CantBeCopied, I know you were talking to PoohBear, but I had to chime in. My little one is natural. When she turned four and her got really thick I thought it was so hard to care for so I'd get it pressed but it never lasted for any length of time, then when she was five I put a relaxer in it and I thought that was the answer
. LOL of course it wasn't.
So anyway, after joining LHCF I transitioned her back to natural. She is 4a/4b. I shampoo and condition her hair once a week then I put her hair in a style that can last for the week, like twists, braids or some type of twist/puff combo. Throughout the week I spritz with water and/or s-curl, add a little oil and brush a bit for neatness. It takes me anywhere from one to three hours to style her hair on wash day depending on the style. She used to run from me on wash day, but not anymore. I am very gentle and I comb her hair in small sections, while very wet, and very slllowwly. Now I only spend about 1 or 2 minutes on her hair each morning.
When you are relaxed it can be very difficult to deal with your natural daughter's thick hair. But once you fall in love with it, work with it instead of against it, it can be a real joy. There is nothing wrong with the frizzies, I know you want it to always be super neat, lol that's how most of us were raised, but a little frizz is okay, her curls don't have to stay perfect. Tell your daughter everyday that her hair is beautiful just as it is and that nobody has hair just like hers.
The picture of how you say her hair dries is beautiful to me, I don't see frizz, I see thick, healthy, natural hair. I wish you all the best.