First let me start this off by saying..my family is so friggin dsyfunctional and Im so f'd up in the head because of it. I grew up in a family where my religious fanatic Dad had all these ideas that a woman is suppose to be submissive to her man and he had all these Bible verses to back it up with.
My mother was never allowed to participate in major household decisions. Her opinion was not asked, she was told what to do and she did it. My dad fully furnished our house...he would go out and get whatever cheap furniture he could find my momma had no say in the matter. Granted she was a housewife for years..but I still feel like in a marraige both parties should have an opinion regardless of how much money they contribute.
My dad even brought a couple of houses and moved us to a totally new neighborhood without discussing it with my mom at all. He would just come home one day and be like...OH yeah we moving in two weeks.
Any questions or gripes we had were answered with I'm the man of the house and what I say goes..
My mom, a grown woman, couldn't watch certain shows or listen to her music if he deemed it not Godly. I remember her sneaking to watch certain shows when he was gone and we'd be her lookouts. I mean we spent everyday "walking on eggshells" and the only time we would truly be at peace was when he wasn't home. We were all terrified of him.
I understand him regulating his children..but to regulate what a grown woman did was just crazy. ....I love my mother and I know she stayed with my dad because she said she didn't want us to be on welfare and she was accustomed to a certain lifestyle. She sacrificed a lot for us...but at the same time, I would have rather been on welfare. I just felt like I had a really crazy childhood that I will never recover from.
I feel like I didn't grow up normal I was just wondering did anyone else grow up in a similar situation or know someone who did? Do you believe in a woman being submissive to her husband? And How do you define being submissive?
My mother was never allowed to participate in major household decisions. Her opinion was not asked, she was told what to do and she did it. My dad fully furnished our house...he would go out and get whatever cheap furniture he could find my momma had no say in the matter. Granted she was a housewife for years..but I still feel like in a marraige both parties should have an opinion regardless of how much money they contribute.
My dad even brought a couple of houses and moved us to a totally new neighborhood without discussing it with my mom at all. He would just come home one day and be like...OH yeah we moving in two weeks.
Any questions or gripes we had were answered with I'm the man of the house and what I say goes..
My mom, a grown woman, couldn't watch certain shows or listen to her music if he deemed it not Godly. I remember her sneaking to watch certain shows when he was gone and we'd be her lookouts. I mean we spent everyday "walking on eggshells" and the only time we would truly be at peace was when he wasn't home. We were all terrified of him.
I understand him regulating his children..but to regulate what a grown woman did was just crazy. ....I love my mother and I know she stayed with my dad because she said she didn't want us to be on welfare and she was accustomed to a certain lifestyle. She sacrificed a lot for us...but at the same time, I would have rather been on welfare. I just felt like I had a really crazy childhood that I will never recover from.
I feel like I didn't grow up normal I was just wondering did anyone else grow up in a similar situation or know someone who did? Do you believe in a woman being submissive to her husband? And How do you define being submissive?