Waist Length 2013

I'm starting to rethink this waistlength thing. If my hair gets that long, that's cool. But if not, I'm good.

For one that's a lot of hair and I'm petite. Also the only two people I've seen with similar texture to me with wl hair go extra hard in the paint as far as protective styling. I'm talking no heat for years at a time and protective styling like almost 100% of the time. I'm not that dedicated and I like to wear my hair straight and out at least sometimes.

I think I will be happy w about bsl. Bsl is like whatever on here but irl that's a lot of hair and LONG to me. But I will just continue to reassess my goals as my hair gets longer.

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Imani said:
I'm starting to rethink this waistlength thing. If my hair gets that long, that's cool. But if not, I'm good.

For one that's a lot of hair and I'm petite. Also the only two people I've seen with similar texture to me with wl hair go extra hard in the paint as far as protective styling. I'm talking no heat for years at a time and protective styling like almost 100% of the time. I'm not that dedicated and I like to wear my hair straight and out at least sometimes.

I think I will be happy w about bsl. Bsl is like whatever on here but irl that's a lot of hair and LONG to me. But I will just continue to reassess my goals as my hair gets longer.

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Its cool...just know that you are still welcomed here:yep:...who knows...maybe next year you may want longer than BSL.:lol:...and yes...BSL is a lot of hair...but it all depends on what you believe you can really handle.
 
OMG ya'll...i was having an irritating day yesterday.

The thing is....i was at work and i my hair was molested....and even though i always had in mind what i would do if somebody just came up and started digging in my hair....i was SO caught off guard i almost didn't know what to say. I felt humiliated.

I was standing at the cash wrap (im a cashier)...and...don't get me wrong...i love my co-workers...we always have fun...we do..but yesterday just felt in appropriate...i digress..anyway..im standing there and one of the co-managers comes up by me and sees this pen on my counter and she asks me if it was this other manager's pen...so i'm like "i don't know it's been up there all day:look:"...so..out of nowhere the pen ends up in my hair...and she's laughing telling the other manager as he walks up asking about this stupid pen.."SHE had it! It was in her hair like THIS!" w/the pen dangling from my curly side puff...so i was really put off guard..but what hurt was when the other manager...my GM mind you goes..."can we sanitize this?" and he was laughing...i didn't find it funny....so i called them haters...i'm sorry...it was the first thing that came to mind bc they are all Hispanic with thin hair...thin...and they ALWAYS have something to say about my hair no matter what i do to it.

So that moment passes...and bc i've been feeling emotional all week..i'm guessing maybe i'm taking this too serious.

BUT THEN...

I'm standing at the time clock later on at the end of my shift...punching in my numbers to clock out...

TELL ME WHY....i had 3 managers ambush me w/their hands in my hair???!:mad: And usually i don't mind somebody "boinging" a curl....but they were full force GRABBING my hair. It felt degrading....it happened so fast i was shocked :shocked:...until i finally heard myself saying (i work in a pet store) "I don't know WHERE ya'll hands have been! Ya'll been touching DEAD ANIMALS ALL DAY AND YOU'RE PUTTIN THAT MESS IN MY HAIR!!!"...The female manager chimes in.."I washed mine"...so i just go "SERIOUSLY...GIVE ME 50 FEET..IT'S BEEN A BUSY DAY!" and i walked off.

I am a Christian but i wanted to say some choice words to them about what they did. I just didn't know WHAT to say! Plus also the fact that i am the ONLY Black person to ever work there...my conscience kept telling me...don't feed into their ignorance.

I'll be SO glad when December comes so i can transfer....i'm waiting for the semester to end and since it's right across the street from my job...i continue working there even though i JUST moved 30 miles away.

I wanted to cry. Idk if it's bc of the whole Troy Davis situation, plus the fact that i'm still reading the Help...i just felt like i was back in the 50's or something...it feels like we're going back in time.

I go back to work today...and if thos particular ppl work today....i honestly have no clue HOW i will act.:nono:
 
Do not apologize for feeling the way you do. Feeling humiliated is not "taking this too serious." Not only did one person cross the line by invading your space and touching your person but a whole group did. I really feel for you. Something like that should be reported. Seriously. If you do not want to be touched -- and that includes your hair -- then you do not want to be touched and everyone should respect that.
It doesn't matter if they washed their hands or not; their hands should never be on you without asking for and being granted permission first. This is not something that is up for discussion or debate. If you say "no" that's the end of it and you should allows have the opportunity to say decide because it's your body and not theirs.

