I think you're on to something...
I actually mix up my own Ayurvedic products about once/mth for the past 10 years.
I make an ayurvedic cleanser and that's what I use daily or every other day to cleanse my scalp and hair. It's 50% tea (not strained) made from Shikakai and Neem powders with horsetail and nettle, 40% cheapie condish, 10% peppermint castile soap and a few drops of lemon essential oil for scent.
I follow that with a leave in ayurvedic condish I make with 30% tea (not strained) made from Henna, Amla and Hibiscus, 60% cheapie condish and 10% carrier and essential oil mix.
So I guess you can say I primarily use ayurvedic glosses on my hair. In the shower, I cleanse my hair, slather on my condish and then throw it in a ponytail and then I'm done w my hair until my nighttime M&S session. And my hair is rarely NOT in mini braids/twists, a fact I was recently noticing in all of my family photos. lol So I do all of this in mini braids/twists with very minimal issues at take down/refresh time.
I don't use shampoo on my hair often either, only for a squeaky clean right before taking down my mini twist braids. The reason is bc I get buildup around my perimeter, only on the outermost row in my nape area and right around my ears. So I rub in shampoo on the base of my mini braids in those areas and then a little
on my scalp only for the rest of the hair. I think that helps to reduce meshing/tangling in the length of my hair bc I'm not using drying shampoo products directly on my hair. So my hair is usually also "coated."
ETA: So maybe the ladies who are having trouble washing while in mini braids/twists are using shampoos, whereas we're using clay/ayurvedic mixes to cleanse and not experiencing the same issues?