havilland
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On Tuesday I will be 52 weeks post relaxer
happy nappy roots-iversary!
my 52 week is tomorrow.
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Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread
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happy nappy roots-iversary!
my 52 week is tomorrow.
LatterGlory
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NJoy
Here I grow again!
@NJoy wanting to bc is natural. Just give it a bit more thought. Is your nautral hair past what you would consider an ackward length? Just don't want you to trade one frustration for another.
LatterGlory
I think I'm at a decent length. But after going longer than you've ever been, it just doesn't seem long enough. I'm gonna wait and see how I feel at the end of the month. I feel like I'm letting my emotions drive me. And like you said, I don't want to trade one frustration for another.
That said, if I suddenly pop up BC'd, let no one be surprised. I sorta warned ya.
Excellent counsel, btw.
LatterGlory
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Lanea87
Natural Gang Gang Gang
I'm 29 weeks post today and my relaxed hair is barely surviving. I put the back middle section of my hair in braids with extensions a few weeks ago to help fortify and enlarge the buns I've been doing (and make it easier to wash my hair.) The vulnerable hair around that is breaking off though. No biggie. If my relaxed hair can't survive, I don't need it on my head.Survival of the fittest.
CandiceC, this is so how I feel. IDK if its the shrinkage that makes me feel bald with ***** ends or what, but we will see Friday once I go to the salon and get it straightened and trimmed.
Judwill07, I use to follow the moon and stuff and I can honestly say my hair was the bomb back then.....do you have a site or anything that I can see?
I have 2 jars of this and I need to use it and see how my hair likes it....I LOVE it bc it is super thick and I cant stand water down looking conditioners.
daviine
Well-Known Member
I'm thoroughly discouraged. I feel lost and ugly. I hate not knowing what to do with my hair. When I try to do something with my hair, its ugly. I love the way my new growth feels but I'm not mentally prepared to BC nor prepared to style it.
I don't want to keep ranting so I'll end here. Thanks for reading.
I don't want to keep ranting so I'll end here. Thanks for reading.
Smiley79
Well-Known Member
Don't be discouraged. The bright side is that you say that you like your new growth; that is a plus! Wouldn't you love a full head of hair that you already like and are comfortable with? Hang in there girlie. Don't feel ugly either; at the end of the day, its just hair. We are here for you hair support so vent whenever you need to. 
many of us including myself have felt that same frustration.
many of us including myself have felt that same frustration.ZebraPrintLover I figure by next July or August, I should have enough natural hair to fit into ponytail. I also want to experiment with wash & go's and summer is the perfect time to do so.
Worst case scenario, I can put in single braids if I'm not comfortable with the length.
Worst case scenario, I can put in single braids if I'm not comfortable with the length.
daviine
Well-Known Member
I'm feeling much better. Thanks ZebraPrintLover and Smiley79. I've found some products that I will stick to with the occasional rotation as I use up all the products I've bought since I started transitioning, lol.
Staples, not necessarily HG status
Shampoo-- Keracare Hydrating Detangling
Deep Conditioner- Keracare Humecto Creme
Leave in-- Giovanni Direct Leave-In
Not gonna bother listing anything else bc I havent committed to anything else yet, especially in writing. But I like Giovanni's new 2chic conditioner but don't know where it fits yet bc it's expensive.
I'm gonna keep watching YouTube, reading archives, and get into makeup or something to offset the hot-messness of my hair. ;D
Oh, I was watching YT and someone (Ambrosia I think) said she relaxed her edges the first year of transitioning. I'm thinking about doing this but I need to do a little more research.
Staples, not necessarily HG status
Shampoo-- Keracare Hydrating Detangling
Deep Conditioner- Keracare Humecto Creme
Leave in-- Giovanni Direct Leave-In
Not gonna bother listing anything else bc I havent committed to anything else yet, especially in writing. But I like Giovanni's new 2chic conditioner but don't know where it fits yet bc it's expensive.
I'm gonna keep watching YouTube, reading archives, and get into makeup or something to offset the hot-messness of my hair. ;D
Oh, I was watching YT and someone (Ambrosia I think) said she relaxed her edges the first year of transitioning. I'm thinking about doing this but I need to do a little more research.
