Kimbosheart
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He is a great guy. He's patient, he's sweet, he's really into me. I've known him forever and we were both surprised that we connected so well. We have been talking romantically for about three months. Right now he lives a few hours away, but I will be moving closer to him in the next month because of a job.
He calls all the time, he texts me good morning and good night, calls throughout the day. We've met each others families. I feel like I am a part of his life, we make plans for the future and he's driven up to come see me.
The problem, is that he just got out of a long-term relationship before we started talking. He has been with this girl for 7 years and this is their 3rd or fourth break-up, the longest they've been apart is for a year.
Even though I feel like his feelings for me are genuine I don't want to be a rebound girl. We've talked about this and he says he feels like we can have a serious future together but he just needs time to get over her and put that behind him. He doesn't want to hold me back and he doesn't want to lose me either. I agree with him, I hope he wouldn't be able to get over her quickly. So I told him, if he decided that what they had is done and over then me and him could continue to talk and just take things slow.
But I don't think he's made that decision. Every time she calls and says she wants him back, even though she broke up with him, it confuses him. So yesterday I called him and I told him that I think he should just leave me alone until he figures things out. He was really upset about that, he was planning to come and visit me this weekend. He kept saying I'm sorry I didn't decide fast enough for you. I tried to explain that it wasn't the speed but just the lack of any decision. THey have been breaking up/broken up for over 4 months now. And if she's still calling him and he's still willing to entertain it, then they still have something to discuss. I told him to take his time and that I shouldn't be in the picture because I may be pressuring him to make a decision he isn't ready to make.
Am I being a scaredy cat? I've been in his position before and I know I needed time to get over my ex but I had also made up my mind to be done with a guy I had 10 years of history with. I just don't want to get hurt, but who does. I let him go,if its meant to be then maybe it will be.
What am I doing?
Did I do the right thing?
Would y'all have stayed around a continued to be patient with him?
What am I waiting for him to do, to say to me?
He calls all the time, he texts me good morning and good night, calls throughout the day. We've met each others families. I feel like I am a part of his life, we make plans for the future and he's driven up to come see me.
The problem, is that he just got out of a long-term relationship before we started talking. He has been with this girl for 7 years and this is their 3rd or fourth break-up, the longest they've been apart is for a year.
Even though I feel like his feelings for me are genuine I don't want to be a rebound girl. We've talked about this and he says he feels like we can have a serious future together but he just needs time to get over her and put that behind him. He doesn't want to hold me back and he doesn't want to lose me either. I agree with him, I hope he wouldn't be able to get over her quickly. So I told him, if he decided that what they had is done and over then me and him could continue to talk and just take things slow.
But I don't think he's made that decision. Every time she calls and says she wants him back, even though she broke up with him, it confuses him. So yesterday I called him and I told him that I think he should just leave me alone until he figures things out. He was really upset about that, he was planning to come and visit me this weekend. He kept saying I'm sorry I didn't decide fast enough for you. I tried to explain that it wasn't the speed but just the lack of any decision. THey have been breaking up/broken up for over 4 months now. And if she's still calling him and he's still willing to entertain it, then they still have something to discuss. I told him to take his time and that I shouldn't be in the picture because I may be pressuring him to make a decision he isn't ready to make.
Am I being a scaredy cat? I've been in his position before and I know I needed time to get over my ex but I had also made up my mind to be done with a guy I had 10 years of history with. I just don't want to get hurt, but who does. I let him go,if its meant to be then maybe it will be.
What am I doing?
Did I do the right thing?
Would y'all have stayed around a continued to be patient with him?
What am I waiting for him to do, to say to me?
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