Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[OneShinyface]

Your regimen sounds good.

It could def be hormones. I lost my edges after my son was born. But they are back now. They are still thinner than before I got pregnant, but I assume they will always be that way.

How Do you wear your hair? Ponytails, buns, wigs, weaves, loose?

Normally buns with an occasional loose style for special events. And even then I roll the ends. I've been doing a side bun for the past few months. I've been careful not to make them too tight, take my hair down at night and to keep my scarf loose at night too.

I've entered the land of occasional hot flashes so I'm thinking hormones might be the issue. The women on my mom's side suffer from thinning hair during and post menopause. I was hoping I would escape that genetic card.
Going to baby my right side even more and see what happens.

On a happier note, I'm 2 months from a year in and loving the range of curl size of my natural hair. Some curls are 3/4" wide and others are tiny - about 1/4" wide. Will make for a pretty cool 'fro one day.

 

[Rae81]

I have to get my crown under control now before I big cop

sent from my galaxy

 

[daviine]

I DCed my hair for longer than I intended to and now it's late and I'm too lazy to do everything that comes after you rinse the conditioner out.

So I'm just going to let my hair dry with no product to see what it does. I'll deal with the aftermath tomorrow.

 

[Dayjoy]

I DCed my hair for longer than I intended to and now it's late and I'm too lazy to do everything that comes after you rinse the conditioner out.

So I'm just going to let my hair dry with no product to see what it does. I'll deal with the aftermath tomorrow.

Don't do it daviine!!!

 

[CandiceC]

I installed some kinky twists over the weekend. I started with a twist (vs. a braid) for most of them for a natural look.

I need to decide how long I wanna keep them in. I plan to redo in sections at least once before changing to a different style.

(Face is blocked cause my brows need to be done. Lol.)

 

[CandiceC]

Don't do it @daviine!!!

Ditto! I hope you didn't do that!

 

[Mjon912]

uofmpanther omg say what now, I just bought mine and am going to try them after my next wash but you lost a section of hair using them!?!? That just freaked me out, pull what though, my hair? Where you trying to take them out or something? I need more details lol

shunta how are you wearing your hair now and throughout your transition

belldandy I vote layers =)

havilland your hair texture looks so pretty and soft...I drool over your hair a lot

KPH how far into your transition are you? I'm only a few months but I roller set using oils and flat iron my new growth and that lasts until my next wash, I also wrap my hair at night and massage some hair trigger growth elixir on my scalp every few days

 

[Leslie_C]

I DCed my hair for longer than I intended to and now it's late and I'm too lazy to do everything that comes after you rinse the conditioner out.

So I'm just going to let my hair dry with no product to see what it does. I'll deal with the aftermath tomorrow.

daviine omg that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen! I was the same boat last night...I had intentions of doing the whole 9 yards of prepooing, shampooing, and dcing...but it was getting late and my hair was saturated as in dripping in coconut oil so I had to at least wash that out. I ended up cowashing it out, then moisturizing and sealing in 4 sections and banding it to dry overnight. This am I put it in a grecian twist/side bun. It turned out surprisingly alright.

My one year post anniversary is coming next week! To chop or not to chop...that is the question! I really need to hold out until summer I think...or at least my birthday in May. I know good and well my first bad hair day without the option to put it up would have me in tears lol.

 

[MsDee14]

I cut off the relaxed ends on a small portion of my hair (see attached). I will not big chop until it touches my shoulders!

 

[MsDee14]

@daviine omg that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen! I was the same boat last night...I had intentions of doing the whole 9 yards of prepooing, shampooing, and dcing...but it was getting late and my hair was saturated as in dripping in coconut oil so I had to at least wash that out. I ended up cowashing it out, then moisturizing and sealing in 4 sections and banding it to dry overnight. This am I put it in a grecian twist/side bun. It turned out surprisingly alright.

My one year post anniversary is coming next week! To chop or not to chop...that is the question! I really need to hold out until summer I think...or at least my birthday in May. I know good and well my first bad hair day without the option to put it up would have me in tears lol.

Leslie_C I think you will feel it in your veins when you're ready to chop. Do you think you could do a decent puff if you were to BC at 1 year post?

 

[Leslie_C]

@Leslie_C I think you will feel it in your veins when you're ready to chop. Do you think you could do a decent puff if you were to BC at 1 year post?

MsDee14 I like the way you think as far as chopping when it reaches your shoulders! My bottom layer in the back does, but my front and middle grow much slower than the back and sides. Im not sure if I could make a decent puff or not lol...Ill have to go do some youtube searching to see what the average puff on type 4 hair looks like at 1 year post bc. That would totally be my go to style if I did it. I cant remember who said this in this thread, it may have been you, but I try to think of my relaxed ends protecting my natural ends-aiding in length retention. That is what keeps me going.

I do feel it in my veins to chop, BUT I am in the process of making other changes like losing weight and how cool would it be to BC and have this new funky hair and maybe a funky color to match, and be slim(mer) and trim(mer) this summer????? It would be like a makeover!

 

[MsDee14]

Leslie_C My hair grows the same way. The front and middle seem to grow turtle speed!
Yes...I really do believe the relaxed ends are protecting the natural hair. So, by transitioning we really will retain all length..if done successfully.

Look at you! I already know you will look more fabulous than you already come summer time. I think you should wait til then to chop..it would be a complete head to toe reveal.

 

[Dayjoy]

I cut off the relaxed ends on a small portion of my hair (see attached). I will not big chop until it touches my shoulders!

That's a good idea. I like it. I might try it.