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Lanea87
Natural Gang Gang Gang
daviine
I wanna start using the bolded again. I was using it back in the days but IDK why I stopped.
I relax my edges, just like an inch though. I dont do any parting and I leave it on for 5-7min and I rinse, add my 2 min ApHogee and let that sit for like 10 mins and I neutralize and let that sit 5min times 2.
chrisanddonniesmommy
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daviine
Well-Known Member
ZebraPrintLover said:
This makes me so excited. I'm on my phone so I can't see siggys but how long have you been transitioning. How much longer do you plan on transitioning and how much longer do you think you will keep relaxing your edges?
My edges are a challenge. They don't look good at all so I usually wear wide headbands after slicking them down as much as possible.
CandiceC
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Yay!
(Stop relaxing your edges!!
I'm sitting over here thinking they shouldn't relax their edges!
Wouldn't that look awkward? Also, what about health? My edges are the first area to benefit from me not relaxing anymore.
Lanea87
Natural Gang Gang Gang
daviine
I dont have a siggy picture, I am 24 weeks as of tomorrow. You can check out my fotki I just uploaded pics of my hair and my edges.
I will maintain my new bob and just keep getting it trimmed every 2 months or so.
I will keep relaxing my edges until I am comfortable with them annoying me and not caring.....so basically I am not sure LOL.
I refuse to walk around looking crazyedged and looking like I didnt even attempt to comb my hair. And I sure as h3ll aint wearing no headband....I dont do that on the regular and aint finna start now LOL.
Too each its own on how to handle and maintain your hair, if you wanna texlex your edges do so, bc no one is going to comb your hair but you
I'm sitting over here thinking they shouldn't relax their edges!
Wouldn't that look awkward? Also, what about health? My edges are the first area to benefit from me not relaxing anymore.
CandiceC, my hair dont look awkward at all. I dont have nappy hair so it blends very easy. And when I pull my hair back into a bun all my hair straightens out to the point were I dont even look 6 months post. I dont want my edges curling up and looking untamed so I texlax them for 5 mins they still curl up when wet but not as bad. I went 5 months w/o relaxed edges and my edges are doing better now being relaxed then they were curly.
Who said my edges werent healthy because they are relaxed?
Yay!
(Stop relaxing your edges!!
chrisanddonniesmommy, LOL, why? Do you wanna comb my hair for me? I would sure love for someone to. Especially to put on JBCO on my scalp
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CandiceC
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@ZebraPrintLover
I feel ya. It's an individual choice of course.
Its been almost 30 weeks for me and I'm getting used to my edges the more my hair grows out. Don't get me wrong, I do break out my Ecostyler gel when I want that sleek look! I'm a 4a at the top and it becomes 4b on the sides by my ears.
I feel ya. It's an individual choice of course.
Its been almost 30 weeks for me and I'm getting used to my edges the more my hair grows out. Don't get me wrong, I do break out my Ecostyler gel when I want that sleek look! I'm a 4a at the top and it becomes 4b on the sides by my ears.
daviine
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I'm 34 weeks today. I have no idea what my hair type is going to be but it seems that my edges are 4bc or something. I'm not looking for a sleek look because I don't think they can do that. They just end up looking fuzzy and then usually after an hour or so, a little patch comes up and it's like I have a dry micro-fro on one section.
Haha.... I didn't even think about "texturizing" my edges so it will blend better. I'm going to have to keep looking for a solution for my edges before I relax them because I haven't thought everything through yet, lil.
Haha.... I didn't even think about "texturizing" my edges so it will blend better. I'm going to have to keep looking for a solution for my edges before I relax them because I haven't thought everything through yet, lil.
Rae81
Well-Known Member
I have this one section of hair in the front that does not curl its just slightly wavy but mostly straight. I think its heat damage from when I was blow drying and flat ironing my hair before I decided to transition. I always started on that section. I noticed it a while ago but its even growing in straight in that section. I just wonder how it will look when I'm ready to bc
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chrisanddonniesmommy
New Member
ZebraPrintLover, If you keep applying castor oil to your edges, they will soften and become manageable for you. I understand that they may be a point of contention for you. However, embrace your edges without feeling the need to rely on relaxing them for the appearance of smooth edges. Besides, relaxing them may not actually help them thicken. They may eventually thin.