I am pissed this has happened to you. How dare someone feel like they are entitled to someone else's body like that.
 
Sorry about your irritating day SmilingElephant

I guess today is my turn for an irritating day cause I wanna cry... I'm so sick of having awkward length hair...
I never wear it out because I hate bantu knots I can't cornrow, I get ssks from 2 strand, I've been keeping it in plaits under a wig but it's getting on my nerves. I tried a wash & go and I realized how short it is and it wasn't even dry so it had more shrinking to do.
All I want is nice hair... I want shoulder length all around when it's shrunken but it will be forever before then... I don't know what to do. I may just break the bank and get some individual braids put in but if I do that it'll only last a month. I need suggestions before I shave it all off seriously.
 
Just checking in...it's been a while...still going strong here...co washing on a regular, bunning or low man styles most of the time but enjoying my hair as I go:yep: I was watching a movie with JLo and I just loved her hair in it...a couple more inches and I'll be at BSL which is where here hair was. WL may be much but I'm going to get there first :yep:before I decide on what my maintenance length is going to be.
 
Ravengirl said:
Do not apologize for feeling the way you do. Feeling humiliated is not "taking this too serious." Not only did one person cross the line by invading your space and touching your person but a whole group did. I really feel for you. Something like that should be reported. Seriously. If you do not want to be touched -- and that includes your hair -- then you do not want to be touched and everyone should respect that.
It doesn't matter if they washed their hands or not; their hands should never be on you without asking for and being granted permission first. This is not something that is up for discussion or debate. If you say "no" that's the end of it and you should allows have the opportunity to say decide because it's your body and not theirs.

I am pissed this has happened to you. How dare someone feel like they are entitled to someone else's body like that.
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Thank you.

I confronted one of the managers today. The others weren't there. But we were just talking about something and somehow it led to him saying he didn't wanna invade my personal space. I stopped him and said "yeah, you NEED to respect my personal space fa real tho...especially after yesterday!"....of course I get the dumb-what-I-did-look in return and I said..."y'all molested my hair yo and honestly I didn't even like it. I did NOT like that at all. I felt overwhelmed like...daaaayyyyummmm really?" So he did the "Ohhh noooo....reallly...???....nooooo....don't feel like that...are you serious?" and I told him that I was. So he said "my bad yo...I'll tell (female manager) to not do that as well"...somethin like that.

THIS time I handled it politely. Bc they never touch me unless it's a greeting hug or a high five. I'm cool with those kinds of things...but all up in my hair? I might as well strip!

If it happens again not only am I cussing ppl out. I'm naming names.

It caught me SO offguard I didn't have a chance to actually scream "no". -____-

I'm sorry Silenttulip. Don't shave it off! You'll be back at square 1. May a puff or wig?

I decided to do wash n go puffs almost everyday until my hair grew out some more.
 
I'm glad you addressed the issue and feel better about it.
I hope they ask from now on.
SO hates puffs and I've been wiggin it but just don't want to anymore.
They didn't mess up ya style when they molested it did they?

SmilingElephant said:
Thank you.

I confronted one of the managers today. The others weren't there. But we were just talking about something and somehow it led to him saying he didn't wanna invade my personal space. I stopped him and said "yeah, you NEED to respect my personal space fa real tho...especially after yesterday!"....of course I get the dumb-what-I-did-look in return and I said..."y'all molested my hair yo and honestly I didn't even like it. I did NOT like that at all. I felt overwhelmed like...daaaayyyyummmm really?" So he did the "Ohhh noooo....reallly...???....nooooo....don't feel like that...are you serious?" and I told him that I was. So he said "my bad yo...I'll tell (female manager) to not do that as well"...somethin like that.

THIS time I handled it politely. Bc they never touch me unless it's a greeting hug or a high five. I'm cool with those kinds of things...but all up in my hair? I might as well strip!

If it happens again not only am I cussing ppl out. I'm naming names.

