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Janet' said:Thanks so much for starting this thread. I am 32 weeks post relaxer and now is the time when people really start questioning your motives. You know I've gotten the..."Ok, I thought you were playing...it's time for a perm now" or the "Dang, you really are serious...
erplexed WHY???" Support is key, so thanks for the support.
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Janet' said:Thanks so much for starting this thread. I am 32 weeks post relaxer and now is the time when people really start questioning your motives. You know I've gotten the..."Ok, I thought you were playing...it's time for a perm now" or the "Dang, you really are serious...
erplexed WHY???"
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lovelymissyoli said:Transitioner checking in here… I need to vent --- bear with me!
Don’t get me wrong…I don’t plan on relaxing my hair, but lately I’ve been dealing with some serious dryness (which I think may be due to the products I used this week to deep condition), out of the blue extreme thickness
, and hair combativeness all rolled into one!! It’s really been frustrating dealing with this 20% natural, 80% relaxed hair of mine!
To begin, I wore braids for about 2 weeks before I had to take them out. I don’t know what caused this sudden change in my hair, but it has been getting THICKER!!Is this common for naturals? For a minute I thought this was because I was expanding my coils with my fingers, but that wasn’t the case before and after I took down my braids, or when I put flexi rods in my hair last night. My hair was just sooo thick, in fact, I’ve been having a harder time with flexi rods because my hair just keeps expanding! Don’t get me wrong, I want thick hair, but thick hair and relaxed ends are causing me a lot of trouble.
As for the condition of my hair, for some reason it has been getting dryer. I spent 45 minutes detangling my hair and loading it up with conditioner just to detangle, and I still wasn’t able to do it with ease! The dryness involved my natural hair, but the tangles involved my relaxed ends! Anyways, I believe some of this dryness is due to the fact that: 1.) I don’t know of any good moisturizers for my new growth alone while I wear a flexi rod up do; 2.) I believe this particular gel I started using for my sets has been extremely drying, and 3.) some of these products (i.e. conditioners) that I’m using don’t contain very good ingredients. I think I need to research some good moisturizing products for my hair because what I’m using just isn’t cutting it.
Also, in another thread I mentioned something about all of my natural hair not coiling up. Is this common? Yesterday while my hair was damp I was playing in my new growth and decided to do a practice shingling technique. After I applied some gel and moisturizer to this particular section of my hair, twirled it around my fingers, and let it set for a few minutes, I noticed that the top portion of the coil didn’t coil at all. The rest of my hair had coils and loose spirals, but the top portion was just there --- no coil…nothing. Am I experiencing heat damage?![]()
I need to give my hair a break. Right when I get back from vacation I plan to cornrow my hair using my real hair. Wearing cornrows has always helped me retain length and moisturize all my hair completely! Hopefully this will help with some of the problems I’m experiencing. If you ladies have any advice on how to whip my hair back into shape, please share!
Thanks for letting me vent!![]()
-lovelymissyoli
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Little Miss3 said:![]()
And to top that off my hair it SO dry it feels like a brillo pad. I have tried to deep con. and con washes for the past month and still dry dry dry, I HATE IT.I washed my hair this weekend and it took me 45min or more just to get the comb(K-cutter) through it and to put it in a pony tail. I do not want to take that much time out of my life to do my hair and still not like the results. I have not worn my own hair out(weaves and wigs) in over a year and I am trying my best not to perm and to love my own hair but with all the problems I am having, I'm wondering if it is worth it to go natural.
Thanks to anyone who reads my rants!
MzTami said:Hi Ladies,
I am a newbie and I am transitioning as well. I don't really know why, but I am tired of relaxers and chemicals every 6-8 weeks. Are there any other reasons why you ladies transitioned or transitioning to natural?
Also, Is it possible for new growth to be soft? I am not having problems with my hair yet, but it's only been 7 1/2 weeks since my last relaxer. I have not used a flat-Iron and I am thinking to myself, If my hair is this soft and manageable, what possessed me to use a flat-iron daily for over 15 years? I can't believe how soft my hair is. It has done a 180 since I found this forum. Thank you ladies!
By the way, Do you have to pay for fotki(sp) to post pictures?
Also, when the ladies say, look for the password in profile. How do I get to their profile to get the password?
Transitioning
Last relaxer- 07/02/2005
Texture-2b/medium
Length- shoulder
Goal-shoulder length 100% natural healthy hair.
Blossssom said:I got a question *cough*
When you got past say the 6-8 week post relaxer mark, did you experience a ton of shedding?
Were you fearful about losing so much hair?
I shed, too, but I know shedding is natural. My hair still seems as thick as it ever was.
I talked to my beautician yesterday and told him that my 8 weeks was coming up, but I didn't think I needed to relax again. He wanted to know about shedding.
So for those of you who are a 4a/b and haven't relaxed for a long time, what do you think of shedding...?
Little Miss3 said:![]()
I am so so so tried of my hair I can just cry!!!...
Blossssom said:I got a question *cough*
When you got past say the 6-8 week post relaxer mark, did you experience a ton of shedding?
So for those of you who are a 4a/b and haven't relaxed for a long time, what do you think of shedding...?
iwantlongerhair said:I don't have any advice but I can relate with what you are going through. My hair is super dry and after washing I have so many tangles. I went to the beauty salon today because I didn't feel like doing my own hair, she washed my hair and then told me she would have to relax it before she could style it so I just ended up leaving.
caligirl said:I don't understand the whole "shedding" thing. As long as you handle your hair gently and use a good conditioner, there is no reason for your hair to break or shed during the transition. I've used the K Cutter comb and denman brush with no problems.
Little Miss3 said:![]()
I am so so so tried of my hair I can just cry!!! And to top that off my hair it SO dry it feels like a brillo pad. I have tried to deep con. and con washes for the past month and still dry dry dry, I HATE IT.
Tasha112 said:Well during the first 5 months of my transition, I had very little shedding and during the sixth and seventh month, the shedding was ridiculous..between month 7 through 9 the shedding decreased and now I am beginning to shed a bit more again...i treated my hair gently and used good conditioners with great slip, but the shedding continues and i manipulate my hair very little...Our hair goes through shedding phases (the transition of follicles from growth phase to resting phase) where we lose anywhere from 50 to 100 hairs a day. A lot of ladies use MSM which can decrease the number of shed hairs dramatically because it contains sulfur which tends to strengthen the follicles and lengthen the growth phase and reduce the resting phase (when the hair sheds).
As for breakage I agree that a good conditioner, consistent moisturizing and protein treatments can prevent damage significantly. hth
angellazette said:Ladies, I use conditioner and water to spritz my hair daily but sometimes I feel that I just need an extra umph to my daily moisturizer. I always follow up with oil...is there something I should add to the spritz? Maybe I'm just being difficult.
Good for you angellazette! That was some pretty good self-intervention!angellazette said:Wooo saaaaaa!
I had a moment today, thought about relaxing...I put all my thoughts in my fotki though...and added an afro photo!