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The shrinkage really makes me not want to cut my hair at all.

ETA- my DH asked me when is this "process" going to be over and my response was when I see fit
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@flyygirlll2
I still think I want to pursue becoming Straight Haired Natural at some point (maybe)?

Whoops! :eek: Don't he know this is a sensitive subject?:laugh: That this is a journey.

ETA: I'm glad 'we' all did it though. It's so funny because we didn't even know each of us were doing it.:look:
 
I miss straight hair sometimes but Idk if I'll be a straight natural though. I'm lazy when it comes to my hair outside of wash day. I'll probably end up wearing a puff or twisted buns. I can already see this lol.

Yeah he has no clue ...he ain't ready
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@flyygirlll2
At first I just knew I was going to be a Straight Haired Natural.

Now, I'm not so sure?

I think I'd miss the versatility even though I'm still under my wig (PS).
 
@flyygirlll2 wanna be hair twins?

My nape is about 98% natural because when I was relaxing, in the end, I kind ofstopped processing it. Likewise with the crown. It was only the front I was killing. So now I'm reaping what I sowed with relaxed ends.

I think what I am going to do is just start cutting sections per wash day with conditioner to get myself used to a full chop.

@IDareT'sHair I've thought about being a SHN, but I'm too lazy. Also, as much as I love straight hair, I've had straight hair for so long I just want to not have straight hair for a while. Is that ok? Like, is that thought ok without some crazy rationale behind it? I've finally got my hair healthy, super low maintained and my scalp is nowhere near as itchy. I also want to be heat free for 2 years :look:

Where'd that come from?
 
@Saludable84 Yay for twinning! :D

Yeah, I've been cutting little by little. I did cut 2 inches off not too long ago and it's already growing back. I haven't wrapped my mind around having shrinkage to my ears if I cut it now yet. I'm just going to keep going for now until I can't take it anymore.

Likewise, I'm too lazy to become a straight haired natural. Ask me again in another year or so lol.
 
Last weeks cut did not suffice. Now I only have some relaxed ends in the front. If I cut too much I'll basically have bangs so I'll bite the bullet on that one and just not cut.

I over processed my front so bad it's really off with the rest of my hair. I also remember I had the right side that was more delicate than the left. Guess which side has the curls on poppin status.

I can still get my hair in a low pony (think ballerina) and can still get a bun. I'm not brave enough for a puff so..... Yeah. For now, I'll just wash twice a week and take some patience pills.
 

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I've missed you all and this thread! I think I stayed here until I was about 16-18 months post relaxer then I got busy and dropped off the board in general for a long while. Apologies for the long post ahead!

First of all, when I was like 16 months post- relaxer ( early December 2014) or so my stylist pushed me into chopping off my bone straight ends in the back of my head. I was extremely angry afterwards because I was not ready and she was being too pushy. Now I loved this lady- she was the one who convinced me to go natural in the first place and she really helped through transitioning- and she's Dominican ironically. She is very pro-natural hair and she really rejects her people's ideas about hair so I appreciated her very much :lol: She was so nice she even offered to give me natural hair lessons instead of just services. Looking back, I wish I had taken her up on that. Anyway- needless to say I think she felt really bad because she saw how traumatized I was. I never went to her again. :( Lesson- don't let anyone make you chop when you are not ready! Did I overreact? Probably. It doesn't matter- I still wasn't ready and my feelings were still valid.

In any case, I was so freaked out about how short my hair was (it was a bob just above SL straightened) I got a pseudo Keratin treatment (Chi enviro a few weeks later). Even though that's nowhere near a bone straight relaxer and my hair retained curl, I wouldn't have done that if I had been allowed to delay cutting my hair until I was ready. Instead I kinda went from chemical to chemical. Fast forward another 5 or 6 months to May/June 2015 where I got a 2nd chi enviro treatment that would end up being my last. I pretty much ended up with lots of straight and wavy pieces in my hair either from heat damage or the keratin or both. I don't know. But I was pretty frustrated to be in a similar transitioning predicament. And I still blame it on the stylist that was being too pushy about the haircut smh. Not nearly as bad as a bone straight relaxer transition which was traumatic but still annoying.

So once again- another transition from keratin but it was less painful because I did things a little differently. I did not get any sew in weaves this time. When I transitioned from the relaxer I spent almost a year in weaves to keep my sanity. This time I just kept getting my hair straightened with the occasional twist-out. Another reason why I ran to a keratin treatment is because I had NO IDEA what to do with my hair or how to care for it because I never saw it under the weave and i was so overwhelmed and I freaked out! I do not want any other weaves because I want to see what my hair looks like at all times and get used to it!


So here I am now! Last relaxer- August 2013/ Last keratin- May 2015.

This time around, I will actually give being natural a fair chance! I actually adore my hair. It's really time consuming and stressful to care for in comparison with relaxed hair but I do really love it. Would I still consider keratin? Yes! But I want to give my natural hair a chance first! And if I do get keratin again, I would not use it in conjunction with so much heat like i did last time. Because I think it was the heat more than the keratin that straightened my hair that time. You live and you learn!

In April of this year, I did a mini chop and got most of the keratin ends off in the back and I took a lot off in the front too. I got like 3-4 inches cut off.

I also washed my hair last night so I took a few shots.

i also added another pic from a recent straightening.
 

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I have a Clay treatment in my hair now but I still have a lot of relaxed hair left. My hair is still MBL but it's probably a little longer due to shrinkage. I haven't straightened it in a while.

I will still keep trimming though.
 

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