What is the best way to kick out a live in boyfriend?

ThatJerseyGirl said:
chile puleez...dayum alluvdat. it's too dayum hot to be goin thru da bullshyt.

stay home, pack his stuff and put it out. change da locks n call it a day. block his number so u don't hafta hear da bullshyt.

when u put ur foot down and stand for something, he'll respect you more cuz lemme tell u, if da shoe was on the other foot, you woulda been outta his house long time ago, writing to us tellin us how u don't have a place to stay.

betta handle ur bidness n stop playin.
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I totally agree. Just forget about the law and kick him out. If he doesn't go willingly then pack it up and put it outside. It takes too much work for the garden variety loser to file a lawsuit and most know the cops aren't their friends. He's not on the lease so there's not a lot he can do. He is not going to bother you

I went through the same thing when I was ending it with my loser ex bf. We had been together on and off for ten years. He also tried to sweet talk me or guilt trip me everytime I was mad enough to throw him out. I finally got fed up and wanted him out. At first he hemmed and hawed. He threatened to sue. He also threatened to go to my job and embarass me in front of my coworkers and boss. But I stood my ground and he left by the day I told him he had to be gone. Typical of him he left at the last possible minute and had to make a big show when he gave me back the key, but he did leave and I never heard from him again.

Just make sure to plan stuff out beforehand. Like everyone is saying, have a male friend who can be there if he gets ignant.If you have your name on any accounts or bills with him, take care of that before you let him know what is going on and arrange to have the locks changed that day. I had to lie and say that someone had stolen them. I was dumb enough back then to have had a joint account with this fool and needed his signature to get him off. I tricked him into signing the document and got him off before everything went down. Maybe not entirely legal, but I was THROUGH with him.

Just do whatever you have to do get him out hon. Stay strong because you will be so happy after it's all over. I felt like it was Christmas coming home without him being there.
 
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I dont get it.. if your such a horribel gf and not supportive.. why is he still there?? Im sorry I dunno what to advise OP.. Ive neever been in this situation.. I say do it right tho.. research the laws in your area and go from there... GOOD LUCK and stand STRONG THIS TIME!!!!
 
Star86 said:
when i tell him that i wish for him to move, he has stated how black women don't support black men,
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what do the LHCF kang defenders have to say about this here mess. The "that's why blakc men run from black women" brigade? where are yall :rolleyes:

I cant beliieve that him saying such SHYT doesnt piss you off OP. The fact that it causes "guilt" instead is weird as hell. I'd laugh in his face as Im bleaching his ish if I heard that crazy

But that's just me.
 
is this the same dude with the recently discovered kid, who constantly puts you down, who doesn't want to work because he's supposed to have some money coming in? not that guy?:nono:

throw his **** out on the curb, change the locks and move on with your life.:yep:

i really hope your next thread is about how you've left him and you couldn't be happier.
 
He sounds like a Freggin sociopath and this is going to probably be a pattern for a lonnnggg time unarse him now before its too late.
 
I dont think the question is "how do I kick him out". I think you need to arrive at the place where you are truly done w/ him, because if you were truly done his a$$ would be out already. When a woman's fed up aint nuthin you can do about it!

Best of luck and stay strong!
 
Oasis said:
is this the same dude with the recently discovered kid, who constantly puts you down, who doesn't want to work because he's supposed to have some money coming in? not that guy?:nono:

throw his **** out on the curb, change the locks and move on with your life.:yep:

i really hope your next thread is about how you've left him and you couldn't be happier.
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WOWZERS.....how did you remember all that?
 
ThatJerseyGirl said:
i wouldn't care if he was ignant or not. i'd show him whose balls were bigger cuz see, men like him are cowards. he ain't tryna go to court to sue for something that don't belong to him because if dat was the case, he wouldn't be takin her on some guilt trip.

find a bunch of guys, and put his stuff out.

yall know me. i'd go out in a blaze of glory. his drawers, sneakers, all dat would be outside. i wouldn't give a dayum bout no neighbors or anybody watchin.

and would be sittin on da stoop smokin a newport, tote'n waitin for a bama to get stoopit. but das just me tho....gotta do it jersey style...

let my daughter call me wif some bs bout some boy. she already know how momma roll...it be on n poppin.
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Why did I just picture this :lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:
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You're the kinda friend a woman needs lol :lol:
Real talk, some times it just has to be like that. I know not everyone has the balls to carry on big and bad, but some of these ****'s really really really do need it.
 
As someone whose sister has been through this (with 2 guys no less)

I'd say put his arse out. His name isn't on the lease? then put his ish out, tell him to come get his stuff and have some friends around you for support.

And OP, I say this as someone who has and is currently watching this mess from a family, please dont move in with anyone who isnt your husband. That way, if he gets ignorant, you just dont answer the door.

black women dont support black men, my arse. But that's a whole different thread
 
You can pack Hefty strong black trash bags and drop them from as high as the 4th floor window of a brownstone without breaking the trash bag ... the contents are not guaranteed.
 
loved said:
Embarrass him in front of his friends and family. I know someone who couldn't get rid of a dude so she had someone call his best friend and tell the friend how she (the live in GF) was fed up and sexually frustrated because they had not been together in months & that she was concerned that her brothers would come throw him out, plus a whole lot of other stuff.

Before this live in GF had packed his stuff a couple times & he would just come home and unpack it. After GF's bestie humiliated with his boy, he packed up himself and left.
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Was the best friend's name Jim, James, Paul, or Tyrone? *sings along with Erykah badu*
 
You need to make sure you aren't just mad and want to put him out.
Have to be sure you WILL NOT take him back after you get LONELY or BORED

1. Check ASAP on the laws in your city FIRST because ignoring the law WILL land you in trouble

2. If the law says you can put him out buy some locks and call out a cruiser or ask while you're at the station if a cop can accompany you because he is verbally abusive and unpredictable

3. Call over some guy you trust to "stand watch" while you change locks.

4. After the night/day he leaves file a restraining order because of the verbal abuse and refusal to leave.

5. Change your cell number and BLOCK his emails no we CAN'T be friends still I'm horrible remember

6. Don't be dumb with the "we can still be friends stuff"

7. After the lease is up MOVE girl MOVE!!!
 
This is why I always keep a few males friends that are police officers or in law enforcement. They can likely tell you what the law says and if he has any warrants to anything they could possible pick him up for. You need to get creative and I would say try to work within the law. Pick and a date and just do it.
 
PLEASE check with your city/state's laws. You CAN get in trouble for kicking someone out in a lawless manner. That's no joke. Depending on the state, some people are entitled to 1 month to 3 months before you can kick them out. However, I am concerned for your safety during that time. Some men can be unbalanced and retaliate... I don't want dude to stab you in the middle of the night on the day the law has decided he should move out...

Other options:

Does have a job where he is away for a number of hours? if so, perhaps it's time for YOU to move out. Break the lease legally with the landlord, then move out while he is at work.

If he is not working, buy him a free movie tix and move out while he is watching Final Destination. :look:
 
OP... you STAY posting in the relationship forum for advice...ABOUT THE SAME NO GOOD MAN! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Words on a screen can only do so much. Put thought into action!
 
pack all of his things and take it to his mother's house and have the locks changed. you have to do that when his is not there.
 
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