Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread
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chrisanddonniesmommy
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Put the flat iron down!!!!! Is your hair yours or your husband's? Trust me. I understand about having a husband who desires straight hair. I had to battle (and still do sometimes) my DH when he gets out of pocket about my natural hair!!
The flat iron constantly will lead to heat damage. You do not want that!! Give your hair a break by installing a weave for a while, or if you don't want to commit to that, purchase a wig.
As for your edges, you can always set your edges by applying gel and a scarf at night after bunning your hair. It should "tame" them a bit.
TokyoReina
New Member
In about two weeks I'll be officially 1.5 years into my transition!
I''ve been thinking a LOT about cutting it already. I'm starting to not care about the length, the pattern, the semi-straight part in the front ...I just want to be done with this transition so I can get on with learning how to deal with my hair.
My sis is transitioning and she told me she's nine months into it. I know a big part of the reason is me and the fact that we connect over our hair. While I want to cut, I also want to hold on a few more months so we can cut together.
So I'm trying to decide. I don't really mind waiting as I'll probably just keep braiding and making my own wigs in the meantime. But Ah...I'm just so ready for the change.
I''ve been thinking a LOT about cutting it already. I'm starting to not care about the length, the pattern, the semi-straight part in the front ...I just want to be done with this transition so I can get on with learning how to deal with my hair. My sis is transitioning and she told me she's nine months into it. I know a big part of the reason is me and the fact that we connect over our hair. While I want to cut, I also want to hold on a few more months so we can cut together.
So I'm trying to decide. I don't really mind waiting as I'll probably just keep braiding and making my own wigs in the meantime. But Ah...I'm just so ready for the change.
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
i did an aphogee two step treatment yesterday. i don't know how ladies with long hair do it....it took me three hours total between jumping in and out of the shower.....i mean it took my hair an hour to dry the treatment. LOL i was like WOW!
today i will flat iron and dust if needed.
i must say that i am loving having a bushy ponytail that matches the length of some fake ones i have seen!
today i will flat iron and dust if needed.
i must say that i am loving having a bushy ponytail that matches the length of some fake ones i have seen!
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
here are some before and afters of my flat iron today. i dusted a bit more off the ends. i am leaving it alone from now until May. i plan to flat iron again for Mother's Day.
after this i am going to try to put my hair away under some wigs for 3-4 months.
after this i am going to try to put my hair away under some wigs for 3-4 months.
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OneShinyface
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^^^ Your hair looks lush and healthy. What type of moisturizing condish did you use afterwards?
I'm a little afraid of using Aphogee now. My hair loves protein, but I'm worried that detangling will be a total nightmare.
I'm a little afraid of using Aphogee now. My hair loves protein, but I'm worried that detangling will be a total nightmare.
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
thank you
i mix up a deep treatment that consists of 1 cup of moisturizing conditioner (this time i used Hairveda Moisture 24/7), 1 tsp of silk aminos, 1 tbsp of olive oil or almond oil, 1 tbsp of coconut oil, 2 tbsp of honey.
i spread this all over my hair and then put on a plastic cap and leave it on for an hour or more. i sit under the dryer for about 40 minutes of that time.
i do not like the conditioner that comes with the aphogee. i also feel that honey is such a great humectant. it makes a huge difference after the protein infusion of aphogee.
if you don't like the 2 step you may want to try their other protein. it's milder. personally i like NExxus Emergencee or Elasta QP Anti Breakage Treatment when i want a strong protein, but not quite as intense as the 2 step.
jayjaycurlz
Well-Known Member
Checking in...
My last texlax was August 2008, I don't trim regularly just S&D. I still have scraggly ends from my texlax but I'm hoping to finally be able to end my transition by December of this year when I make MBL! *crosses fingers*
My last texlax was August 2008, I don't trim regularly just S&D. I still have scraggly ends from my texlax but I'm hoping to finally be able to end my transition by December of this year when I make MBL! *crosses fingers*
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
JJamiah
Well-Known Member
Mothers day I am going to the SPA, getting my face done and a swedish massage. I can't imagine my hair length at that time
I hope I am impressed.Ahhhh Mommy Day! Yay...
Your hair is gorgeous by the way
I am so loving it 
uofmpanther
4ab, lopo, fine, low-med density
Just popping in to say hey because I haven't been on in a while. Still going over here. During the week, I wear wigs and spritz at night with my oil/water mix. I'm actually waiting for some new oils to come in the mail. I had a hair supply buying frenzy and can't remember what I bought. Lol
On the weekend, I try to stay out of the wigs so I can work on my transitioning styles. I'm about to wash my hair and try a braidout again. So far, I haven't been able to nail it, but I'm hoping the perm rods I also bought during my buying frenzy help.
