Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[jerseygurl]

I know right? It is terrible. I have a planned trip to see my mommy in Niger in december 2011. I was planning to transition more than 2 years. But I know how my mom liked my natural hair and we felt like i had no choice but to relax when i was moving to canada for studies ( until then she was taking very good care of my natural hair. I relaxed at the age of 18). And she doesn't know that I am transitionning. So Maybe I will BC right before to make a surprise for her lol.
Anyway time will tell

I know she'll be pleased . My mom on the other hand thinks I'm making the worst mistake in the world by going nautral

holy guacamole! I'll be flat ironing in 4 weeks and I'm anxious as all get up!!!

Oooh I can't wait to see your length

WELL idk because I did a stupid aphogee 2 min treatment....I didn't like that stuff the first time I used it idk why I thought to use it again. I guess I thought I needed protein to get rid of the breakage but I really think I need more moisture. So because I introduced something new into my process, I'm not quite sure how the anti-snap is working. This was only my second time using it. Although I had breakage yesterday and today, I can't blame it on the anti-snap because I really think it was that stupid aphogee. So I won't be doing that again!

LFN, your flatiron is GAWJUS . I had to throw out my anti-snap cos it did nada for my hair.

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

I am in the midst of a deep conditioning where I added two tsps of Amla powder. I can't wait to dunk my head in a warm tub of water!!! Since I'm not flat-ironing my hair for the holidays (I'm waiting until January), I want a strong bun!!!

 

[LilMissSunshine5]

Hey ladies! Just checking in as I have been lurking lately LOL I am over 6 months post now! YAY! I cut off 5 inches for my new angled bob to celebrate turning 30! Plus I wanted to hurry my transition along LOL I figured now was the time to try out shorter hair

 

[LilMissSunshine5]

I meant to say I have over 5 months post LOL

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I am itching to get rid of this six inches of relaxed ends but if I do I will go from mid back to a little past shoulder. My twist outs will be so short again. Sigh. In february I will be 2 years post. I don't know what to do because these ends are driving me nuts but I will miss my length.

 

[bibirockz]

LaFemme :notworthy your hair looks awesome!! One more month until I finally flat iron, I better see some retention lol. Happy Thanksgiving ladies!

 

[NikkiQ]

Took my individual braids out today and DC'd. Loving my curls at a little over 7 months and just had to share. My natural color is total obvious in the last pic...and I hate it! I can't wait to dye my hair again. erplexed

 

[LilMissSunshine5]

^^^
So cute! Your curls are adorable!

 

[LilMissSunshine5]

I am having a moment ladies! I am feeling a little worried and I hate that I am having these feelings...I have been feeling down worrying that I won't like my curls. That I will just look nappy-headed instead of having luscious coils like ppl on this board :'( I know I need to accept my hair whatever texture it may have, but my old hair issues are cropping up. I feel like I am being self-hating, but I don't know how to change my mindset. I am going to continue transitioning, but it is really bothering me that I am not having complete acceptance of my hair :'( Any advice?

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

I am having a moment ladies! I am feeling a little worried and I hate that I am having these feelings...I have been feeling down worrying that I won't like my curls. That I will just look nappy-headed instead of having luscious coils like ppl on this board :'( I know I need to accept my hair whatever texture it may have, but my old hair issues are cropping up. I feel like I am being self-hating, but I don't know how to change my mindset. I am going to continue transitioning, but it is really bothering me that I am not having complete acceptance of my hair :'( Any advice?

The transition period includes not only the reappearance of curls, but the mentality to rediscover, love, and accept them. It will take some time (I have my moments too). Remember that the negativity was created to avoid the acceptance of diversity among the World. You will learn to love them over time. Don't beat yourself up over it.

 

[Poutchi]

Took my individual braids out today and DC'd. Loving my curls at a little over 7 months and just had to share. My natural color is total obvious in the last pic...and I hate it! I can't wait to dye my hair again. erplexed

Beautiful curls Nikki
I have to post NG pics, I am close to 9 months post now

 

[NikkiQ]

Beautiful curls Nikki
I have to post NG pics, I am close to 9 months post now

aww thanks! I think you should most def share some pics with us. I'm all about NG pics these days :giggles:

 

[dr.j]

1 year post relaxer pics!!

ALMOST made WL :-(

But of course I had to trim!! I tried to get a v shape using Feye's method but um...yeah not so much a v but whatever

Glad I know I don't need a stylist anymore!!

Catching up in the thread so real late with my response but.....

Beautiful LaFemme! You look WL to me!

 

[sikora]

I am having a moment ladies! I am feeling a little worried and I hate that I am having these feelings...I have been feeling down worrying that I won't like my curls. That I will just look nappy-headed instead of having luscious coils like ppl on this board :'( I know I need to accept my hair whatever texture it may have, but my old hair issues are cropping up. I feel like I am being self-hating, but I don't know how to change my mindset. I am going to continue transitioning, but it is really bothering me that I am not having complete acceptance of my hair :'( Any advice?

