Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

bklynbornNbred said:
77 weeks (18 months on the 25th).

Having a crappy hair day. Did a twist out but as soon as I stepped outside my new hair said HUMIDITY!! and by the time I got home I had a bush on my head with smattering of scraggly relaxed ends all over. Its not even that hot outside. I slicked it into a big ole top puff but I'm having flash backs to elementary school and why I begged to get a relaxer in the first place. At this point I don't want one but my hair is high maintenance and I ain't got time for her shenanigans right now. I keep putting off getting braids or twists but I need to get on it ASAP.
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I always wear my hair in a bun, but I worry about this a lot. Did you use a serum or any other type of anti-humidity product?
 
@GettingKinky no I didn't. I had my hair in flat twists for a few days and had prepped them with my usual LOC products. It was too hot to put on wig but I wasn't expecting my fro to just grow the way it did.

Long ago when I was relaxed or doing long stretches I was able to manage my twist out and braid outs better. Now that the majority of my hair is natural I'm still trying to figure out what products I can use. Because you asked I checked my stash and found I have some Fantasia Frizz buster serum. I've been doing L-O-C method (leave in oil curling creme). Where would you suggest I add the serum before or after the curling aid?

I was also going to do a protein treatment since I haven't done one in a while.

My two textures don't play well together at all. I don't want to bun all summer but now that I can get a top bun these scraggly ends days are numbered.
 
@bklynbornNbred I don't know at which point you should add the serum my guess would be last, but that's just a guess. I have almost no experience wearing my hair out since I started transistioning. My texlaxed hair doesn't frizz much, but I'm pretty sure my natural hair does.
 
I washed my hair last night and braided it while it was wet. I figured out that I can only get smooth results when my hair is wet and moisturized just like when I do a roller set. My ends looked pretty pitiful so my hair just went into a bun. I'm going to DC, blow dry, and do it on stretched hair next time.
 
@PlainJane I'm so sorry to be a flat leaver but before I go @H0tPinkButtafly & @rileypak can roll with you.


I know I know

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but I'm not posting any.

I was pre-pooing my hair and the two textures were fussing as usual. My curls were springing but the ends were just hanging there.

Then every cliché that people say before they big chopped started going through my mind and I said to myself, "Self just do this and be done with it".

So the scissors came out and I'm now #Team Natural Spring 2015.

I just did not have it in me to spend another minute trying to coax both sides to come together.
It was not how I planned but I knew it was time. As the relaxed hairs were liberated from the coils I felt my anxiety lift away. :afro:

Now I can figure out what products are really real, get my new routine together and move on.

With the relaxed ends gone I'm looking more like a full head of 4a then the 3c/4a I thought it was. Shrinkage makes it looks really short but when I stretch it it is neck length. I have leave in conditioner in it right now with no idea of how I'm going to style it. I'll probably flat twist for now.

77 weeks and 2 days was a good run. I don't want to be a bad influence on those trying to hang in there but I'll be by to visit! :auto:
 
I spent my entire journey finding the best protein products but now my natural hair just wants moisture, moisture, moisture. Currently DCing with AOHSR for the first time in at least 6 months. I hope this helps.
 
PlainJane said:
LOL at @bklynbornNbred well congrats on your big chop!
Yall are reallyyyy tempting me. But my shrinkage is just way too much and I don't even know if my natural hair reaches my shoulders yet. That's a must for me.
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Hang in there. With the relaxed ends gone my shrinkage is crazy. Stretched it's at my neck/shoulders (layered not blunt)but after the wash it was up by my ears. The exact look I didn't want. My wash and detangling was a breeze though. I ended up doing a rod set.

I have a bunch of things "in limbo" right now and the cut was impulsive. What's done is done but I will probably still end up braiding it up and take advantage of summer spurt with low maintenance styles.
 
bebezazueta said:
Nope I didn't even make it to 2 years. 20 months post and I have just enough hair to do what I dreamed of.

I'm finished and letting it dry overnight. Pics are coming tomorrow hopefully I can get it to post. I may have to resize.

OH AND I LOVE MY HAIR!
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You are scaring me. You were one of the people inspiring me to hang in there. I'm only 11 months post and sometimes I think of BCing, but I know I won't be happy with my hair at this length. I'm trying to hold on for 3 years but that's soooo far away.

I can't wait to see the pics!
 
divachyk said:
@GettingKinky I truly see why ladies BC. I'm almost 12 months post and this is truly becoming too much. The decision to chop would be easy if I was sold on transitioning. I'm still deciding though.
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We're at the same place. I'll be a year on June 11. I'm not having any difficulty managing two textures, I just sometimes want to see my natural texture.
 
GettingKinky said:
You are scaring me. You were one of the people inspiring me to hang in there. I'm only 11 months post and sometimes I think of BCing, but I know I won't be happy with my hair at this length. I'm trying to hold on for 3 years but that's soooo far away.

I can't wait to see the pics!
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Hang in there! I know I needed enough hair to put in a puff and I've grown past the awkward stage while transitioning. I'm past shoulder length stretched now. I got to the point where my natural hair took over. I took out my braids and my relaxed ends were a tangled mess! But get this. My natural hair wasn't. After finger detangling, the denman brush slid right through.

Do what makes you comfortable. If it's 3 years, then keep holding on.

Still can't post pics from my phone and they are less than 5 MB. I'm not home so I'll have to wait until I get in front of my computer to do it there.

Meanwhile if you are on Instagram, I have it posted there. I set my page back to private. Pic below.

bebezazueta
 
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Ok I used tinypic

20.5 months post! Wash and go pony puff with a banana clip. Shea moisture Curl enhancing smoothie is the only product in my hair.


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