Iluvsmuhgrass
Well-Known Member
So I'm a transitioning 4a/b and I am at 16 weeks post. 
My hair is weird. The last relaxer that I got (stylist) killed the right side of my hair. Prior to the relaxer I had no breakage and shedding was sporadic at best (little to no hair loss.) She relaxes my hair and all heck breaks loose. I start losing little straight pieces of hair everywhere. It's brittle. It's dry. It's weak. I do a heavy protein and dc and it slows greatly but doesn't stop. I wait a little bit with low manipulation then I DC. Breakage is slowing but the damage is already done.
For a while I couldn't see where it was coming from. Fast forward to now... I'm washing, DCing, and just happen to notice what's going on. The left side is thicker and relatively healthy (it's usually my rough awkward side) and moving towards APL and the right is...well..... splotchy at best. The damage is visible as it's thinner and at various lengths. I could fix it with a mullet.
Yay. You can't tell when I bun it up (which is how I wear my hair a majority of the time anyway.)
So I go to look at my hair and I see a section on the left that's broken almost up to the NG. Now I think some of this has to be under-processed hair but I don't know for sure. The curl pattern is not as packed as my crown but not as loose as the back. But just to humor myself I wet it and put butter/aloe vera gel on it and it curled up. And the more I sat there and looked at it, the more I got frustrated with my relaxed hair. I'm just tired.... and angry... and frustrated. But I told myself that I would transition. I mean I'm like an inch from APL on one side and in the back.
But seriously.... what should I do? Future hubby says to continue to transition and not do anything drastic that I could regret later (right now wigs are an option not a necessity.) and he doesn't want me to BC now only to feel the same way once the relaxed ends are gone (since my hair is fine and my straightened hair looks like my relaxed hair anyway)....
What should I do? Here's a pic. I'm wigging it right now to give myself a break and I need a manicure... so please forgive the roughness of the pic. The waves and stringy ends are processed hair. Help me.... before I lose it. Seriously.
My hair is weird. The last relaxer that I got (stylist) killed the right side of my hair. Prior to the relaxer I had no breakage and shedding was sporadic at best (little to no hair loss.) She relaxes my hair and all heck breaks loose. I start losing little straight pieces of hair everywhere. It's brittle. It's dry. It's weak. I do a heavy protein and dc and it slows greatly but doesn't stop. I wait a little bit with low manipulation then I DC. Breakage is slowing but the damage is already done.
For a while I couldn't see where it was coming from. Fast forward to now... I'm washing, DCing, and just happen to notice what's going on. The left side is thicker and relatively healthy (it's usually my rough awkward side) and moving towards APL and the right is...well..... splotchy at best. The damage is visible as it's thinner and at various lengths. I could fix it with a mullet.
Yay. You can't tell when I bun it up (which is how I wear my hair a majority of the time anyway.)So I go to look at my hair and I see a section on the left that's broken almost up to the NG. Now I think some of this has to be under-processed hair but I don't know for sure. The curl pattern is not as packed as my crown but not as loose as the back. But just to humor myself I wet it and put butter/aloe vera gel on it and it curled up. And the more I sat there and looked at it, the more I got frustrated with my relaxed hair. I'm just tired.... and angry... and frustrated. But I told myself that I would transition. I mean I'm like an inch from APL on one side and in the back.
But seriously.... what should I do? Future hubby says to continue to transition and not do anything drastic that I could regret later (right now wigs are an option not a necessity.) and he doesn't want me to BC now only to feel the same way once the relaxed ends are gone (since my hair is fine and my straightened hair looks like my relaxed hair anyway)....
What should I do? Here's a pic. I'm wigging it right now to give myself a break and I need a manicure... so please forgive the roughness of the pic. The waves and stringy ends are processed hair. Help me.... before I lose it. Seriously.
Hey sis! 
