Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[divachyk]

@divachyk Oh ok. At first I thought it was someone trying to come for you lol. Glad it was someone who was providing encouragent.

Ahhh that's so sweet @flyygirlll2, I totally pictured you trading your stilettos for sneakers so we could go whoop some tail. It wasn't even like that though. On the real, she basically told me it was ok to say I was transitioning and embrace it.

 

[divachyk]

Great points @SuchaLady - I've come this far so....the rest should be history. I don't think I could ever do this long-term transition thing again. It's too much work so I get why you were cancelling events. My hair isn't, shall I say, "the type" where I can wet it, style it and go. Wash days for me is like a shift at work. Hours of labor. I could solve that by BCing but nope! I'm not mentally ready for that.

 

[GettingKinky]

@divachyk I'm also 19 months in and although I'm sure that I'll finish my 36 month transition I'm not 100% sure I'll like being natural and I also worry that I'm spending all this time transitioning and it could be for nothing. I figure if I don't like wearing my hair in its natural state I could heat train or go back to texlaxing. But I'm really hoping I like my curly hair.

 

[rileypak]

@divachyk
I have nothing meaningful to contribute to your dilemma because I knew I wanted to transition when I decided it but I wanted to give you a

 

[halfindian]

Do I have the patience to try this again...?

You can do it!!!!

 

[halfindian]

I don't know what to do with my hair. Sigh. So tempted to chop but a part of me wants to wait.

 

[GettingKinky]

Every time I wash my hair I wish I was done transitioning. I think I'm going to like my curlies, but I'm still not brave enough to chop.

 

[divachyk]

Thank you @GettingKinky! I keep forgetting we're on the same track. I'm 19 months post also. I want to look put together and if I struggle to achieve that in the end...I know I will be texlaxing again.

@rileypak, thank you also. What bugs me is the dull look of my new growth. Does that go away after you fully transition?

 

[GettingKinky]

Thank you @GettingKinky! I keep forgetting we're on the same track. I'm 19 months post also. I want to look put together and if I struggle to achieve that in the end...I know I will be texlaxing again.

@rileypak, thank you also. What bugs me is the dull look of my new growth. Does that go away after you fully transition?

When I was transitioning from relax to texlaxed I thought my texlaxed hair looked dull. I think compared to relaxed hair it is, but now I'm used to it.

I've also gotten used to wearing buns and ponytails all the time so I think my idea of put together has changed a lot in the past 4 years.

 

[divachyk]

@GettingKinky, my idea of put together is hard to explain... I love buns and ponytails. Those are fine. When I wear my buns, I don't want them to be a frizzy mess. I want them to be laid and neat. When I wear a style, I don't want it to look dull, dry and begging for water. Does that make sense? It's hard to explain.

 

[rileypak]

@rileypak, thank you also. What bugs me is the dull look of my new growth. Does that go away after you fully transition?

Honestly, I stopped paying attention to that detail long ago LOL. If I find myself missing shine, I slap a little oil on and KIM. Which is funny because I was never really a fan of it with relaxed hair

 

[GettingKinky]

@GettingKinky, my idea of put together is hard to explain... I love buns and ponytails. Those are fine. When I wear my buns, I don't want them to be a frizzy mess. I want them to be laid and neat. When I wear a style, I don't want it to look dull, dry and begging for water. Does that make sense? It's hard to explain.

I like my hair neat and slicked back for buns and ponytails too. Before I pull my hair back I mist the front and sides with water and then LOC just the front and sides. After I have my hair pulled back, I tie a scarf on it for 30-60 minutes and my edges are smooth, neat and shiny.

 

[flyygirlll2]

Is it just me that can't get my edges to lay down?

I've already tried different gels and still my hair does not cooperate. Maybe it's due to the texture? In contrast to me, My mother has fine hair and it's not as tight as mine. She can use water and oil and KIM.

 

[Beamodel]

@flyygirlll2

I apply a liquid spray then APB ayurvrdic cream on my edges. Tie a scarf around my head for about 30 mins. When I take it off my edges are flat, soft & wavy.

 

[flyygirlll2]

Thanks @Beamodel I've tried that before and it didn't do much for my hair in terms of getting it flat/soft and ect.

Idk, maybe it's just my hair.

 

[winterinatl]

Every time I wash my hair I wish I was done transitioning. I think I'm going to like my curlies, but I'm still not brave enough to chop.View attachment 348073

I feel...I took 30 months. My hair is past armpit straight bc of this. But super short (to me) when curlie. Just trim more than normal each time you trim to get used to it. Then there will be a bit left and you'll want all that straigh mess off!!

 

[halfindian]

Serums give shine. Ic polisher.
Cold water rinse on final rinse.

Also curly hair is textured so light does not reflect or bounce off it like a smooth surface (relaxed hair). Use products to get the shine you want.

 

[divachyk]

@halfindian, TY...I see plenty of kinky textured hair with shine on social media. That's what I desire so nothing unrealistic like relaxed hair shine. No matter what I've used, shine doesn't happen. I'll keep trying though. Thanks for tips.

 

[divachyk]

@flyygirlll2 I did an article on how I get my edges laid. I like eco styler.

 

[halfindian]

I've been contemplating jumbo braids. Did them without extensions. I set them as I did them to prevent the ends from unraveling. It was either that or secure with rubber bands on the ends but I'm trying to stay away from them. Too tight on roots can cause hairline to recede, placed on ends can cause splits. They can even cut the hair. We're on a break from each other. I love using them.

 

[PlainJane]

Serums, oyin bsp, and flaxseed gel give me shine. Also, styling wet gives me shine.

24 months post. Trying to make it to April.

 

[fifigirl]

@GettingKinky, my idea of put together is hard to explain... I love buns and ponytails. Those are fine. When I wear my buns, I don't want them to be a frizzy mess. I want them to be laid and neat. When I wear a style, I don't want it to look dull, dry and begging for water. Does that make sense? It's hard to explain.

I feel the same way about wearing my hair

 

[rileypak]

So my nape is pretty much natural now. I accidentally trimmed off too much in my overzealous SSK trimming episode last week.

When I twisted my hair, I realized my four twists in the nape area curled up at the ends when I finger wrapped them. I'm slightly sad I did that cause now I think I'll be barreling towards trimming everything else off soon and I at least wanted to wait until birthday month to reassess how I felt

 

[GettingKinky]

How long have you been transitioning @rileypak

 

[flyygirlll2]

@rileypak I have sections of of nape that are natural, but I don't plan on cutting (if I can help it) until sometime next year which would put me at near 30 months post.

 

[rileypak]

How long have you been transitioning @rileypak

26 months post right now.

@rileypak I have sections of of nape that are natural, but I don't plan on cutting (if I can help it) until sometime next year which would put me at near 30 months post.

I'd still had about 1-2 inches of relaxed ends on my nape and now all of that is gone. I didn't realize I'd cut so much when I was getting rid of SSKs. I'd snip then the twist felt a little funny at the end (rough and puffy) so I'd snip a little more. And then next thing I know I was in natural nape land

 

[rileypak]

My nape now .
{T-shirt dried for two hours, no product}

 

[Beamodel]

@rileypak

Beautiful

 

[rileypak]

@rileypak

Beautiful

Thanks!

 

[divachyk]

Oh yes, it is beautiful @rileypak!!!