They want that old thang back....return of the EX!

[UniquelyDivine]

How many of you have dealt with or are currently dealing with this? Did you give him another chance? Toy with his head a little? Or did you tell that fool to kick rocks?

I've been through with my EX for about a year now but these last few days I have been getting weird messages from his friends encouraging me to "reach out and say hi" and to "not be afraid to see how ya boy is doing". erplexed

I know everybody's situation is different but I was just wondering how you ladies have handled situations such as these.

 

[Fine 4s]

Why did you all break up?

 

[yuhlovevybz]

I told him to find the nearest cliff and jump off of it. But not that nicely. I don't believe in second chances.

If it was a 'bad break up' no use coming back. People don't change. If it was just separation and nothing bad actually happened... idk. Personally I think the past belongs where it is for a reason.

 

[UniquelyDivine]

Fine 4s

Long story short he wasn't ready to be the man that I needed him to be.

@yuhlovevybz

I agree! I don't see the point in rehashing old pains and stresses.

 

[RocStar]

Move forward and don't look back.

 

[gabulldawg]

I don't see the point in going backwards at all. More than likely he hasn't really changed much, so unless you want to deal with the same issues then I'd say keep it moving.

 

[sherrimberri]

Dont look back. He is an ex for a reason. I ignore all my exes.

 

[NappyNelle]

First, he should be the one contacting YOU; not his raggedy friends.

Obviously, he's still not the man you needed him to be, so KIM.

Second, I am very wary of ex-boyfriends that did not break up amicably.

 

[Topsido]

He wants to give you part 2 of the BS he forgot to give you the first time around.

 

[hopeful]

First, he should be the one contacting YOU; not his raggedy friends.

Obviously, he's still not the man you needed him to be, so KIM.

Second, I am very wary of ex-boyfriends that did not break up amicably.

Completely agree with the bolded. No way in hell I'd reach out to him .

 

[BEAUTYU2U]

No advice but his friends are corny as hell.

 

[biznesswmn]

First thing that comes to mind is that he may need a friend. If you two had a friendship at all during the time you were together, he might be going thru somthg and his friends see you as sombdy who could help him ... Maybe?
Idk if u care to find out the truth.
If u know that he is playg around and sendg his friends to do his dirty work then he needs to grow up

 

[BlueEra]

I've had a few exes try to start things back up with me. I only gave one a chance, and I regret it. He never changed. I should've left well enough alone. I was really only trying to use him as a rebound, but the plan backfired on me. Never again. EVER.

Usually by the time I break up with a guy, there's not even enough attraction left in order for me to feel the desire to even want to try to be with them again. I'm friends with a few of them, but that's it.

 

[UniquelyDivine]

First, he should be the one contacting YOU; not his raggedy friends.

Obviously, he's still not the man you needed him to be, so KIM.

Second, I am very wary of ex-boyfriends that did not break up amicably.

Yep & Yep! But Im not at all surprised that he handled it in that manner though, I crushed his ego after we broke up so he is testing the waters in a "safe" way.

 

[Kindheart]

I told him to find the nearest cliff and jump off of it. But not that nicely. I don't believe in second chances.

If it was a 'bad break up' no use coming back. People don't change. If it was just separation and nothing bad actually happened... idk. Personally I think the past belongs where it is for a reason.

this ^^.There are so many options,why limit yourself to the one you already tested it's not good enough.