I didn't read teh complete the thread (34 pages) but my opinion is that she needs to expand her circle even wider. Or look closer at her circle of activities.
For me it seem things come to me when I just do the work and not worry about it. I beleive one poster (a guy) told her to stop trying and just enjoy her life. I couldn't agree more. Yes, put your self out there, but be cool with it and enjoy your life.