I am about 14 months post relaxer the first picture is from today with Cantu leave in and the second was about a month or so ago. So far nothing I have used has really made any of my curls like look like curls. I may cut another piece later I’m just scared I’ll go crazy and cut it all off lol. I plan to transition for at least 2 years maybe chop the summer after my 2 year mark.
Thank you dear!
You don't need to cut too much to find out. But you say that your hair feels like brillo pad and this explains why even your chopped parts don't curl up. Everybody says that moisture is essential for curls to form and clump and be defined. And I believe that this is true. You have to find a way to moisturize your hair. My suggestions for this are
1. Oil rinsing (I love sunflower oil among others)
2. A good moisturizing leave-in (there are so many good ones out there. You can try Curl Junkie Smoothing Lotion for example)
3. Most people would say a great moisturizing deep conditioner (I haven't found mine yet. A popular DC on this board is Mielle Organics Babassu and Mint DC. My favourite conditioner for moisture and slip is a rinse out: Herbal Essences Bee Strong Conditioner)
Other things that I have found to help a lot in bringing the curls out in addition to moisture:
1. Clay (I use rhassoul)
2. Camille Rose Naturals Caramel Cowash!
3. Hair gel (my favourite is Wetline Xtreme)
4. Curly hair mousse (I have 4 different types and all of them have this effect)
5. Technique: smoothing and resmoothing the curls with your fingers from root to tip, either on the surface or by shingling each individual curl clump while you have your curl defining agent on (clay, the caramel cowash, your leave-in, mousse, gel, or whatever you find to define your curls)
And finally, there is a certain degree of frizz that we might eventually just learn to live with. But from the photos and your description, your hair still has a lot of potential for more definition and less frizz.
The rest of your hair will probably only coil up and clump to its full potential after you big chop but you should see an improvement there as well.