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I'm a little offended ---
I was at lunch at bumped into an acquaintance/coworker/spiritual friend who I also thought was a semi-decent personal friend and we got to talking about working out and doing hair. She had the nerve to joke me for considering a wig as a style option and I am really offended. Note: We're work friends only; no other outside interaction.
Me: I have very little time for working out in the afternoons now that I'm back working two jobs
Chick: Yeah I'm trying to workout also
Me: I hate morning workouts but I have got to do something to get out of this slump
Chick: I've started walking in the afternoons and that's helped a lot
Me: I plan to start morning workouts but I need a cute wig to throw on before arriving to work because I sweat really bad while working out
Chick: Unt-uh (Side Note: this is the slang sound/phrase that some of us may be familiar with that means no) I'mma laugh if you do. All that hair you got, why would you do something like that. That's crazy.
Me: I'm not opposed to wearing a wig. What's wrong with rocking a wig?
Chick: She was silent but shaking her head, rolling her eyes & making facial expressions
Me: You'll be asking for pointers when I arrive in my cute wig and be looking all fly
Chick: No I won't! You better know if I see you in a wig, I'm telling you now, I will laugh
Me: Yeah okay, I'll talk to you later
Chick: Bye
I'm very offended although I chose to walk away and not make that known. It's not even worth my time but it thoroughly annoys me how the we, as people, criticize friends/family but we are unwilling to walk up to a stranger and call them out. I thought we were better than that and oddly enough her position kinda makes me a little self-conscious because if she, my so-called friend and sister in Christ will laugh, will others?
In the winter, I wear wigs a lot during the weekend but I have a slight complex about wearing them to work for the very reasons listed within this email. I find that some (not all by no means so don't stone me for thinking I'm generalizing) AA women is very critical of others. I had one AA boss tell me years ago that ponytails are not acceptable and unprofessional. It's like we, as AA, hold each other to some high standard. I understand challenging each other for the better but dangit man. Okay, I digress.
Should I be offended?
Am I overreacting?
Have you all been joked by highly cricital AA coworkers, friends, family?
Thanks for letting me vent.
I was at lunch at bumped into an acquaintance/coworker/spiritual friend who I also thought was a semi-decent personal friend and we got to talking about working out and doing hair. She had the nerve to joke me for considering a wig as a style option and I am really offended. Note: We're work friends only; no other outside interaction.
Me: I have very little time for working out in the afternoons now that I'm back working two jobs
Chick: Yeah I'm trying to workout also
Me: I hate morning workouts but I have got to do something to get out of this slump
Chick: I've started walking in the afternoons and that's helped a lot
Me: I plan to start morning workouts but I need a cute wig to throw on before arriving to work because I sweat really bad while working out
Chick: Unt-uh (Side Note: this is the slang sound/phrase that some of us may be familiar with that means no) I'mma laugh if you do. All that hair you got, why would you do something like that. That's crazy.
Me: I'm not opposed to wearing a wig. What's wrong with rocking a wig?
Chick: She was silent but shaking her head, rolling her eyes & making facial expressions
Me: You'll be asking for pointers when I arrive in my cute wig and be looking all fly
Chick: No I won't! You better know if I see you in a wig, I'm telling you now, I will laugh
Me: Yeah okay, I'll talk to you later
Chick: Bye
I'm very offended although I chose to walk away and not make that known. It's not even worth my time but it thoroughly annoys me how the we, as people, criticize friends/family but we are unwilling to walk up to a stranger and call them out. I thought we were better than that and oddly enough her position kinda makes me a little self-conscious because if she, my so-called friend and sister in Christ will laugh, will others?
In the winter, I wear wigs a lot during the weekend but I have a slight complex about wearing them to work for the very reasons listed within this email. I find that some (not all by no means so don't stone me for thinking I'm generalizing) AA women is very critical of others. I had one AA boss tell me years ago that ponytails are not acceptable and unprofessional. It's like we, as AA, hold each other to some high standard. I understand challenging each other for the better but dangit man. Okay, I digress.
Should I be offended?
Am I overreacting?
Have you all been joked by highly cricital AA coworkers, friends, family?
Thanks for letting me vent.