I'm serious. I've had it. I'm DONE.
:::breathe:::
Background: Me and my girls have all come out of 4+ year relationships (on again, off again types) within the past 6 months. No hard feelings, just disappointment at the fact that things didn't work out.
So we were all at dinner and you know what we realized - we played the roll of supportive chick TO THE TEE. When the fellas were coming up off the wall ideas on their path to wherever, we were "oh yea, you can do it", "how can I help??". When **** didn't work out it was "ok babe, lets figure out how we can make it better next time" "no prob babe, better luck next time", "don't worry about it, I got you".
But it was too easy.
Supportive chick came too easily. And we all think our respective fellas didn't work to keep us around because they never thought they HAD to. And not in a bad way - it's human nature. The path of least resistance. Why work hard for something you feel like you already have?? Why study for 6 hours when you think the 3 hours is going to get you that A??
We've all got friends who have got fellas jumping through HOOPS to take them out and be around them (and some take it too far - I've got a girl who always meets really nice, attractive, old fashioned fellas who bring small gifts to dates and what not - but always seems to end up single 2 months later).
We've got the "supportive" chick routine DOWN. Now it's time to learn how to play the "you've got to work for this" chick - the ECONOMIC chick. And by economic, I don't mean but that the rewards are a direct correlation of the effort. And I also don't mean taking it too extremes - because golddigging just ain't my style, but my unconditional support should be EARNED not given.
...and Supportive chick isn't going anywhere, she's just going to become a little harder to come by.
Am I the only one?!
:::breathe:::
Background: Me and my girls have all come out of 4+ year relationships (on again, off again types) within the past 6 months. No hard feelings, just disappointment at the fact that things didn't work out.
So we were all at dinner and you know what we realized - we played the roll of supportive chick TO THE TEE. When the fellas were coming up off the wall ideas on their path to wherever, we were "oh yea, you can do it", "how can I help??". When **** didn't work out it was "ok babe, lets figure out how we can make it better next time" "no prob babe, better luck next time", "don't worry about it, I got you".
But it was too easy.
Supportive chick came too easily. And we all think our respective fellas didn't work to keep us around because they never thought they HAD to. And not in a bad way - it's human nature. The path of least resistance. Why work hard for something you feel like you already have?? Why study for 6 hours when you think the 3 hours is going to get you that A??
We've all got friends who have got fellas jumping through HOOPS to take them out and be around them (and some take it too far - I've got a girl who always meets really nice, attractive, old fashioned fellas who bring small gifts to dates and what not - but always seems to end up single 2 months later).
We've got the "supportive" chick routine DOWN. Now it's time to learn how to play the "you've got to work for this" chick - the ECONOMIC chick. And by economic, I don't mean but that the rewards are a direct correlation of the effort. And I also don't mean taking it too extremes - because golddigging just ain't my style, but my unconditional support should be EARNED not given.
...and Supportive chick isn't going anywhere, she's just going to become a little harder to come by.
Am I the only one?!