Danene5
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I don't mind sharing with you ladies. I have been in this LD relationship for almost 2 years. And I don't have a clue about what to do in my situation. I am going to let you all read our e-mail conversation. Please let me know what you think. I do love him deeply and I don't want to leave.
Him:
gm, u have no idea how much aggrevation i am getting, i unable to find a job that is not cu service crap, i am one of the biggest sinners alive, i dont go to church here b/c i dont like them, i dont get to church period, b/c i am a sinner, there fore i dont think God is listening to me, then i think he is listening b/c of the opportunity in b more that he gave me, i just aggrevated, i hate my job, and its started to get to me, i dont quit b/c i dont have the balls, and u bothering me about talking to you all the time, i mean dang can i get a break sometimes, can i just chill and relax, i am not the man for you, thats just that, i am not the man for any one, i just need to stay by my self, and satisfy my own needs, i am just not compatible w/ ne one
Me:
Him:
gm, u have no idea how much aggrevation i am getting, i unable to find a job that is not cu service crap, i am one of the biggest sinners alive, i dont go to church here b/c i dont like them, i dont get to church period, b/c i am a sinner, there fore i dont think God is listening to me, then i think he is listening b/c of the opportunity in b more that he gave me, i just aggrevated, i hate my job, and its started to get to me, i dont quit b/c i dont have the balls, and u bothering me about talking to you all the time, i mean dang can i get a break sometimes, can i just chill and relax, i am not the man for you, thats just that, i am not the man for any one, i just need to stay by my self, and satisfy my own needs, i am just not compatible w/ ne one
Me:
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif][FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #1 Are you trying to say that I don't want to spend time with you? I try but you are always doing something on the weekend. I try not to inconvenience you because I know that you are a busy man.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #2 Are you trying to say that I am not supportive? Being supportive means being there and I think that I have. It is hard to be supportive of and for someone that doesn't let you know what there next move is. I do understand that you are trying to make moves and I have nothing to say about that, There are many things that I could have said but chose not to because I want you to be happy.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #3 You thought about V-day? Apparently not because the first time I heard anything about B-More was when I was upset at work and told you that I didn't care about where I would go, and that I just needed to get away. And I sent you a message on myspace reminding you of that. You never mentioned B-more then eithier. What am I supposed to think.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #4 I didn't say that on my voicemail. I stated that I was tired and that I was going to bed early if you got the message b4 11pm give me a call if not then we would have to talk on today.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #5 respect your B-more trip?? I can't respect what I don't know.
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[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #6 explain yourself? I am not asking you to explain yourself or the decisions and choices that you choose in life. I am asking you to let me know so that I can be supportive and be there for you. You make that impossible when you feel that I am out to get you in some type of way,[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Maybe, you'll understand maybe you won't but I just wanted you to see what I felt.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]----- Original Message ----
Sent: Tuesday, January 22, 2008 9:18:22 AM
Subject: Re: email as requested
Him: you know what u wanted to do, you know what go on ur curise and have fun, obvisously you didnt wanted spend to much time w/ me, so u walking around w/ attitudes. guess i need a supportive woman, that understands i am trying to make moves, so have fun in what ever you decide to do. and if u ever decide to talk to me again you have the number. this is a new year and new beginnings. ps i thought about v-day, i had already schedule my time to go to b more and if you cannot respect that, i cannot respect you, thats a plain as i can put it. bout last nite u said if i didnt call you by 11 you would call later, so you can call when you get time. but once again if you cannot respect my b-more trip i cannot respect you. when i say i want to see you, i am dead serious, any way i am tired of explaining my self to people like i am child. so have fun and remain blessed in you life endeavors, i am done. i get aggrevated at work, off work, and every where, only peace i have is when i am at the gym. so i am done. love ya, may God bless
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[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #2 Are you trying to say that I am not supportive? Being supportive means being there and I think that I have. It is hard to be supportive of and for someone that doesn't let you know what there next move is. I do understand that you are trying to make moves and I have nothing to say about that, There are many things that I could have said but chose not to because I want you to be happy.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #3 You thought about V-day? Apparently not because the first time I heard anything about B-More was when I was upset at work and told you that I didn't care about where I would go, and that I just needed to get away. And I sent you a message on myspace reminding you of that. You never mentioned B-more then eithier. What am I supposed to think.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #4 I didn't say that on my voicemail. I stated that I was tired and that I was going to bed early if you got the message b4 11pm give me a call if not then we would have to talk on today.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #5 respect your B-more trip?? I can't respect what I don't know.
