Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

Only 8 months into this second attempt at transitioning and you ladies are inspiring me to carry on this time.

Have been so lazy with wet buns and not combing properly but nearly got some serious tangling so had a good detangling/overnight pre poo session with olive oil and HE hello hydration conditioner then washed with Creme of Nature sulfate free Argan oil shampoo and re-bunned yesterday morning. Hair feels so soft and smooth. Will try and ensure that I detangle in sections properly once a week now, not just quickly in the shower!
 
Saludable84 said:
My crown is a gift and a curse. The curls and volume there are lush. Like, lovable. But after a 2.5 year transition, that hair is SL/NL (you know you really can't pull the crown to the shoulders) so it grows soooooo slow. The front is even a little longer, hair along the side APL and my nape is BSB. My crown has the most hair to cut, the other areas not so much.

My crown beats its own drum and will not let everything else be great :cry3:
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Lovely hair. All the best with your different growth rates. If all else embrace it.
 
divachyk said:
@Saludable84, does it feel like it's been 3 years?
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No.

Probably because the first year and a half I was too consumed with other things to really notice. I actually didn't really notice until last year March when I realized that I had no way to wear my hair when I returned to work. I started just doing twist outs to blend and then one day, after washing, I looked in the mirror and really saw the curls and that was when I realized I was transitioning. That was around 2 years post. It really feels like 6 months to me. Sometimes I just don't believe it.
 
@Babysaffy
You can do it. I never thought I'd ever "transition" back to natural. I've been relaxed since 16.

I had no intentions of transitioning, but for the health of my hair, I had to make a decision.

This has been an interesting journey and I feel like I started all over again from when I first joined LHCF as a relaxed head.

I agree with most, it's something I wouldn't want to do twice.

We're ALL here for you.
 
Saludable84 said:
No.

Probably because the first year and a half I was too consumed with other things to really notice. I actually didn't really notice until last year March when I realized that I had no way to wear my hair when I returned to work. I started just doing twist outs to blend and then one day, after washing, I looked in the mirror and really saw the curls and that was when I realized I was transitioning. That was around 2 years post. It really feels like 6 months to me. Sometimes I just don't believe it.
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Girl say what!!!!!!????? At 2 years you noticed that!!! Lol lol lol lol.
 
IDareT'sHair said:
@Babysaffy
You can do it. I never thought I'd ever "transition" back to natural. I've been relaxed since 16.

I had no intentions of transitioning, but for the health of my hair, I had to make a decision.

This has been an interesting journey and I feel like I started all over again from when I first joined LHCF as a relaxed head.

I agree with most, it's something I wouldn't want to do twice.

We're ALL here for you.
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I'm on my second transition. So regret relaxing after the first. I was worried I would not have time for me hair during my studies. Big mistake. Should have gone for braids or weave or get someone to style me. Sigh. I was 4+ years natural when I relaxed.
 
@Saludable84 Congrats on making it to almost 3 years! That's actually my goal but we'll see how that goes. I didn't plan to transition initially. I was just stretching my relaxer and became lazy. Before I knew it, 3 months became 6 months and now here I am nearly 21 months post.

If someone told me a few years ago I would be doing this, I would have laughed and been like :rolleyes: This is definitely not something I would want to do again. The amount of patience and energy it takes is real.
 
@halfindian

I always feel bad when I read a thread where someone attempts to transition (or is fully natural), relaxes and transitions again.

I would not wish it on my worst enemy. It is definitely not for the faint of heart.

I'm glad I did it though. I haven't seen my "real hair" since I was 16 years old. So, it's something I needed to do for me.

It does feel like I've started all over again in my HHJ though.
 
halfindian said:
Girl say what!!!!!!????? At 2 years you noticed that!!! Lol lol lol lol.
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Yoooo, between making a baby and having a baby, you really lose focus :lachen: I used to laugh when people told me that but it became very real. I was still roller setting and bunning when I could or just did twist out so as long as my hair looked fine, I didn't care. Last summer, I said "let me cut some of these ends off" because I needed to and next thing you know, a few months down the line I'm calculating back relaxers realizing "when did this happen". I only recently started taking texture shots.
 
IDareT'sHair said:
@halfindian

I always feel bad when I read a thread where someone attempts to transition (or is fully natural), relaxes and transitions again.

I would not wish it on my worst enemy. It is definitely not for the faint of heart.

I'm glad I did it though. I haven't seen my "real hair" since I was 16 years old. So, it's something I needed to do for me.

It does feel like I've started all over again in my HHJ though.
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Idk how some people do that. If I had the pleasure of recognizing my transition early on, I think my mindset would be different. But going through how I went through my transition, while I'm happy, I can't see myself relaxing again only because I don't think I could handle transitioning again. I'm done! This is not easy; your basically learning a new skill for the same job.

Just the thought of having to transition again makes me cringe and a sista ain't got the head for a BC :duck:
 
divachyk said:
I was hoping to big chop and be done at two years as that seems like the sweet spot for most. That date has come and gone. I'll see what 2 yrs 6 months brings.
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@divachyk
You are absolutely right. Now that I am creeping up on it, I don't know why 2 years seemed so magical :look:
Saludable84 said:
Idk how some people do that. If I had the pleasure of recognizing my transition early on, I think my mindset would be different. But going through how I went through my transition, while I'm happy, I can't see myself relaxing again only because I don't think I could handle transitioning again. I'm done! This is not easy; your basically learning a new skill for the same job. Just the thought of having to transition again makes me cringe and a sista ain't got the head for a BC :duck:
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@Saludable84
Exactly. :yep:

At least we already had the products to accommodate our New Heads of Hair.:look:

I would be hit in the mouf, to' up from the flo' up if I had to buy all new stuff to accommodate this new lifestyle.:nono:
 
@IDareT'sHair my initial goal was to transition this year so the fact that I got a head start was great. My plan was to transition for 4 years. Sike. When I hit 2 years I just wanted to cut all my hair off but resisted. Now, I'm itching for 3 years. Like, I can't wait. And I know my hair won't be even all over, but funny thing I want no heat to my head. No ambition or taste for it at all, though some chicken roti calling my name :look:. And learning products all over again; I don't even want to be bothered.

@divachyk dont kill me for being traditional with the term :drunk:

@flyygirlll2 you meeting that 2 year mark! Good luck girl. We seem to be going through the same things together.

@halfindian timing is everything. At the time, it seemed great but in hindsight you could have made a better choice. I think you made the right choice, because you learned early on what you want and don't want. It's going to be hard, but you have a better plan this time around.
 
@IDareT'sHair I know what you mean. It feels like once I hit the 2 year mark I will be happy to have made it that far because this transition has been hard for me.

I was talking to my friend yesterday and she was like "Girl, if I were you I would cut those relaxed ends off and move on cause you have a lot of hair." I'm not ready to cut it off yet.

When people see me, they think I'm already natural because my hair can look big/poofy and when I tell them I'm still transitioning, it leaves them in schock. I think that bothers some people but it's my hair and I will chop when I feel like it.
 
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