but homebody never knocked on my door to get to know me. In fact he began to avoid me like the plague! All the other guys was asking me out and I turned them down and he began avoiding me.
I would walk in my building and he'd be sitting on the step and he would put his hood on and turn his body away acting like i was gonna walk up to him ..I was like WTF? It is not that serious.
He contuinues to do that . He will go out of his way to avoid me. A few days ago I was in the lobby and so was he and he was talking to his boys and he started talking about a girl he was with right in front of me. I was standing there like WOW![Roll Eyes :rolleyes: :rolleyes:](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
Im thinking somehow someway I must have turned him off. I dont know what to do . I put on some weight so maybe that's it ???Maybe I dont dress good enough and he likes women that dress up everyday ???
Right now Im trying to get in shape(not for him) and Im losing weight fairly quickly but Im still wearing all of my old clothes and a big winter jacket and I refuse to buy new clothes .
I want this guy.
I need to know what can I do to grab his attention . Im thinking that one day when I know he is outside I could show up noticably slimmer, in a banging outfit looking nothing short of amazing ...and have him look at me and get all hot and bothered
I mean even if he isnt feeling my personality he obviously had to be attracted to me at some point so even if I just rub my sexy up in his face that'd be good enough for me ![Grin :grin: :grin:](/smilies/grin.gif)
One of his friends asked me out and i was not with it
I want HIM.
I aint gonna lie Im kinda pissed he played me like that. For awhile I was having all sorts of fantasies about us doing the deed...He is so gorgeous![Lick :lick: :lick:](/smilies/lick.gif)
I already racked my brain wondering what could have turned him off so dramatically ..I cant figure it out.
One guy did tell me that I looked angry all the time. He wasnt the first guy eithier. Another man made that same remark to me a few days later. I didnt even realize I was frowning and I look this way all the time LOL I was like what are you talking about ? He said I wish I had a mirror you look like you ready to fight 24/7![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
Right now Im starting to gain my life back . One big reason why I did not want to get in a relationship is because my mother has been single for close to 12 years and she is miserable. Absolutely miserable and I sorta shared in her misery. I knew that if I gone out met a guy etc. I would feel her jealously and hate because Im young in my 20's and I have my life ahead of me and she is getting old and very miserable in general.
Im sick of it and I want love . I want a partner . Im just mad at all the numbers I threw out
![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
Anyway the one guy I was even remotely interested in was my type. He is GORGEOUS,Tall, SEXY, Masculine, Perfect Body Type, Perfect Teeth ...He is just everything I looked for in a man physically .
When I first moved in he was very nice to me and he asked if he could come and talk to me sometime and I batted my eyes and said yeah anytime and he smiled at me and said alrite ..
Something happened to turn him off of me. I dont know what it was but homebody never knocked on my door to get to know me. In fact he began to avoid me like the plague! All the other guys was asking me out and I turned them down and he began avoiding me.
I would walk in my building and he'd be sitting on the step and he would put his hood on and turn his body away acting like i was gonna walk up to him ..I was like WTF? It is not that serious.
He contuinues to do that . He will go out of his way to avoid me. A few days ago I was in the lobby and so was he and he was talking to his boys and he started talking about a girl he was with right in front of me. I was standing there like WOW
Im thinking somehow someway I must have turned him off. I dont know what to do . I put on some weight so maybe that's it ???Maybe I dont dress good enough and he likes women that dress up everyday ???
Right now Im trying to get in shape(not for him) and Im losing weight fairly quickly but Im still wearing all of my old clothes and a big winter jacket and I refuse to buy new clothes .
I want this guy.
I need to know what can I do to grab his attention . Im thinking that one day when I know he is outside I could show up noticably slimmer, in a banging outfit looking nothing short of amazing ...and have him look at me and get all hot and bothered
![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
![Grin :grin: :grin:](/smilies/grin.gif)
One of his friends asked me out and i was not with it
I aint gonna lie Im kinda pissed he played me like that. For awhile I was having all sorts of fantasies about us doing the deed...He is so gorgeous
![Lick :lick: :lick:](/smilies/lick.gif)
I already racked my brain wondering what could have turned him off so dramatically ..I cant figure it out.
One guy did tell me that I looked angry all the time. He wasnt the first guy eithier. Another man made that same remark to me a few days later. I didnt even realize I was frowning and I look this way all the time LOL I was like what are you talking about ? He said I wish I had a mirror you look like you ready to fight 24/7
![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
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