It caught me SO offguard I didn't have a chance to actually scream "no". -____-

I'm sorry @Silenttulip. Don't shave it off! You'll be back at square 1. May a puff or wig?

I decided to do wash n go puffs almost everyday until my hair grew out some more.
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silenttullip said:
I'm glad you addressed the issue and feel better about it.
I hope they ask from now on.
SO hates puffs and I've been wiggin it but just don't want to anymore.
They didn't mess up ya style when they molested it did they?
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Nah...Reina too thick...they hands kept gettin lost!:lol:

I just feel like whoopin folks...i do believe i am PMS ing today...i ate nearly a WHOLE bag of fun size Snickers!!:nono:....:lick:

Hubby is just gonna have to deal until it grows out more....thats basically how i did/do my mom...I wear this hair...so I have to wear it how i like it until it gets to where i really want it. Then watch...once you do...you'll hear him complimenting your hair to other ppl on the phone in his loud and famous conversation w/ ur Nana bc he definitely won't say it to ur face how much he loves your hair....definitely was not talkin about my mama!:look:.............:lol:
 
SmilingElephant I am so sorry to hear about that and you know they know that was sexual harrassment. That is what the complaint will fall under. So just keep that in mind. any thing that makes a person uncomfortable and make them feel vaulated is considered sexual harassment.
 
silenttullip Do you have anyone else that could cornrow it for you?

SmilingElephant your story reminded me of those "tests" they used to put people of color through... like the paper bag test, I think I remember one being putting a pencil in your hair and if it falls out you "pass" But I not sure they would have even known about that. I hope it doesn't happen again.
 
Shadiyah said:
SmilingElephant I am so sorry to hear about that and you know they know that was sexual harrassment. That is what the complaint will fall under. So just keep that in mind. any thing that makes a person uncomfortable and make them feel vaulated is considered sexual harassment.
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I will keep that in mind...bc i was thinking...if i complain about it..what would that be? Bc it didn't feel sexual..ya know?...i just felt violated...like a line had been crossed.



WyrdWay said:
silenttullip Do you have anyone else that could cornrow it for you?

SmilingElephant your story reminded me of those "tests" they used to put people of color through... like the paper bag test, I think I remember one being putting a pencil in your hair and if it falls out you "pass" But I not sure they would have even known about that. I hope it doesn't happen again.
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Girl don't tell me stuff like that...:nono:...cuz if they do it again i'll wanna hem em up...and im trying not to be an angry person anymore. Ppl take you for granted when they know you're a Christian and you're tryin to do by right...but its so stupid bc they end up losing either way. Just bc i'ma Christian now...don't mean i've never come close to breaking limbs and knocking ppl out before...so when ppl do things like that...i do what i can to suppress that...bc that is a weakness to go back to the old way.

So i'll try not to cuss them out...but i will name names. It just really didn't sit right w/me...especially being that i'm the ONLY black person that works there...and i'm the FIRST one to ever work there...come to find out a few months ago...the GM didn't want to hire Black ppl...and he's Hispanic and his wife is West Indian...i just don't get it...i try not to dwell on it...but it bothers me.

But you know what ya'll...God been fightin my battles all my life...i'm pretty sure He got dis!:yep::grin:
 
My hair was to the effect of this that day...this is actually me right now tho:

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LOL @ Snick! This dog has some REAL facial expressions i wish ya'll could see! He's hilarious!!



Okay...SN: I must be gaining weight...i see it inmy face in these pics:lol:...i like it tho...:grin:
 
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SmilingElephant said:
I will keep that in mind...bc i was thinking...if i complain about it..what would that be? Bc it didn't feel sexual..ya know?...i just felt violated...like a line had been crossed.


Yes because we went over this too much at work when I use to work. We always had to take those classes. you can not even get in their space. like if you are a close talker and the other person is not and don't like people that close to them it would be considered uncomfortable for that person and can be taken the wrong way. what you say to a person you have to watch that in the workplace.
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So I did henna again last night because I am so loving my color, I can just eat it up lol. I will try not to do a length check until Nov. I was going to flatiron the last time but I chicken out lol.

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Oh and I was going to post this in the thread talking about this book but couldn't find it. I got The Science of Black Hair and so far if I can keep a wake while I am reading it is good. I just got it yesterday so I am not that far along yet.
 