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[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Question #6 explain yourself? I am not asking you to explain yourself or the decisions and choices that you choose in life. I am asking you to let me know so that I can be supportive and be there for you. You make that impossible when you feel that I am out to get you in some type of way,[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Maybe, you'll understand maybe you won't but I just wanted you to see what I felt.[/FONT]
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]----- Original Message ----
Sent: Tuesday, January 22, 2008 9:18:22 AM
Subject: Re: email as requested
Him: you know what u wanted to do, you know what go on ur curise and have fun, obvisously you didnt wanted spend to much time w/ me, so u walking around w/ attitudes. guess i need a supportive woman, that understands i am trying to make moves, so have fun in what ever you decide to do. and if u ever decide to talk to me again you have the number. this is a new year and new beginnings. ps i thought about v-day, i had already schedule my time to go to b more and if you cannot respect that, i cannot respect you, thats a plain as i can put it. bout last nite u said if i didnt call you by 11 you would call later, so you can call when you get time. but once again if you cannot respect my b-more trip i cannot respect you. when i say i want to see you, i am dead serious, any way i am tired of explaining my self to people like i am child. so have fun and remain blessed in you life endeavors, i am done. i get aggrevated at work, off work, and every where, only peace i have is when i am at the gym. so i am done. love ya, may God bless
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif][FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Me:I was grown and called you and you didn't answer. But I am disappointed rather in the decisions that you choose to make regarding us. But I can't be upset with you doing you, like you do. Of course, you know that I wanted to spend time with you on V-Day. And that is impossible at this moment, because you thought only of yourseld as time pasted by. But what else could I ask for. And you can't say that I didn't let you know. Because I told you that 3wks ago. But I will just book a short cruise at that time, since I can't be with you.
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]----- Original Message ----
Sent: Monday, January 21, 2008 10:11:06 PM
Subject: Re: email as requested
Him: once again, it is not me that does not care it is you. for some reason you holding grudges and if you are going to do that, you can do that by urself. yeah my life is busy, but not once have i said i was to busy for you. if you wanna act funny keep it to urself. i am sick and tired of this back and forth w. you, if you feel i am not benefit you should find a man that is. its like i get aggrevated at work and then come home to you acting funny, if i did something open your mouth and say something, i dont have time for the guessing game all day, its coo sometimes. so what i need from you is to weigh the good w./ bad and if one i weighs the other you know what you have to do, and if you have something to say, be grown and call me,
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[/FONT][FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]----- Original Message ----
Sent: Monday, January 21, 2008 10:11:06 PM
Subject: Re: email as requested
Him: once again, it is not me that does not care it is you. for some reason you holding grudges and if you are going to do that, you can do that by urself. yeah my life is busy, but not once have i said i was to busy for you. if you wanna act funny keep it to urself. i am sick and tired of this back and forth w. you, if you feel i am not benefit you should find a man that is. its like i get aggrevated at work and then come home to you acting funny, if i did something open your mouth and say something, i dont have time for the guessing game all day, its coo sometimes. so what i need from you is to weigh the good w./ bad and if one i weighs the other you know what you have to do, and if you have something to say, be grown and call me,
[FONT=times new roman, new york, times, serif]Me"Well you asked for it, I will make it short and simple. I am starting to belive that you don't give a damn about me and my feelings count for nothing to you. I come behind everything else. Which I can expect, unfortunately. If you have too much going on in your life at this time to be bothered with me. Please let me know.
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