The Power of "Coloring" in Marriage...Even in Loveless Marriages

[Lady Esquire]

This is what I thought she was asking also.

I think it can. I know at different times during my marriage I haven't been into Dh but we still kept things going and I was able to fall in love again. This is why I'm not lead by my feelings. Feelings come and go, if you have everything else there I believe a marriage can work. I don't know people who like to admit it BUT I seriously doubt everybody likes/is love with there spouse every minute of their marriage. I know I don't.

This is me and DH too. I came into the marriage, after observing others' marriages, knowing that there will be an ebb and a flow. I enjoy the good times. I even appreciate the bad times, because I know they're temporal and the bad times are there to teach me something or force us to deal with somethings. And once that bad period is over, the next good period is even that much more enjoyable. So, for that reason, I don't understand the theory of holding the poonannie for ransom. You're not just hurting the man, but you're depriving yourself of pleasure, as a hostage also. Ask yourself, "how's this working for me?"