Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

I love wigs but I am trying to work with my hair a bit. Any tips/style suggesitons for getting the new growth and relaxed hair to blend a little better? There is a distinct difference in my texture even with doing braid outs, roller sets and flexi rods.
 
divachyk said:
I love wigs but I am trying to work with my hair a bit. Any tips/style suggesitons for getting the new growth and relaxed hair to blend a little better? There is a distinct difference in my texture even with doing braid outs, roller sets and flexi rods.
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I'm not sure if you tried this, but using Ecostyler Gel on my new growth and setting that section down, especially in the front and wherever I part my hair has been working. I'm only 22 weeks post so I'm just starting. :drunk:
 
@divachyk Use it with a light hand and you can style with it. I like to mix it with oil. Even with a heavy hand, it doesn't get hair. I was absolutely about to recommend the same. I like the Olive Oil and Argan Oil versions.
 
divachyk said:
@GettingKinky @pelohello, my thing is, I don't know if I want to be natural or relaxed. I don't want to be either really but it's obvious I have to pick one. Maybe a texturizer is the answer. I need to research that topic more.
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Go ahead and texlax! lol Meanwhile, I'm back on the fence after I saw my curls and the length of my natural hair last night. I was supposed to texlax today but umm...see what had happened was. I can't believe that I'm 70 or 71 weeks (15 months 5 or 6 weeks). I have to look at my app
 
@Ms. Tiki @greenandchic, thank you both. You're saying I can roller set / flexi rod set with it? I use eco for a soft hold throughout the week but have never used it to set my hair under a dryer.

I knew you'd have a change of heart. :-)
 
My bonelaxed ends will be 3 years old in December. Last night my stylist called them see through and tangly. She said I should cut them soon. Maybe I'll let her cut them off at my next appointment in 9 weeks or maybe I'll do it myself.
 
ScorpioLove said:
I cut off all my relaxed ends today cause I am just tired of detangling. 25 months post and my hair is so short I wouldn't leave the house like this. No idea what to do since I have a dinner to go to tonight. I look like a poodle :cry3:
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I felt the same way when I big chopped, but the regret didn't last long. I styled in my fool proof braid out and the result was cute and sassy. I loved my longer hair, but realized that my new shorter look could be fun too. I'm now enjoying this stage in my hair journey. Give it a little time and I think you will too.
 
ScorpioLove said:
I cut off all my relaxed ends today cause I am just tired of detangling. 25 months post and my hair is so short I wouldn't leave the house like this. No idea what to do since I have a dinner to go to tonight. I look like a poodle :cry3:
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Congrats on the cut. Take a moment breathe. Everything will be ok. When you cut the relaxed end. What's left be a little shocking especially if you're not use to that length of hair. Have you had any experience with your natural hair? What type of look are you going for? Do you have any gels, conditioners or other things to complete the look you're trying to achieve? Look at some YouTube videos for options.
 
I didn't think my hair would be ear length at this point. Never dealt with my natural hair before. I bought some curling products and eco styler and believe me I have been on YouTube all day. I'm just really disappointed in how short/little/sparse my hair is. It looks nothing like the nice full haired naturals .
 
ScorpioLove said:
I didn't think my hair would be ear length at this point. Never dealt with my natural hair before. I bought some curling products and eco styler and believe me I have been on YouTube all day. I'm just really disappointed in how short/little/sparse my hair is. It looks nothing like the nice full haired naturals .
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Try not to focus on the length at this point you can't do anything about it right now. Focus on what you do like. When I did my bc last year it was very spur of the moment. I had never done anything to my hair myself. I had a brief omg moment. Now I love playing with my hair. It's going to take some time to get use to it.
 
ScorpioLove said:
I didn't think my hair would be ear length at this point. Never dealt with my natural hair before. I bought some curling products and eco styler and believe me I have been on YouTube all day. I'm just really disappointed in how short/little/sparse my hair is. It looks nothing like the nice full haired naturals .
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Find a good hairdresser in your neighborhood or do protective styles.
 
ScorpioLove said:
I didn't think my hair would be ear length at this point. Never dealt with my natural hair before. I bought some curling products and eco styler and believe me I have been on YouTube all day. I'm just really disappointed in how short/little/sparse my hair is. It looks nothing like the nice full haired naturals .
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Gurl, when I BC I was like what the f**ck did I just do! My hair shrunk to above EL. I thought my hair would be 3a/b but instead it was 4a/b and frizzy. Until I learned how to properly care for my hair I resorted to wigs for about a month. Thanks to MHM I was able to fall in love with my hair and find a reggie that works for my hair type.

Don't worry that OMG feeling will pass. Just remember why you went natural in the 1st place.
 
divachyk said:
I love wigs but I am trying to work with my hair a bit. Any tips/style suggesitons for getting the new growth and relaxed hair to blend a little better? There is a distinct difference in my texture even with doing braid outs, roller sets and flexi rods.
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@divachyk - Were you able to get that worked out yet?
 
ScorpioLove said:
I didn't think my hair would be ear length at this point. Never dealt with my natural hair before. I bought some curling products and eco styler and believe me I have been on YouTube all day. I'm just really disappointed in how short/little/sparse my hair is. It looks nothing like the nice full haired naturals .
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First give yourself a pat on the back for making it to 25 months.

I did spontaneous cut in May at 17/18 months. My two sides didn't get along and I wasn't in the mood for a long detangling session. When I was done I almost cried the shrinkage was crazy.

It will take a minute to get used to the length especially if you have been wearing your transitioning hair in stretched styles. I'm sure it doesn't look as bad as you think. What I wished i had done differently? Stop watching videos of people who have been natural for years. Look at video from when they were your length. If I did I would have had better expectations (& may have waited a little longer but it's gone now).

Others that haven't seen me love it even as I nitpick each style. What I also wish I had done from the beginning is moisture moisture moisture. My new hair needed it (& as low po did with heat). Get a few wigs so if you have some place to go you'll have a backup option until you figure it out. I'm in hide it mode because its getting cold and my work out schedule but my twist outs are looking better (I let them out for a day or two before washing and redoing). You don't have to hide until waist length.

Welcome to the natural side. It's definitely an experience.
 
divachyk said:
I'm sure this is nothing new to you all but the more natural hair I have present, the easier it is to detangle that section of hair. The combs glides through with ease. The relaxed hair, however, is uncooperative. It gets tangled and wrapped around itself. I see why ladies BC.
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That's exactly what happened to me. My natural hair was a breeze to detangle but the relaxed ends were a beast.
 
@stephanie75miller I really should stop kidding myself and just announce that I will be transitioning but I'm just not yet convinced. I'm 64 weeks post and just stretching with no rush to relax (obviously :lol:). I hope to transition slowly but not sure how long that would take. It seems like it would take forever.
 
divachyk said:
@stephanie75miller I really should stop kidding myself and just announce that I will be transitioning but I'm just not yet convinced. I'm 64 weeks post and just stretching with no rush to relax (obviously :lol:). I hope to transition slowly but not sure how long that would take. It seems like it would take forever.
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You'll Know when you're ready. Definitely don't cut before you're ready. I didn't have a set timeline. When I did cut I was ready and I did it on my own terms and timeline.
 
I really need to trim off 2 inches of bonelaxed ends. Even with my hair flat ironed pin straight they are tangly. But 2 inches is a lot - 5 months worth of growth. Maybe I'll do it in December. That's my 4 year anniversary of transitioning to texlax and my 1.5 year anniversary of transitioning to natural.

I can't believe I have been transitioning for 4 years.
 
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