momi
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Figured that thread title would get ya'll in there.
This was written by one of my online friends: LiveBigDieEmpty
Tired of all the abstinent Christians! I really am.
Explain to me how it makes sense to be battling your body and your flesh for decades (trying to maintain abstinence) as a Believer instead of working on your issues and diligently seeking healthy relationships!? I don't think you were designed to spend the better part of your most fertile years in solitude - your very physiology fights against it.
Some folks are going to be single until their sperm dries up and the last egg passes and then will look around wondering what went wrong. The church is preaching singleness and abstinence TOO MUCH! I'm not saying go sex it up like a porn star. I'm saying get healed, go out and date, learn how to have sustained relationships and GET OVER YOURSELF!!
We've got people writing books and selling seminars boasting about not having had sex in decades like they deserve a badge and a brownie. I am growing increasing uncomfortable with those who boast "I've been a virgin all my life!" and they are in their 30's and even 40's. We should start looking for dysfunction at some point and calling it what it is: often a character flaw!
We need to spend more time celebrating those who are trusting, brave and bold enough to get into the ring, get a ring and try and fight for a relationship (even if it fails) over those who are often scared, timid and racking up Netflix frequent customer points. The perpetually single aren't more holy - even though some try to convince us they are. Often, they are less so because they aren't involved in relationships to refine them. When it gets tough or when they think someone doesn't measure up or when THEY don't measure up, they bail - and blame it on God's timing, God's will or boast about how high their standards are.
1. Abstaining is not the greatest Christian ethic.
2. We celebrate singles who abstain. We give them badges, books, TV shows. That is good. However we don't celebrate marrieds/marriage nearly enough. That is bad.
3. Staying out of a woman's pants isn't the longest yard for a man of God. It's a lot more challenging to be the spiritual leader of a home and steward over the souls of your children. I want to see more men take that challenge. I want to see more women challenge themselves, too.
I honor failure more than no effort. And, no, living together is not "effort" in my mind. Go down the aisle. Drive to the courthouse. That's effort.
This was written by one of my online friends: LiveBigDieEmpty
Tired of all the abstinent Christians! I really am.
Explain to me how it makes sense to be battling your body and your flesh for decades (trying to maintain abstinence) as a Believer instead of working on your issues and diligently seeking healthy relationships!? I don't think you were designed to spend the better part of your most fertile years in solitude - your very physiology fights against it.
Some folks are going to be single until their sperm dries up and the last egg passes and then will look around wondering what went wrong. The church is preaching singleness and abstinence TOO MUCH! I'm not saying go sex it up like a porn star. I'm saying get healed, go out and date, learn how to have sustained relationships and GET OVER YOURSELF!!
We've got people writing books and selling seminars boasting about not having had sex in decades like they deserve a badge and a brownie. I am growing increasing uncomfortable with those who boast "I've been a virgin all my life!" and they are in their 30's and even 40's. We should start looking for dysfunction at some point and calling it what it is: often a character flaw!
We need to spend more time celebrating those who are trusting, brave and bold enough to get into the ring, get a ring and try and fight for a relationship (even if it fails) over those who are often scared, timid and racking up Netflix frequent customer points. The perpetually single aren't more holy - even though some try to convince us they are. Often, they are less so because they aren't involved in relationships to refine them. When it gets tough or when they think someone doesn't measure up or when THEY don't measure up, they bail - and blame it on God's timing, God's will or boast about how high their standards are.
1. Abstaining is not the greatest Christian ethic.
2. We celebrate singles who abstain. We give them badges, books, TV shows. That is good. However we don't celebrate marrieds/marriage nearly enough. That is bad.
3. Staying out of a woman's pants isn't the longest yard for a man of God. It's a lot more challenging to be the spiritual leader of a home and steward over the souls of your children. I want to see more men take that challenge. I want to see more women challenge themselves, too.
I honor failure more than no effort. And, no, living together is not "effort" in my mind. Go down the aisle. Drive to the courthouse. That's effort.