Just trying to understand... Since getting married, DH tells me repeatedly that I really need to work on thinking before I speak. Sooo yesterday I said "stop grabbing my leg like that, you did it while we were jogging too and it hurt" but what I really meant was "I'm about to start my cycle and my skin is tender" so that was my next sentence. Not to mention
DH is heavy handed. So of course he gets upset, "Fine then I won't touch you at all!" flips over - goes to sleep on the other side of the bed (we usually spoon). Then this morning when I said "I would really like us to get along" he's like "You create these situations by not thinking before you speak so what do you expect?" (sigh) (He's kinda rude when he's angry, but is that rude to you? or am I sensitive?)
So I just apologized (cause I guess it was rude?) and reiterated what I meant and said sorry again.
But I really walk away thinking "Why can't you just forgive and forget without it being a big issue every 5 minutes - was it really the end of the world?". "Was it enough to make me lose sleep over and stress me out all night?"
Do you get what I mean?
So now I just basically don't feel like talking around him cause I THOUGHT I did think before I speak, but now I guess I don't with him and it seems like a humungous effort to learn this skill. I would love your opinion....and also if I'm wrong, what makes HIM right? I guess me being rude accidentally or something?
DH is heavy handed. So of course he gets upset, "Fine then I won't touch you at all!" flips over - goes to sleep on the other side of the bed (we usually spoon). Then this morning when I said "I would really like us to get along" he's like "You create these situations by not thinking before you speak so what do you expect?" (sigh) (He's kinda rude when he's angry, but is that rude to you? or am I sensitive?)
So I just apologized (cause I guess it was rude?) and reiterated what I meant and said sorry again.
But I really walk away thinking "Why can't you just forgive and forget without it being a big issue every 5 minutes - was it really the end of the world?". "Was it enough to make me lose sleep over and stress me out all night?"
Do you get what I mean?
So now I just basically don't feel like talking around him cause I THOUGHT I did think before I speak, but now I guess I don't with him and it seems like a humungous effort to learn this skill. I would love your opinion....and also if I'm wrong, what makes HIM right? I guess me being rude accidentally or something?