On the weekend, I try to stay out of the wigs so I can work on my transitioning styles. I'm about to wash my hair and try a braidout again. So far, I haven't been able to nail it, but I'm hoping the perm rods I also bought during my buying frenzy help.
havilland
Magical Mythical Princess
Mothers day I am going to the SPA, getting my face done and a swedish massage. I can't imagine my hair length at that time
Ahhhh Mommy Day! Yay...
Your hair is gorgeous by the way
hurray for the spa day! i need to do that as well
thanks for the compliment. i miss you around here, chica.
chrisanddonniesmommy
New Member
Are you sure you're still transitioning? Perhaps the ends are just split and need trimming. I transitioned for 31 months and had very few relaxed ends left. (I'm not challenging you by the way. I'm just wondering if you are closer to natural than you think.)
growbaby
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Hey everyone ! I'm not transitioning ... Yet ... But my mama is && I thought I'd come share her progress for u ladies, idk about y'all but I always looove hair pics any chance I get. Well anywho she's been transitioning for 18 months and has been heat free for the last 6.. I straightened her hair for her and gave her a trim, her progress amazes me and I hope it can be helpful to some of you
&& I thought I'd come share her progress for u ladies, idk about y'all but I always looove hair pics any chance I get. Well anywho she's been transitioning for 18 months and has been heat free for the last 6.. I straightened her hair for her and gave her a trim, her progress amazes me and I hope it can be helpful to some of you
OneShinyface
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Jobwright
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I am CONSIDERING transitioning. Honestly, I have no idea my hair type because I have no memory of what my hair actually looked like in its natural state since I have been relaxed since a little girl. I am currently 7 weeks post. I have a relaxer buddy and all that. My original goal was to "stretch" till March. But if I can make it until March, maybe then I can make it till June and so on. There are days worth of good knowledge on this tread to read. I will try to get through it all this week. Y'all just pray for me and my hair. We'll see why happens. Oh and do you think hair color makes a difference in how it should be cared for? For instance, my hair color is naturally brown and gets lighter in the summer. My non expertise in hair care mind says that brown hair has typically thinner strands and less density. Do you all agree? If that is the case, wouldn't breakage be more common since the strands are thinner? How should I deal with that? Just trying to gain some understanding here. Also, since I have no clue what my hair would look like in it's natural state, that is a little unsettling to me. But I tell myself, to know myself better, I have to release the "cover ups" ie relaxer, so I can see who I truly am. I guess I am in stage one of the process, know thyself, love thyself. My, my, my how hair is such a big deal! Pray for me y'all!
APL 2013, BSL 2013
APL 2013, BSL 2013
rayellejd14
New Member
Jobwright My hair is the same, it's brown and some of it gets blond in the summer. That hasn't affected at all how I take care of it, and I don't think my hair is thin at all, it's extremely thick. If you do experience breakage, try Aubrey Organics blue algae hair mask, that completely got rid of breakage I used to have. Other than that, I use the same type of products a lot of other people here are using.
veesweets
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I officially hit my first frustration point this morning at 17 weeks post. I tried a flexi rod set last night and it came out looking terrible. I'm tired of buns and until I get a new hooded dryer at the end of the month roller sets are out. So back to braid outs and twist outs I guess 
workinprogress1
Active Member
I officially hit my first frustration point this morning at 17 weeks post. I tried a flexi rod set last night and it came out looking terrible. I'm tired of buns and until I get a new hooded dryer at the end of the month roller sets are out. So back to braid outs and twist outs I guess
Why don't you try braid or a sew in ?
workinprogress1
Active Member
Hello . I have always lurked this thread. I will be two years post this March. Honestly transitioning hasn't been that hard.
veesweets
Well-Known Member
I usually put my hair in a braid or two on the weekend to give myself a break. I've been considering a sew in but I haven't decided yet
workinprogress1
Active Member
Like braids braids . Individuals, yarn braids Senegalese ? Braids or a sew in would give you some stress free months.
Leslie_C
Well-Known Member
I'm usually anti fake hair but I'm thinking about getting something to get me through to summer bc right now basically every time I see my hair wet I want to reach for the scissors. I'm having a moment in life right now anyway so that tends to make me want to make some kind of drastic change. I think the main reason I'm reluctant is bc im the only person of color at the hospital where I work and I don't feel like the fascination and questions that would surround me getting braids or a weave. Im already like a unicorn as it is lol.
workinprogress1
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Haha. They will just think it is your hair. My school is mostly white and whenever I take braids out they think I cut my hair.
Leslie_C
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Thats true...but these folks are a little too comfortable with me and like to reach and touch my hair lol. I have this image of wearing a half wig and somebody touching it and it moving LOL.
Love your hair in your Avatar by the way!
workinprogress1
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