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Wildchild453

Wildchild453

When I hit waist I stop
when someone comments and says you have 'good' hair?

I was at my locker yesterday gettin ready to leave and this semi-friend of mine came over and was like "Damn you go some good hair!"

I didn't know what to do, I just stared for a few moments then said 'thank you'.

What do you ladies do in the situation?
 
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You tell them to :censored: up...j/k

T: Whoa, you have good hair
U: Thank you, but anybody who gives there hair a little TLC can have good hair. You know healthy hair girl......
 
Go the innocent route and be like "I'm glad some black folks don't think good hair is all about texture and more about health. I don't think good hair is exclusive to those whose hair has more european qualities but good hair is about health and I've (insert action here: washing, airdrying, oiling ends) and I'm glad it's made my hair so healthy and I think it's sweet you noticed it's so healthy" And then do the classic Girlfriend eyeroll and say "Grrl it don't matter how straight it is , if it ain't healthy" and laugh about it.
 
AnnDriena_ said:
And then do the classic Girlfriend eyeroll and say "Grrl it don't matter how straight it is , if it ain't healthy" and laugh about it.
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But that's the thing my isn't straight, its widly curly. So in my mind I was like 'wtf, hair is hair'
 
I've said "whatever that is." Or it depends on how they said it;for example: When I first started transitioning I was told by friend's sister "You got that good hair, not everyone has hair like you." I told her 'your hair is just like mine.' And one of my cousins is still in awe that I am continuing my transition and she is always saying that she has that "rough stuff" and she "has to perm". I just let her and everyone else talking that stuff know that if you don't try and make your hair do something that it doesn't want to do ,like lie down, you & your hair will be alright. :D
 
Im always surprised when people say that I have good hair.... I never heard that growing up so when I hear it now Im taken aback for some reason.
 
WIldchild, I would love to see your hair album but am having trouble with the links.
 
I just say thanks...It seems like I wasted my time when I had tried in previous instances to explain what "good hair" actually is.
 
Cosigning with CharUK and Ayeshia...I just say thanks and know in my heart and mind that there is no such thing as good hair and bad hair (in reference to texture). Now dried and fried up overprocessed hair is bad hair...regardless of texture.
 
Well, I have 4b hair and when I was getting the relaxed hair cut off, the girl that cut it said I had some "good hair". I smiled and said thanks because she's right. I do have good hair. I have a nice thick head of healthy hair and that's "good" to me. Maybe the person that said you have good hair considers all hair textures good. Maybe she is one of the people that doesn't consider just types 1, 2, and 3 hair types to be "good".
 
Since I've been transitioning, my fam./friends are like "you can do that cause you have good hair" I sit there and go through my thoughts about healthy hair being good hair, and our hair (black ppl) being unique and beautiful.........the next time I see them, I still get the same "good hair" comment. :ohwell:

I'm tired of talking now....I just give one of those half, 'trying to hold a fart in' smiles and keep it movin.
 
Chinagem said:
Well, I have 4b hair and when I was getting the relaxed hair cut off, the girl that cut it said I had some "good hair". I smiled and said thanks because she's right. I do have good hair. I have a nice thick head of healthy hair and that's "good" to me. Maybe the person that said you have good hair considers all hair textures good. Maybe she is one of the people that doesn't consider just types 1, 2, and 3 hair types to be "good".
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Maybe, but maybe not. I don't know it just took me by surprise. I mean I've heard my cousins say it to my before but I'm always like 'no such thing' but I just didn't know what to say to her
 
I am a 4b, so no one generally says this to me...sad but true Last month, at my SO's sister's birthday dinner, I wore a braid-out. One of her friend's--who I had met at least 3 times at that point--is a relaxed type 2 or 3. At some point during the meal, she says begins to ask me about my hair and what product I use. I start telling her, and she interjects to say something about my "good hair". So I was trying to explain to her that my hair only seemed wavy because I was wearing it out, but she flagged me, and was like, yeah, but if you didn't have good hair, it still wouldn't look like that. So I said, well, it's healthy, if that's what you mean, and shrugged. *insert blank stare here* *insert sister's friend turning to have a conversation with someone else*

I could be wrong, but I don't think a lifetime of people saying "good/bad hair" (and incidentally, I'd wager these are the same people who say "pretty eyes" anytime they see a shade lighter than brown on a brown person) can be changed by a snappy comeback. I like AnnDriena's idea, though, but I just think they don't change.
 
divine said:
You tell them to :censored: up...j/k

T: Whoa, you have good hair
U: Thank you, but anybody who gives there hair a little TLC can have good hair. You know healthy hair girl......
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ITA, I usually something along those lines. :)
 
I like this reply: "Thanks, so do you!" said with a smile. Then if they try to argue with you that their hair is not "good," just run for the hills. :lol:
 
The other day my coworker was describing the hair of a woman she knows and she used the phrase "good hair" I asked her what she meant by that, but she couldn't really say. She was looking at me like I should already know what that means. I was asking her "Do you mean healthy hair?, Easy to maintain?, What is her hair type? Describe it to me because I want to understand what you mean..." Her eyes kinda glazed over as I described the different hair types to see if she was favoring one over the other. She said that the woman's hair grows quickly. I knew she didn't really know so I mentioned that it's probably healthy so it won't break as much and she can achieve length. My other coworkers kinda chuckled and later chimed in when the convo turned to haircare. My coworker still didn't get it about the whole "good hair" phrase. I bet she won't be using it around me anymore though.
 
I've learned that people don't want to know that there is no such thing as good hair. So I normally I say "Whatever" but now I will use Ann Dreina's comment because I get harassed on a daily basis as to why I don't perm my hair straight, so now I have a snappy comeback.
 
My usual response, "Where I come from, any hair is good hair. I'm just fortunate to have some!" They usually quiet down after that.
 
I say thank you, but I also be sure to note that there's no such thing as good hair, maybe good/bad hair DAYS, but no such thing as good/bad hair.
 
My parents didn't tolerate the "good hair/bad hair" thing but it didn't stop people from saying I had a "good grade of hair." So I tell whoever says that to me that "All hair is good hair - good hair is hair that stays on your head!"
 
I usually get it from people with perms who don't realize how their OWN hair looks underneath, which is probably not different from mine!
 
I don't say anything really, I don't know what to say. Many people think that my twistouts are my natural texture. I actually am very pleased when I get compliments of any kind, because I don't expect them because my hair is short.

but the good hair bad hair thing...

I don't know. Sometimes I feel that I am not responsible to and don't have the energy to "correct" ingnorance.
 
i usually dont say anything cuz chances are most people arent receptive to the knowledge and seem to love thinking that their hair is bad...so let em be...
 
i ususally jus say thanks but i wonder? b/c the def of "good hair" to me jus healthy hair not any particular "nice texture" but o well.
 
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