 

[Dayjoy]

MsDee14 I like the way you think as far as chopping when it reaches your shoulders! My bottom layer in the back does, but my front and middle grow much slower than the back and sides. Im not sure if I could make a decent puff or not lol...Ill have to go do some youtube searching to see what the average puff on type 4 hair looks like at 1 year post bc. That would totally be my go to style if I did it. I cant remember who said this in this thread, it may have been you, but I try to think of my relaxed ends protecting my natural ends-aiding in length retention. That is what keeps me going.

I do feel it in my veins to chop, BUT I am in the process of making other changes like losing weight and how cool would it be to BC and have this new funky hair and maybe a funky color to match, and be slim(mer) and trim(mer) this summer????? It would be like a makeover!

This is my plan too as well as bday gift to myself I'm thinking about highlights like xgoldn on YouTube.

 

[belldandy]

I think you should decide what's most important to you. I saw your hair and am still drooling over it.

I think it look better than you think. Your hair is gorgeous right now.

Having said that, your hair will be gorgeous if you cut it too.

So I suggest you make a list of your top reasons to cut and top reasons to stay the course and then choose.

You could always cut a few inches and see how that goes. I cut two inches or so and am glad my ends are trimmed, but I am also glad I didn't chop. But that's just me.

Hth

thank you for you're response! You're right. I think I will just cut an inch and then continue to protect it.

My top reasons for wanting to cut are "to make the ends look better, and to stop the splitting. Furthermore, the ends look like they are relaxed to death, it looks scary. I am planning on cutting at some point this weekend.

 

[moniq]

7 month post rollerset. I can't believe I made it this far. This was done on the 19th of January.
I flat-ironed the roots and pin-curled it. The next day I put it in a ponytail with a claw clip.

 

[silverbuttons]

I wish I had rollersetting skills.
your hair looks great.

 

[daviine]

Don't do it daviine!!!

Ditto! I hope you didn't do that!

daviine omg that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen! I was the same boat last night...I had intentions of doing the whole 9 yards of prepooing, shampooing, and dcing...but it was getting late and my hair was saturated as in dripping in coconut oil so I had to at least wash that out. I ended up cowashing it out, then moisturizing and sealing in 4 sections and banding it to dry overnight. This am I put it in a grecian twist/side bun. It turned out surprisingly alright.

My one year post anniversary is coming next week! To chop or not to chop...that is the question! I really need to hold out until summer I think...or at least my birthday in May. I know good and well my first bad hair day without the option to put it up would have me in tears lol.

I cut off the relaxed ends on a small portion of my hair (see attached). I will not big chop until it touches my shoulders!

I laughed when I saw your posts. I was partly curious and partly lazy. Not a disaster but I doubt that I'll ever do that again. The plan was to rinse/wet my hair in the morning and proceed as though I had just rinsed the conditioner out. But I'm just not motivated these days to do my hair.

Leslie_C I wanted to BC on my birthday but since my bday was this month it was too soon. So, I'm still looking for a good date to BC. I really like MsDee14's idea about waiting for the small BC'ed portion to reach my shoulders but I'm just out of patience. I can't wait for my hair to reach shoulder length. I'm just waiting for the right weather and the right day and it's over... I think your bday sounds like the perfect day to BC.

Happy transitioning everyone!

 

[moniq]

[USER][/USER]silverbuttons Thanks. I seem to do better rolling my hair up instead of down. It comes out neater and takes less time. I also don't have to flat-iron my roots as much when I do this.

 

[TokyoReina]

80 weeks in and I'm really worried about the front of my hair and what's going to happen when I cut. It's never had much texture there but after some heat damage it's pretty much straight.

I've also been incorporating some things that used to work for me back into my regimen, like Megatek and Lacio Lacio as a leave in. Not sure why I stopped using these products. Walgreens is having the best sale ever on Organix this week and I've been really liking some of their products as well.

 

[likeacharm]

I just did my best blowout ever! It only took me 13 months the learn how to blow dry my new growth . I think the big difference was that I prepooed overnight, and I used my new denman brush to blow it out .

 

[january noir]

Went to the hairdressers yesterday for a deep condition, blow dry and trim.
He put my hair up in a top knot. I like it. When I go to the gym, I'm going to try not to sweat too much.

 

[Jobwright]

My hair feels sooooo hard. I am getting really frustrated. It was perfect last week!

 

[havilland]

My hair feels sooooo hard. I am getting really frustrated. It was perfect last week!

Every week is different. Try not to lose it. That happens sometimes. Try to just accept it as part of transitioning and move on. It gets better.

 

[shunta]

My hair feels sooooo hard. I am getting really frustrated. It was perfect last week!

Did you use any new products?

 

[Rae81]

My relaxed hair is so dry. my natural hair stayed nice and soft when i used tressemme as a leave in the other day

 

[Rae81]

anybody transitioning by wearing their hair straight? If so have u noticed any heat damage?

 

[AXtremeTakeover]

Anybody have a good regimen for braids? Braids with extensions?

 

[Napp]

anybody transitioning by wearing their hair straight? If so have u noticed any heat damage?

Rae81 i wear my hair straight pretty much 90% of the time. Ive managed to keep away heat damage by not flat ironing weekly and rollersetting instead. I also do not go over 345 degrees when i do use heat.

 

[Jobwright]

shunta. I was out if town for work all week. The hotel had dumb dry air. Everyone was coughing and complaining about the heat, or lack thereof in the meeting rooms being so dry. Plus I could not drink my normal 64 oz of water for fear of running to the bathroom all day. I had been using Scurl to moisturize... maybe the combo of dry air and glycerine did it. IDK. I am home this week and will moisturize like crazy. Next week i'm in the DR. I'll take plenty of sun hats and pray nothing terrible happens to my precious strands. Going from 20 degree weather to 80 degree weather will be super fun, but I need my hair to act right!