Hey Jinez, we're in similar boats. I'm constantly in awe of the beautiful coils/ curls I see on here and based on my transition thus far, I don't think I'll have anything close to that. I know people talk about relaxed ends weighing down our natural hair, but if what I have on my head now is "weighed down" what the hell will it be like when the relaxed ends are gone??

I didn't receive negative messages about my natural hair growing up, however I'm verrryyy concerned about my hairstyle choices after I transition. I don't want to walk around looking like a 10 year old and I feel like my hair won't look cute in a lot of the styles that I adore.

However, I don't have yearnings to go back to a relaxer because I saw how my hair didn't do well with it a all. I think that kinda helps force me to push forward with my transitioning because I know I have absolutely nothing positive to go back to with relaxers.

I guess all we can do is keep on trucking

 

[bibirockz]

Took my individual braids out today and DC'd. Loving my curls at a little over 7 months and just had to share. My natural color is total obvious in the last pic...and I hate it! I can't wait to dye my hair again. erplexed

Girl ur culs look great! I can't wait for ur length check

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

Ladies, I am sitting here typing with a plastic cap on my hair filled with ayurvedic herbs. So far, Amla powder has made my hair stronger and a bit denser. So, I shall see what my hair will be like after this!!!!

 

[Bigmommah]

Hello ladies. Do you mind if I lurk here a while? I am supposed to be in the midst of a stretch and yet I keep thinking about transitioning. I really want to have come to a decision by Jan 1st so I thought it would be a good idea to "see" what those of you who are long term transitioning are doing to keep your hair healthy and perhaps pick up some styling ideas.

Thanks!

 

[NikkiQ]

^^^come on in Bigmommah!!! I knew I'd see you in here soon

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

Come on!!! Lurk no more.

 

[NikkiQ]

Girl ur culs look great! I can't wait for ur length check

I would LOVE to be full SL when I finally do a length check, but I'm happy with whatever the outcome. My hair has never been healthier.

 

[lacreolegurl]

I would LOVE to be full SL when I finally do a length check, but I'm happy with whatever the outcome. My hair has never been healthier.

Your hair is looking good!!!! Great job!!

 

[NikkiQ]

Your hair is looking good!!!! Great job!!

means a lot coming from my transitioning hair idol

 

[lacreolegurl]

Awww. Thank you so much. You are so sweet!!!!! Especially as I sit here with yet another bun.
So, what is your next step? Are you doing another install soon?

(ETA: And please forgive me if you already answered this...I didn't go back and read.)

 

[NikkiQ]

^^Gonna put another set of individuals aka Celie braids in today when I get home from work. I've been braiding and hiding under wigs since the beginning of my transition. I've just gotten cheap and lazy and haven't gotten my beehive done again after the last time. I found it WAY too hard to detangle when I take down a beehive. At least with individuals, I can re-do the ones that come loose and they're FREE! Can't beat that lol

 

[Bigmommah]

@NikkiQ ~ Now how did you know I'd be here when I didn't lol. I just wish I could make a decision and then get on with the business of getting it done. Thanks for the warm welcome!

@Chrisanddonniesmommy ~ Thank you for the welcome.

 

[lacreolegurl]

LOL - I feel you on the FREE!!! Maybe I'll try my hand at braiding some....I need a little change here. Especially since I've still got at least 7 months left on my transition.

 

[NikkiQ]

@NikkiQ ~ Now how did you know I'd be here when I didn't lol. I just wish I could make a decision and then get on with the business of getting it done. Thanks for the warm welcome!

@Chrisanddonniesmommy ~ Thank you for the welcome.

Don't rush the decision b/c you need to make sure it's the right one for you. No one is putting a deadline on it but you young lady.

LOL - I feel you on the FREE!!! Maybe I'll try my hand at braiding some....I need a little change here. Especially since I've still got at least 7 months left on my transition.

what has been your go-to style during your transition thus far? buns?

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

@Chrisanddonniesmommy ~ Thank you for the welcome.

Anytime! We're all here to help and support.

 

[lacreolegurl]

what has been your go-to style during your transition thus far? buns?

Buns are my usual do. Sometimes, I'll mix it up and braid the front and do a side bun or braid the hair in my bun. Even after I do a rollerset, by the second or third day, I'm putting it back up in a bun usually with my donut.

I used to do more wash and goes, but now it looks with those remaining relaxed ends.

Next summer, I plan to rock this stuff wild and free!!! No.more.buns. Well, maybe a hot pony puff every now and then....

 

[NikkiQ]

You better rock that pony puff woman! lol