I wet bun after daily co-washes for 2-3 weeks or until I can't take bunning anymore. I always leave conditioner in my hair when it is wet. Then I wear my hair out and flat ironed for 4-5 days, then back to bunning for 2-3 weeks. When wet bunning, at night, I take my bun down, part my hair in 2 and sleep in 2 Pokahontas looking braids that I pin curl up and wrap with a silk scarf.
Ok, so typical wet bun routine:
Pre-poo on wet but unwashed hair once weekly w/ slightly heated coconut oil & EVOO and apply generously to my hair from scalp to ends.
Then saturate my hair with Yes Carrots Deep Conditioning Mud Mask on top of the oil. Pin on top of my head with a claw clip and wrap my hair completely with saran wrap. Tie down with a scarf and sleep overnight.
In the morning, shampoo with Yes To Carrots Poo or co-wash with Yes to Cucumbers/ Yes to Carrots/ KeraCare Humecto/ Garnier Fructis Length and Strength/ Herbal Essence Hello Hydration (these are my staple conditioners that I rotate. I don't use all of them at once. I usually use 1-2 at a time. I put the conditioner on and go about my shower routine while the conditioner sits and my hair is up in a clip. I have a lot of hair, and my hair loves conditioner). Then I rinse & get out of the shower. I use a Turbie Twist thing to soak up the excess water in my hair while I lotion up.
Once I'm ready to bun, I apply some conditioner to my hair and a little coconut oil/ EVOO mix and detangle with a very wide tooth comb. Then I apply Garnier Fructis Brilliantine Wax to my edges and brush through for extra sleek detangling with a Denman brush (DENMAN = NO MATTING OR TANGLING!!!). Then I bun my hair and wrap it with a scarf to smooth it down. Then every morning for 2-3 weeks, I just do a co-wash only (no poo...only poo once weekly if I have buildup w/ pre-poo) with the above-mentioned conditioners and re-bun.
HTH! I am 7 months into my transition. I also have a photo album with some of my buns and hair toys in my profile.