Hey ladies

Im the worst check in person..... EVER! However I have been still trying to grow waist length hair.

To bring you up to date:
After Nov., I relaxed on New years Eve. My hair was kind of hitting lower neck length.

I waited and stretched until April and relaxed. Then in July (3rd to be exact), I got senegalese braids and have had these since. I got it re-braided at the beginning of Sept. I am taking these out between October and November to relax in December.

Well that's my update for now. I will post pics when I do my next relaxer

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So...after about a week without actually combing my hair...i made today my wash day and BOY oh boy:nono:.

I will NEVER go that long without combing again!!! But i did finger comb...for my hair tho...finger combing is not enough! I kept wondering why my scalp was always sore...it dawned on me that I had this same problem when i was relaxed....my scalp REQUIRES me to thoroughly comb out ALL shed hairs frequently. Otherwise it gets really sore.

I also need to keep them combed out bc i snipped out about 6 single strand knots today due to them. The amount of shed hair i combed out today was the size of a golf ball.

I've recently been dealing with dryness as well...so after i shampooed, and detangled (fingers and shower comb) and de-shedded(Denman brush)...i put in some coconut oil and then my shea butter mix on top of that that i bought from DIYHaircare, plaited it up in my 6 plaits, pinned them down and threw on a beanie and went to class.

I think that i'm going to have to give up my wash n go's sooner than i thought bc the air seems to be getting dryer. So i guess i'll have to bite down and just do some protective styles.:(

I want to go back to making my own shea butter mix though...but i want it reeeeeally creamy...any ideas??
 
I am trying something to see how it will work for me. I have read about people drinking their protien and since my hair doesn't like protien very much I am going to try to take mine in by drinking. I have decided to drink Ensure high protein shake. One for breakfast everyday. I don't eat breakfast so this will be good for me. I will keep you all posted if this is helping my hair growth at all.
 
nakialovesshoes said:
@Satya_R Me, too. But I keep telling myself I can actually go from a TWA to WL in 27 months. :look:
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nakialovesshoes and @satya r why did yall cut off all your hair? you just wanted to or was there something wrong with it? I only ask because I have seen here where people grow their hair out and then just cut it all off because they want a change and just start all over again. I mean I have done it because I had problems but I don't know if I could do it just because
 
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@nakialovesshoes and @satya r why did yall cut off all your hair? you just wanted to or was there something wrong with it? I only ask because I have seen here where people grow their hair out and then just cut it all off because they want a change and just start all over again. I mean I have done it because I had problems but I don't know if I could do it just because
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Shadiyah I decided to transition out of my jheri curl & started doing the Terressentials Mud Wash detox & my new growth was popping & the next thing I know I was chopping. @ 1st I decided I was going to be a long term transitioner but I felt like it was wasteful to be using products on hair that I wasn't going to keep.
 
I haven't posted in a while (well maybe a couple days:giggle:) I want to get a wet length check pic this weekend. I feel like I'm seeing good growth...I just want to be sure. I was kinda measuring and it seems like 6 more inches would put me very close to WL ...for me so long as 2 hairs touch WL I'm claiming it:yep: In an official race the timer stops when any part of you crosses the finishes line:look:
 
nakialovesshoes said:
@Shadiyah I decided to transition out of my jheri curl & started doing the Terressentials Mud Wash detox & my new growth was popping & the next thing I know I was chopping. @ 1st I decided I was going to be a long term transitioner but I felt like it was wasteful to be using products on hair that I wasn't going to keep.
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nakialovesshoes do you really like the mud wash? I was thinking about doing it and a friend was asking about it also. I just have not brought it yet because I had decided not to buy another thing lol
 
Shadiyah said:
@nakialovesshoes do you really like the mud wash? I was thinking about doing it and a friend was asking about it also. I just have not brought it yet because I had decided not to buy another thing lol
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Shadiyah Yes, I do like the mud wash. It's a great alternative to shampoo. I have flax seed gel, shea butter & grapeseed oil- oh & AO's Rosa Mosqueta cond. Normally with so little products my hair would be dry as the desert. My crown area still isn't where I want it to be but it has definitely improved.

It's a keeper. I'm just trying to figure out how often I can use it w/o having any issues.
 
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