When I relaxed, my edges were thin; but, since the start of my transition, they've become healthy, thick, and manageable. I know patience is a killer; but, give your edges some time to heal.
Here to help!
When I relaxed, my edges were thin; but, since the start of my transition, they've become healthy, thick, and manageable. I know patience is a killer; but, give your edges some time to heal.
Here to help!
Getting discouraged at 18 months post. I did a yogurt treatment, then mudwashed and finally DC'd overnight. Just the thought of having to twist my hair today makes me tired. Its getting frustrating having to retwist every other day because I cant get second day hair. Twist out on day 1 and a bun on day two, UGGGHH!! May just go to Sally's and buy some curl formers because the knockoff's I ordered havent arrived.
SO FRUSTRATED!!
SO FRUSTRATED!!
Lanea87
Natural Gang Gang Gang
chrisanddonniesmommy,
See thats the crazy part, manageable is sleek for me.
I have been applying JBCO since April w/o a change, all it does is make my edges heavy with oil and gives it a sense of being sleek for like 20 mins after taking off my scarf. Its hot as h3ll in Texas like average 105 degrees daily. I cant pack on JBCO without it running down my face later
so I still end up looking like a grease monkey with baby curlies along my edges.My edges are only going to thicken to a certain amount bc they were never full, even as a child. The only reason I have been putting JBCO on it was bc my hair is so fine that when I got my Senagalese Twist my poor edges couldnt take it and broke off. So if you look at my fotki you will see the result for my edges on the braids.
It has been filling back in nicely so I am good.
And I dont rely on relaxing them cause its not something that I do all the time. This was my first time doing it and I never said that I would def continue to do it, but if I get down the road in 6 more months and my edges are giving me h3ll again I will not have a problem slapping relaxer on them again (but we will see about that when we get there).
Its hard to say what you will do until you get there. I am use to sleek, nicely done hair and I was just rocking that with my hair in February. From Feb to April I was in the braids and after the braids its this.....I cant go from sleek to curly sue when that something I am not use to. Its still hard for me to deal with the middle but when I become frustrated I throw it in a ponytail and call it a day. I am not to the point of loving it yet especially dealing with 2 textures so as time passes it will be easier. I get lots of compliments on my hair texture from my friends but they dont know the truth (thats the inside= crown). I dont wanna NOT be myself bc I am transitioning....I wanna have a sense of being in control still.
To the bold I think I already kinda answered in my vent. I never had thin edges when I was relaxed (not thinner than what they normally are) not that I can recall anyways.....if it was it was bc of braids and the Africans but they always grew back. I know, I know my edges cant handle braids but what is a girl to do!
Imma keep on moving foreward and JBCO it up and finishing off this bottle of MN and see where that gets me. I know I went all over, off, and above on this response but my hair is giving me the blues LOL. Sorry!
daviine
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Z-kitty said:
I totally understand about not being able to achieve 2nd day hair. Very frustrating.
I went to Sally's today to buy Curlformers but they didn't have what I wanted. I wanted to just buy the hook and a 6-pack of long and wide curlers to try out on a small section. No way am I spending $70 on curlers I might not have the patience for and/or might not work.
I'm not sure what sizes I should try other than long and wide.
SqrpioQutie
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i accidentally fell into transitioning again so i decided to return to the board.... i was debating the pros and cons of transitioning today until i went into the bathroom to look at my hair.... i purposely left out a small section of hair after i washed and bunned this morning... the pic below is what it's looking like now... if the rest of my hair is going to look like this, then i'll keep plugging away (i have 1 year and 4 months to go if i'm going to do a 2 year transition)....
the last time i did this, i bc'd down to less than 1/2 an inch and texturized at 3 months.... i think i like the idea of a long transition better....
warning - sorta big pic....
the last time i did this, i bc'd down to less than 1/2 an inch and texturized at 3 months.... i think i like the idea of a long transition better....
warning - sorta big pic....
